19/06/2026
Sometimes a kiddo who is “refusing” to poo on the toilet isn’t actually refusing at all.
In the work I do with families, this can be quite common. There are often lots of layers underneath refusal.. and it’s not often what you think it is..
They may not feel the urge clearly.
They may associate pooing with pain.
They may feel physically unsafe or unsupported on the toilet.
They may be using so much effort just to balance that relaxing enough to poo feels impossible.
My job is to unravel this with families, to look at how the body is working, understand why things are happening, and put a realistic plan in place to move forward.
Sometimes that involves a team, like an OT, psychologist or physio. Sometimes we can work through it together without needing extra supports.
Either way, I am passionate about supporting families all the way to their goal.
I often tell families that this can be a long-term relationship. These challenges can take time to fully resolve, but I’ll be there to support, problem-solve and adjust the plan each step of the way.
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