Jessie M

02/02/2025

While it's been said by many I'm sure, this one came direct from an amazing client as she crystalised for herself the next right step to honour her preferences and her capacity.

While sometimes it's appropriate to pause, consider and wait on wise timing; if its time to act, consider the consequences if you don't.

Whether the action step is big, small, towards or away even if it's hard, inaction may be harder.

What if a brave step towards change now, avoids a chaotic tumble later.

You get to choose your hard. And sometimes the hardest and first step is choosing to face the reality that for life to be sustainable (inside and out), something has to change.

If you're feeling stuck in chaos or confusion, perhaps the first step is reaching out. Use this link if you'd like a free chat. 💗https://calendly.com/jessiemcoaching/letschatheretohelp

01/05/2024

I've got a topic I've been developing over the last 12 months that I'm bursting to share with you!!

It's around "How To Handle Tough Realities"

There are so many layers to life and ourselves. And there's so many different versions of the "tough stuff" across the wonderful women I work with, and so many different ways we tackle and work through the layers specific to them!

However, what has become crystal clear is that this is one coaching model has been absolutely and consistently critical across the board to help women move forward through their version of "Tough Realities" instead of getting stuck for too long in patterns of overwhelm, fear, distractions or numbing out.

These 4 simple to follow steps when learnt and applied properly bring about life changing outcomes everytime! And most people have no idea about the steps, how to identify when they're needed (more often then you'd think), and the critical order in which they need to be worked through.

So, it's time! 2 hour workshop at Nest Chiro Clinic, for Free. Thursday 16th May 6.30pm

What we will learn together
💗A simple to follow, 4 step model, that will guide you through the tough stuff.
💗A list of real life examples of when and why to apply them.
💗An approach that helps you to move forward again with purpose, clarity and care.
💗Bonus topics that will help you navigate any sticking points that may pop up throughout the process.

If you're in, comment the words I AM IN and I will get you registered ❤

02/04/2024

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10/11/2023

Are you a gift person?

Oh, how wonderful it is to unwrap and become aware of the filters and variables that make us, us!...🎁

You know that brekky cereal tv ad where the little boy is practising his skateboard trick over and over and stacking it every time with Mum watching discreetly from the kitchen window?! I love the look on Mums face when he lands it for the first time... they both give out a cheer.... but Mums cheer seems to come from a different place....

like she's celebrating for her son because it was his first reference point of success for that very cool trick, but from a place that she KNEW that he would get it!

She KNEW it was already within him. She knew it was just a case of time, learning a new thing, practice, a strong desire for the outcome, physical and neural development and perseverance.

Imagine if he got frustrated with himself and gave up, before he'd learnt and practiced enough to uncover and connect with that, new, amazing, fun expression of himself?

We're no different!

We do things the way we do things, reactions and all, because of all the filters below and more.

What outcome do you desire? Do you want to stay in the frustrating loop of stacking it?

While there's a place for failing, we only have so much skin on our knees!

The best gift to unwrap is the wonderful things that make us, us!

When we desire to learn about the filters and variables, resist the frustration, and choose to practice different ways to go about it.... our physical and neural connections develop... and one day, you'll nail it!

That thing that you used to react to, everytime, even if you didn't want to, like you're on automatic pilot!

That day, when you respond THROUGH these filters and variables rather than in ignorance of them.... Landing the "trick", connecting the dots of all you've learnt and processed and let out a cheer for that new, amazing expression of yourself! Skin in tact!

Oh what a wonderful win, that becomes possible after we begin to unwrap the gift of awareness that keeps on giving, over and over again.

Book a free chat if you wanna know where to start.

🛹🙌🎁

https://calendly.com/jessiemcoaching/letschatheretohelp?fbclid=IwAR2iLiJR1_LtiecprmbWgdGViiiASmcVKGlnycGuHXegqxDeLifcwhQasfg&month=2023-11

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27/05/2023

Ever doubted yourself after speaking up?

