Natalie Ryan Hebert

Natalie Ryan Hebert Healing heart, mind and soul guiding you to expand into all your were born to be

Management and prevention of stress using the MINDStrain method which is based on metacognitive therapy.

I often say we are far more perfectly matched with our partners than we realise.I mean that the dynamics we create with ...
31/08/2026

I often say we are far more perfectly matched with our partners than we realise.

I mean that the dynamics we create with another person can reveal where our own patterns are running.

Sometimes we don’t simply attract what we fear.

We can actually create what we fear.

If you fear abandonment, you might cling when your partner takes space.

You need reassurance. You reach out again. You want to know everything is okay.

Your partner feels pressured and pulls away.

Now you’re getting exactly what you feared.

They become more distant. You become more anxious. Each person’s behaviour reinforces the other’s.

Or perhaps you fear disappointing people, so you become incredibly accommodating. You give more, do more, carry more.

Over time, your partner becomes more expectant.

You become resentful.

And suddenly you’re living out the belief:

If I’m going to be loved, I have to earn it.

Or maybe trust is difficult.

You check his phone. You ask questions that sound like interest but are really about reassurance.

Your partner feels watched and becomes more private or defensive.

Which makes you trust them even less.

And around you go.

Every relationship has a dance to it.

Susan Johnson calls one version of this dance The Protest Polka in her book Hold Me Tight.

Change your dance moves, and the dynamic can change.

Because underneath the arguments, resentment, anxiety and disconnection, there is often something scared and vulnerable asking:

Am I lovable?
Am I enough?
Do I matter?

Without realising it, you may be asking your partner to answer these questions for you.

You need them to choose you so you can feel worthy.

You need them to reassure you so you can feel safe.

You need them to desire you so you can feel enough.

And somewhere along the way, you may have learned to look outside yourself for the love and validation you stopped giving yourself.

The relationship becomes a mirror.

An opportunity to see where you have abandoned yourself.

And an invitation to come back.

So the next time you’re upset with your partner, ask yourself:

What am I making this mean?

That question can take you somewhere much deeper than What did they do wrong?

This week, two clients came back to work with me after several years.I always love this. There’s something really specia...
26/08/2026

This week, two clients came back to work with me after several years.

I always love this. There’s something really special about seeing someone again after a few years and hearing how much their life has changed. They tell me they feel like a completely different person, more themselves, more confident, more connected to who they really are.

And then a new season of life comes along and something gets stuck.

Usually they’ve already tried to work it out themselves. They’ve journalled, talked to friends, thought about it from every possible angle. I’m exactly the same.

But sometimes you reach a point where you understand the problem, yet you still can’t seem to change it.

That’s often because the thing keeping you stuck isn’t happening at a conscious level.

The beliefs underneath our patterns were usually formed for a reason. At some point they helped us feel safe, cope, belong or protect ourselves. But what once helped us can eventually become the thing that limits us.

This is what I love about RTT. We go underneath the surface to find the beliefs and experiences driving the pattern, rather than simply trying to manage the behaviour.

And when that deeper belief changes, the effects can ripple through everything else. The way you see yourself. The choices you make. Your relationships. Your confidence. What you believe is possible for you.

Carl Jung said:

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

You don’t have to accept the trajectory you’ve been given.

You can change it.

I’m opening 30-day RTT sessions for new and returning clients.

If there’s something you’ve been trying to change for a while and you keep finding yourself back in the same place, maybe it’s time to look underneath it.

Book your session via the link in my bio.

Have you ever noticed that your child’s behaviour triggers something much bigger in you than the situation itself?Maybe ...
31/07/2026

Have you ever noticed that your child’s behaviour triggers something much bigger in you than the situation itself?

Maybe your child is being defiant, emotional, withdrawn, messy, anxious, or demanding, and suddenly you feel anger, guilt, frustration, or even a sense of failure.

You might find yourself thinking:

“Why does this affect me so much?”
“Why can’t I stay calm?”
“Why do I react in ways I don’t want to?”

Like so many relationships, our children become mirrors. They bring our deepest patterns to the surface.

This is sometimes called developmental mirroring. Our children can activate the parts of us that were shaped in our own childhood: the need to be perfect, the fear of getting things wrong, the belief that we have to earn love, the feeling that we are responsible for everyone else’s emotions.

The moments that trigger us point towards something that needs healing within us.

This is where Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) can help.

RTT works by exploring the beliefs and emotional patterns held in the subconscious mind. Together, we identify where these patterns began, release what is being triggered and create new ways of responding.

We may never be perfect parents but we can become more conscious ones.

Parents who can pause instead of react, who can stay connected even during conflict, who can meet their child with compassion while also offering themselves the same compassion.

If you notice the same reactions, conflicts, or emotional patterns repeating in your relationships, working with me can help you understand where they come from and create a different way forward.

Sessions available from mid August. Send me a message to learn more.

Woke up to this wonderful testimonial 🦋❤️Before coming to Natalie I was more anxious than I even realised. Constantly ti...
23/07/2026

Woke up to this wonderful testimonial 🦋❤️

Before coming to Natalie I was more anxious than I even realised.

