09/09/2026
You can understand your patterns perfectly but you still keep repeating them?
You know you’re overthinking.
You know you’re people pleasing.
You know you’re holding yourself to impossible standards.
You know you need to slow down….
Because, uh burn out is looming??! 💥
You may even know exactly where some of your crappy patterns come from.
And yet, in the moment, the same response kicks in.
You know it inside and out because you’ve talked it through black and blue with your therapist - and that’s valuable — but you’re realising that insight alone doesn’t always change an automatic pattern.
So much of what we do happens before we’ve consciously decided to do it.
The need to get it right.
The guilt when you say no.
The urge to keep everyone happy.
The inability to switch off when there’s still something left undone.
This is why I’m so interested in subconscious work.
Babe, you don’t need another strategy for becoming better at managing yourself.
What you need to do is figure out the patterns that are quietly consuming enormous amounts of your mental and emotional capacity.
When those patterns begin to change, you don’t necessarily become more capable.
You simply have more of yourself available.
More capacity. More choice. More freedom.
Reach out. I got you.