Or perhaps, it's how many times have you doubted yourself this week? You're not alone, I hear it constantly from friends, patients and clients and catch myself doing it too.

So, a word of encouragement for you around this...

✨It's OK to speak up!
And a sign that you value the relationship, you care about its success.

✨It's OK to check in!
It's a sign of humility to reflect on how it went. Trick is to do it with kindness and self compassion, coupled with the responsibility to do better next time if there was room for improvemnt.

✨It's OK to not be perfect at it!
For most of us speaking up is an acquired skill. There's no shame in not being great at it at the start!

✨It's OK to ruffle some feathers along the way!
Some dance routines are well rehearsed and when you make a different move the other dancers might be taken a back at first.

✨It's OK to have uncomfortable feelings before, during or after!
Feelings of guilt, shame, sadness, anger, disappointment, grief, despair... while these feelings are normal and nothing to beat yourself up about, they can be a sign that there are other things at play anchoring you to the same stress response, the same dance with others and the same outcomes.

✨It's OK to get help!
Ever feel like your doomed if you do and your doomed if you don't? Well, that's a big deal! The negative effects on our mental, emotional and physical health from this repetition of even "small" stresses or feeling stuck in the same cycle can be devastating.

✨We don't know what we don't know, and that's OK too!
For me, helping women break through ceilings, and navigate these scenarios with a greater sense of calm, congruence and to feel more OK within themselves, is the most fulfilling thing I do (and I do a lot).

Speaking up without the doubt and guilt is acheivable! Anyone can do it! There are no prerequisites, nothing that disqualifies you from a healthier, calmer and more honest version of you.

I hope this helps you feel better about the last time you spoke up and the next! If you need support, book in (link is in the comments) I'd love to chat. 💞

14/02/2023

Needs with grace...💛

09/12/2022

08/09/2022

Heard this from Remi live today.... rings true for me! Comment below if it rings true for you too! 💗🙌👇

24/07/2022

A boundary is an invitation not a barrier...
.. before we can send the invite we need to know what we're inviting people to .... and who around us will receive one and when.

Boundaries are a beautiful invitation of mutual be-ing ness.

Where you can show up as ALL of you (the real you) and hold space for others to be ALL of them. Knowing that if required you will offer a gentle nudge if anything gets out of alignment, trusting that they will do the same.

Boundaries are an invitation for us to operate in truth and trust in and for ourselves. With the goal of the "party" to cultivate authentic connections without the weight of wearing a mask or trying to connect through the mask of another.

With this level of awareness and intent, we can then get real and keep things clear; just like putting the "Send to" address on the postal envelope and putting the precious "invite details" on the inside.

As Brene Brown says, "Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind."

We can only receive what we send. It's up to us to ensure that we're sending our invites with the correct info, a truthful message, to the right people in the appropriate timing that aligns with how we want the "party" to play out.

The responsilbity for the quality of our connections & choices in our life ..... Is Ours!

When we accept and express the real us with honesty, compassion, trust and clarity (firstly with ourselves), we have the building blocks for healthy boundaries, relationships and life as it was intended.

A life not of fear and separation, but of love and authentic connection with ease and flow.

19/07/2022

I LOVE this, but my gosh its hard to know what to do with it at times.

The very nature of protection is an extinct, often an automatic one to protect us from being hurt. Often from the same thing over, and over again.

We get moments of pain relief when we start to reveal and separate what is real about ourselves, from what is an automatic response to a conditioned pattern.

I don't know about you but I've needed alot of help with this one. I just can't seem to do that assessing and separating myself. And even if I try I end up doubting my conclusions. Just like trying to assess the biomechanics of my own low back to find the underlying source of a pain, I just can't see, feel and know what is going on, without a proper assessment from someone skilled in that area who can reach and see what I can't reach and see.

If you find yourself in protection mode I encourage you to break the cycle of suffering and pain, surrender and stop trying to do it all by yourself.

By all means, learn, become aware but also seek help from someone with the skill set to really assess (listen), and give you answers to any underlying causes of your pain that you can't yet access or see for yourself.💞