Victoria Fitzgibbon - Horse Constellations and Holistic Therapist

12/06/2026

08/06/2026

Rainy afternoon at my favourite coffee shop as a micro break during my two weeks uni intensive.
It’s funny how much a change of scenery can shift life’s energy.
I love what I’m learning and am passionate about my journey to my Social Worker ‘qualification’ but I find the class room environment hard - I always have. The competing conversations, fluorescent lights, new learnings, forced engagement.
Yet this isn’t my first university degree - I already hold a Bachelor Social Science and Grad Diploma Law AND I’ve spent years learning and growing in Equine Assisted Learning, Embodied Movement, Family Constellations, Mental Health, Counselling and so many more along the way.
It’s funny how we can do hard things when we are genuinely interested in things.

05/06/2026

Life is a choice.
Choose joy, no matter where you are in life

02/06/2026

Beautiful promise when working in partnership with horses

29/05/2026

In ‘da paddock sessions

19/05/2026

Just saying …

09/05/2026

Honouring the Mother

Regardless of whether our relationship with our mother was close, complicated, painful, nurturing, absent, loving or fractured… she remains our first connection to belonging, to life, to the lineage that came before us.

In Family Constellations, healing often begins when we stop resisting what was, and gently acknowledge:

“You are my mother. I am the child. Thank you for the gift of life.”

This does not mean excusing harm.It does not mean pretending everything was okay. It simply means making space for truth.

For some, Mother’s Day is joyful.
For others, it brings grief, longing, anger, confusion, or silence.
For many, it holds all of these at once.

Today I honour the Mothers who nurtured.
The mothers who struggled.
The single mothers, and the mothers who are engulfed by a village of supporters
The mothers who were never mothered themselves.
The women carrying invisible burdens through generations.
The mothers no longer here. The women longing to become mothers.
The mothers who no longer hold their children, and those who mother their nieces and nephews, and children birthed by another.

And I honour the courage it takes to look honestly at our family systems with compassion and love, and the energy to mother your own younger version of you.

Sometimes, the deepest healing is not found in changing the past — but in finally seeing it clearly, and allowing our hearts to soften around what is.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the women holding life in seen and unseen ways

27/04/2026

Attachment styles are fairly critical component of how we show up in the world.

Can they be adjusted - sure
Are we stuck with the style for life - not necessarily

It’s a way of knowing, and as humans with free will we can choose different ways to show up also

This is one of the most important things to understand about your relationship:

It’s not just what happened…
it’s the meaning your nervous system makes of what happened.

19/04/2026

Let’s talk Toxicity … now don’t get me wrong -
Life is beautiful — and I’ve worked hard to create a life I don’t need to escape from.

I genuinely love spending time with my people, on my land, with my four legged ones and supporting my community.

And still…
there are moments where toxicity lingers on the outskirts of life — like the residue of an oil spill.

Sometimes it seeps in.
And I’ve slipped. Hard.
Flat on my a$$ kind of hard.

And it takes a moment to find your feet again when this happens.

When I talk about toxicity, I’m not talking about “difficult personalities” or everyday differences.

I’m talking about patterns.

People who are so deeply insecure that they build themselves up by pulling others down.
People who don’t work ‘with’ differences — they distort them.
They fabricate, manipulate, and take power trips at the expense of others.

And in doing so… they show you exactly who they are.

I’ve come to understand that underneath these behaviours is often something unspoken:

– Their insecurity that turns curiosity into threat
– Their fragile identity that reacts with hostility instead of reflection
– Their loneliness that interferes with other people’s connections
– Their pain that tries to recruit others into it

But understanding this doesn’t mean tolerating it.

Let me say that again:
“Understanding behaviour does not mean you have to stay available for it”

You can have compassion and boundaries.
You can see the wound and refuse the behaviour.
You can step away without needing to prove anything.

Because here’s the truth — toxicity doesn’t just impact a moment… it impacts your nervous system, your safety, your sense of self.

And that matters.

These days, I’m less interested in explaining myself to people committed to misunderstanding me.
And more interested in protecting the life I’ve intentionally built.

The one that feels grounded.
The one that feels safe.
The one that feels like mine.

Not everything deserves access to what you have built.