19/06/2026
"You’re beating yourself up for “taking so long” without realizing you needed every single year it took to get here.
*Truly* seeing your parents, and what happened to you growing up, means recognizing a profound loss.
It means grieving the childhood you did not get.
Realizing how long you blamed yourself.
Accepting that the people you depended on could not fully show up for you emotionally.
And for adult children of emotionally immature parents, that realization would have been too destabilizing earlier in life. So the psyche protects itself by rationing the truth slowly.
That is why it still haunts you now. And it’s why it takes so long to move through it.
Your psyche was doing exactly what it was built to do, rationing the truth at a pace you could survive."
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