Constantly tight in the stomach and solar plexus, constantly terrified to voice my own thoughts, feelings & opinions. It is only now, looking back, that I realise how hindering this has been my whole life.

Natalie’s session was nothing short of magical - confronting but in the most wonderful way! It is a difficult process to go through, but the rewards far outweigh the challenge.

Since the session, I have felt virtually no anxiety at all which is an entirely new state of normal for me. I am making clear decisions, looking forward and making plans, I no longer feel overwhelmed on a daily basis.

My relationship has also benefited - my partner is so loving and looking to help me all the time.

I am now able to let all of this in, turns out he has been wanting to give it to me all along! Immediately after my session he was commenting almost on a daily basis on how different I look, how I no longer look like I’m running to the next thing, but am now present and attentive.

The relief of knowing & understanding that working harder and harder is not the key is beyond words. THANK YOU NATALIE FOR GIVING ME ME.

RTT client, Australia

Could you use this kind of transformation in your life? I have limited spots to work with me in August. Just DM me with “more info on RTT” and I’ll send the info over to you. Wherever you are, we can work together with the wonders of Zoom.

Have you ever found yourself thinking:“Why do I keep ending up in the same kind of relationship?”“Why do I react this wa...
09/07/2026

Have you ever found yourself thinking:

“Why do I keep ending up in the same kind of relationship?”
“Why do I react this way when I know better?”
“Why does the person I love trigger me more than anyone else?”

It’s easy to conclude you’re with the wrong person.

But often, the person you are most attracted to is the person who activates your deepest emotional wounds. The confusing part is that it rarely feels that obvious.

You may notice patterns like:

• Choosing emotionally unavailable partners
• Overgiving, overfunctioning or losing yourself trying to make it work
• Feeling bad or “too much” for having needs
• Becoming anxious when someone pulls away
• Shutting down or becoming defensive during conflict
• Having the same arguments again and again

These patterns are driven by subconscious beliefs and emotional strategies developed long before this relationship.

Your relationship is not just showing you who your partner is. It is showing you where old wounds, fears and survival patterns are still influencing you.

Until those patterns are brought into awareness and transformed, they often repeat, even with a different person.

This is where hypnotherapy and coaching can help.

Together we will work to:

✨ Identify the beliefs shaping your relationship patterns
✨ Understand your emotional triggers
✨ Release old programming that no longer serves you
✨ Build stronger self-worth and boundaries
✨ Create new ways of relating from choice rather than old conditioning

Let me be clear. This is not about blaming yourself or your partner.

It’s about owning your patterns so you can stop repeating them.

I’m opening five spaces from August for The Relationship Pattern Transformation Package:

• 3 RTT hypnosis sessions
• 3 relationship coaching sessions
• Personalised subconscious reprogramming audios
• Support between sessions

If this feels familiar, send me a DM. Tell me what pattern you’ve been noticing, and we can have a short conversation to see whether this is something I can help you with.

Natalie

Sometimes what we think is strength is actually protection.A person can appear powerful, confident, independent, success...
18/05/2026

Sometimes what we think is strength is actually protection.
A person can appear powerful, confident, independent, successful, spiritual, endlessly giving - and yet underneath all of it may be fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of being exposed. Fear of not being enough.

The behaviour looks strong on the outside, but if it’s driven by defence, then it’s organised around vulnerability.

Control is a good example. Someone may micromanage relationships, conversations, work, or family dynamics. It can look like leadership, but underneath is often someone who feels deeply unsafe without control.

The same happens with intellectualising. Some people can analyse emotions brilliantly, understand psychology or spirituality deeply, yet struggle to actually feel. Thinking becomes armour.

Even being “the nice person” can be protective. Endless accommodating, understanding, forgiving - because conflict or disappointing others feels dangerous.

Hyper-independence is another. “I don’t need anyone.” Often this develops in people who learned early that relying on others led to pain, abandonment, or shame.

You also see it in constant achievement. Some people never stop striving because slowing down would bring them face to face with emotions they’ve spent years outrunning.

And anger is often far more vulnerable underneath than people realise. Beneath criticism, defensiveness, or aggression is often hurt, grief, fear, or powerlessness.

Defences are not bad. At some point they protected us emotionally. But eventually the coping mechanism that once protected us can become a prison.

Real strength has humility in it.

My gift and expertise is in identifying the unconscious survival strategies that once kept you safe but may now be limiting your relationships, creativity, leadership, intimacy, joy, and authenticity.

Then we begin restructuring them at the subconscious / nervous system level, so you can stop living from survival and start living from who you actually are beneath the defence.

True power is not control, perfectionism, performance, or self-protection.
True power is authenticity.

If this speaks to you, get in touch.

Midlife Crisis: The point of no return 👇🏻I don’t think most midlife crises are actually crises.I think they’re the momen...
09/05/2026

Midlife Crisis: The point of no return 👇🏻

I don’t think most midlife crises are actually crises.

I think they’re the moment the soul can no longer tolerate living inside a structure built from fear.

Most coping mechanisms begin as protection against shame, fear, rejection, or feelings of not being enough.

So we adapt.

