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I just LOVED this book - Group by Christie Tate. It reminds me why group therapy can be so profoundly healing.One of the...
11/05/2026

I just LOVED this book - Group by Christie Tate. It reminds me why group therapy can be so profoundly healing.

One of the things I loved most about the book was how honestly she captured the terror of being truly seen by others.

Not intellectually understood
but emotionally seen.

For many people with attachment wounds or relational trauma, group can initially feel confronting.

Parts may arise that want to:
withdraw
perform
people please
stay guarded
compare
or avoid vulnerability altogether.

And yet
these are often the exact patterns that need healing. Because so much of our wounding happened in relationship. And often, the deepest healing also happens in relationship.

What Christie Tate captures so beautifully is that group therapy isn’t just about “talking about your problems.”

It’s about slowly discovering:
Can I be more real here?
Can I stay connected when uncomfortable feelings arise?
Can I let myself be seen without abandoning myself?

Over time, something begins to change.
You realise the thing you feared would disconnect you from others is often the very thing that creates connection.

This is part of why I care so deeply about relational healing and group work.

Not because it’s always comfortable.
But because it can be deeply transformative.

I have 2 spot left in the next group - if you are interested, click the link in the bio:

https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/ifs-therapy-group-registration

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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You might recognise yourself in one of these:Feeling anxious, needing reassurance, and getting activated easily.Or pulli...
06/05/2026

You might recognise yourself in one of these:

Feeling anxious, needing reassurance, and getting activated easily.
Or pulling away, shutting down, and finding closeness overwhelming.

And often
 it’s not that you don’t understand why.

It’s that the pattern still plays out anyway.

This is where group work can be powerful.

Because these patterns don’t just live in your thoughts, they live in your nervous system, and in how you relate to others in real time.

In this small, IFS-informed group, we gently explore what shows up as it’s happening


The parts that move toward connection,
the parts that pull away,
and the parts that work hard to protect you.

This is not about being exposed or pushed.

It’s about creating enough safety that something new can begin to emerge.

The group begins next week, and there are 2 places remaining.

There’s a short application and a 20-minute call with me beforehand to make sure it’s the right fit for you.

If it feels like a quiet yes, you’re very welcome.

Link in bio.

Love, Jen đŸȘ·
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I have to smile at how long it took me to stop and get curious.This feels a little vulnerable to share, but I trust it w...
27/04/2026

I have to smile at how long it took me to stop and get curious.

This feels a little vulnerable to share, but I trust it will land with the person who needs it.

Have you ever noticed your body holding something that wasn’t just physical?

Sending love from India,

Jen đŸȘ·

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20/04/2026

So many of the reactions you have in relationships make sense when you understand where they come from.

What can feel overwhelming or confusing is often a younger part of you trying to protect you from an old wound.

This is emotional time-travelling.

And when you start to notice it, instead of judging it, everything begins to change.

This part does not need to be fixed. It needs to be understood.

That is where healing begins.

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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This is a dynamic I see so often in my work with couples.Over time, one partner begins to withdraw emotionally. Communic...
17/04/2026

This is a dynamic I see so often in my work with couples.

Over time, one partner begins to withdraw emotionally. Communication reduces, responsiveness drops, and there’s a subtle, or sometimes not so subtle, pulling away.

The other partner feels that shift. And understandably, they move toward connection. They ask more questions, seek reassurance, and try to close the gap.

But when those bids for connection aren’t met, something changes. The pursuit intensifies. The tone shifts. Reactions come out that don’t feel aligned with who they want to be. And afterwards, there’s often shame.

At the same time, the withdrawing partner starts to make sense of those reactions in a particular way. They see the escalation, but not always the pain underneath it. So they step back even more. And just like that, the cycle reinforces itself.

What’s important to understand is that this isn’t about one person being “too much” or the other being “emotionally unavailable.” This is an attachment pattern. And it makes sense.
The escalation is a protest for connection. The withdrawal is a protection from overwhelm.

But without intervention, this loop can go on for years, leaving both people feeling alone, misunderstood, and stuck. This is exactly the kind of pattern that Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) and parts work can help to shift.
When each partner begins to see the vulnerability beneath the behaviour, in themselves and in each other, something softens. And that’s where real change begins.

Have you noticed this pattern in your own relationship?

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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The older I get, the more I see how much my private life shapes everything.The small, quiet things I do each day matter ...
15/04/2026

The older I get, the more I see how much my private life shapes everything.

The small, quiet things I do each day matter more than anything I show publicly.

Reading.
Yoga.
Walking every day.
Meditating.
Eating food that nourishes me.
Getting to sleep before 10 pm.
Calling the people I love and staying connected.

None of it is flashy, but all of it adds up.

And what I notice is, the more aligned I am between my private world and my public one, the more settled and genuinely happy I feel.

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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In my one-on-one sessions, people often apologise for “dumping” everything in the first 10 minutes.But that’s exactly wh...
15/04/2026

In my one-on-one sessions, people often apologise for “dumping” everything in the first 10 minutes.

But that’s exactly what I want. Therapy is the place for the unfiltered version of you. The messy, honest, unedited truth.

And the same is true in my relationships. I want what’s real. You don’t have to hold it all together here.

You get to be you.

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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04/04/2026

One of the best days of my life.

1) chat in the car
2) hike the most beautiful mountains and chat the whole way
3) laugh my head off at how much like a psychotherapist my daughter is at 15 years old. (I have her permission to post this 👍)
4) hot chai and home made almond cake at the lookout
5) out for the best dinner & live music
6) they sang Cheek to Cheek by Ella Fitzgerald & Louis Armstrong
our first dance at our wedding đŸ„°
7) yoga stretches before bed
8) reason
9) deep sleep

Treasuring these special days with my daughter. 😍

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There is often a part of you that keeps returning to the same memory, the same feeling, the same story. And it can feel ...
03/04/2026

There is often a part of you that keeps returning to the same memory, the same feeling, the same story. And it can feel frustrating. You might wish it would just stop.

But when we look through a parts lens, this part makes sense. It is trying to protect you.

By replaying what happened, it is attempting to prevent it from happening again.
By holding onto the pain, it is making sure you don’t ignore something important.

It is not trying to keep you stuck. It is trying to keep you safe.

And when you meet it with understanding instead of force, something begins to soften.

Because safety doesn’t come from pushing parts away. It comes from building a relationship with them.

This is how inner secure attachment begins.

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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If your mind keeps going back to something painful, it can feel exhausting. You might wonder why you can’t just let it g...
02/04/2026

If your mind keeps going back to something painful, it can feel exhausting. You might wonder why you can’t just let it go.

But what I see in therapy is that this isn’t weakness. It’s a part of you still trying to process, understand, or protect.

When something was overwhelming, confusing, or hurtful, your system doesn’t just file it away and move on. It keeps bringing it back, hoping that this time, it will be met differently.

With more awareness.
More support.
More capacity.

Instead of trying to shut it down, what would it be like to get curious? To gently ask, “What is this part still needing?”

This is often where healing begins.

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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