We become high-achieving.
Easy-going.
People-pleasing.
Hyper-independent.
Controlling.
Over-functioning.

And for a while, it works.

We receive approval.
Love.
Safety.
Belonging.

But eventually, the protection becomes the prison.

Like a hermit crab shell, what once protected you starts crushing you once you’ve outgrown it.

So the successful career suddenly feels empty.
Your energy disappears.
Burnout arrives.
Perimenopause hits.
Your relationship starts cracking.
You fantasise about another life.
You stop recognising yourself.

The ego interprets this as failure.

I don’t think it’s failure at all.

I think it’s the moment the soul refuses to abandon itself any longer.

This is often the point where people come to work with me because something inside them knows the old way of living is no longer sustainable.

And when those false structures begin falling away, something unexpected often returns:

Energy.
Creativity.
Desire.
Aliveness.

If this resonates, DM me and tell me where you’re at.

We all have something inside us that wants to come into the world through us. But many ideas, starting as inspiration, g...
01/05/2026

We all have something inside us that wants to come into the world through us. But many ideas, starting as inspiration, get held back by doubt, and never fully take shape.

I often see people living inside versions of life that feel too small. A job that drains them, a relationship that doesn’t feel alive, or simply a quiet sense of holding back. Usually because fear is stronger than trust in what they feel called toward.

I understand that. And I also know how different life feels when you are in creative flow, where ideas move through you and start becoming real.

What I care about most is helping people move through creative stagnation so their ideas, work, or next chapter can actually come through. Much like actual birth, which I know a bit about as a mother of four, it can ask a lot of you. Having support through it can make the process clearer, steadier, and less overwhelming.

Whether it is a business idea, an artistic direction, or a different way of living, I help clear what is in the way so there is more space for movement, clarity, and action.

Walk With Me is a one-to-one process shaped around you.

We begin with a 30 minute conversation to understand where you are and where you want to go. From there, I create a tailored structure that can include WhatsApp and voice note support, conversational hypnosis, and Rapid Transformational Therapy.

The focus is on shifting old patterns and internal narratives so you are not constantly pulled back into familiar ground that no longer fits what you want.

If this resonates, you can DM me and we can take it from there.

I want to share with you this testimonial from my client Peter, who I’ve worked with for over two years. Though just one...
27/04/2026

I want to share with you this testimonial from my client Peter, who I’ve worked with for over two years. Though just one session can indeed be life-changing, working with me over a longer period brings returns and gains that are exponential over time. You can never see or predict when you first begin who you can become when you have someone holding a space for you, calling you higher, reflecting back the best in you, questioning, helping you question your doubts and your fears, bringing those fears and doubts to the light of your conscious awareness from the shadows.

I’m so proud of Peter and the man he has become… in so many ways. His work has paid off in his life in countless wonderful ways.

“When I started working with Natalie, I felt overwhelmed by emotions that had surfaced after a lifetime of avoidance and the pursuit of external validation. I was caught in cycles of seeking validation through relationships - only to lose myself in work once I felt secure, and then find that none of it mattered when the relationship became unstable.

The consistency of her support was invaluable, and our WhatsApp communication became like a living diary - reflecting my experiences back to me with compassion while gently shining a light on false beliefs. The RTT work helped me reconnect with and nurture my inner child, allowing me to reframe patterns I had carried for years. Through ACH, I developed a deeper conscious awareness of these beliefs and was able to untangle them at the root.

Through my work with Natalie, I’ve been able to heal insecure attachment patterns, free myself from people-pleasing and the need to be “nice,” and become increasingly rooted in my own truth and purpose. I’ve learned to be a more grounded and compassionate observer of myself, and I now move more from a place of fullness and alignment rather than from lack”.

I tailor these Walk With Me packages to each client. Reach out over DM if you’d like to hear more. Minimum containers of three months.

I see this pattern all the time in my work:Self-punishment.It shows up as over-giving, overworking, never quite letting ...
16/04/2026

I see this pattern all the time in my work:

Self-punishment.

It shows up as over-giving, overworking, never quite letting yourself rest.
Feeling guilty for slowing down.
Even pleasure can feel like something you have to justify.

Underneath it, there is often a belief:
something about me is bad.

Not always conscious.
Not always logical.
But it is there.

And where there is guilt, there is often a fear of punishment.
Like something is going to catch up with you.
So you try to stay ahead of it.
By doing more. Being more. Giving more.

Trying to make up for something you cannot even name.

Most of the time, this begins in childhood.

Being punished for things you did not understand.
Being made responsible for things that were never yours.
Growing up in environments where how things looked mattered more than how you felt.

So you learned to be “good.”
To perform.
To earn love.

But that is not who you are.
It is something you learned.

And it can be unlearned.

I have worked with this pattern hundreds of times.
Helping people step out of the “good girl / good boy” role
and reconnect with their own inner compass.

There is often a fear that if you were truly yourself, you would get it wrong.

In reality, that inner compass is the safest place to live from.

You do not have to earn love.
You do not have to prove your worth.
It is already there.

If this resonates, I have sessions available this month.

Send me a message if you are ready to step out of the cage
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