08/06/2026
Even as a practitioner, I believe in continuing my own healing and growth work. This past month I have been working on the program that was running, unbeknownst to me, in the background. I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH. This belief was a huge obstacle in aligning myself with the future I am creating for myself.
What begins as an experience or moment in time can eventually become an identity we carry for years because of the story we create around what did or didn’t happen.
For instance, as a child, if I didn’t receive the attention or emotional connection I needed because a parent was busy, distracted or overwhelmed, I may unconsciously make that mean something about me.
A child may internalise that experience as “I am not important.” I am not lovable.”I am not good enough.”
To the adult mind, the moment may seem small or insignificant, but to an unregulated nervous system, especially as a child, those moments can feel very big emotionally and can eventually become deeply rooted beliefs.
Over time, we begin living from those beliefs without even realising it.
Do you recognise any of these behaviours or beliefs in yourself? Sometimes it is really hard to look at yourself and be totally vulnerable and honest. Allowing the ego to step aside and the heart to answer these questions is honestly so rewarding. It’s a very extensive list!
SIGNS YOU MAY BE RUNNING THE PROGRAM:I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH”
* People pleasing
* Over-giving or overhelping
* Difficulty receiving support
* Seeking validation or approval from others
* Fear of rejection or abandonment
* Perfectionism
* Feeling like you always need to prove yourself
* Struggling to set boundaries
* Feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions
* Over-explaining yourself
* Fear of being seen or visible
* Playing small despite your gifts
* Self-sabotage when things begin going well
* Difficulty charging for your services
* Comparing yourself to others
* Feeling uncomfortable being fully authentic
* Attracting one-sided relationships
* Fear of conflict or disappointing others
* Burnout from constantly trying to “earn” love or worthiness
* Feeling like you are never quite enough no matter how much you achieve
* Doubting your intuition or inner knowing
* Giving your power away to authority figures
* Feeling guilty resting or prioritising yourself
* Staying in situations that no longer align because of fear or unworthiness
* Feeling unseen, unheard or undervalued
* Hyper-independence because asking for help feels unsafe
* Anxiety around making mistakes
* Feeling like you have to constantly improve yourself before being worthy
WHAT AUTHENTIC SELF-WORTH AND INNER AUTHORITY LOOKS LIKE
* Being able to say no without guilt
* Honouring your own needs and boundaries
* Trusting your intuition and inner knowing
* Feeling safe being fully yourself
* Receiving support, love and abundance openly
* Speaking your truth calmly and clearly
* No longer needing external validation to feel worthy
* Allowing yourself to rest without shame
* Understanding that your worth is not tied to productivity
* Feeling grounded in who you are
* Making decisions from alignment rather than fear
* Sharing your gifts without needing to prove yourself
* Being able to hold space for others without abandoning yourself
* Healthy reciprocity in relationships
* Feeling comfortable being seen
* Taking up space confidently and authentically
* Allowing others to have their emotions without carrying responsibility for them
* Trusting that you are already enough
* Creating from inspiration rather than survival
* Choosing relationships, work and opportunities that honour your value
* Feeling peaceful within yourself even when others disagree with you
* Living from self-respect instead of self-sacrifice
* Understanding that your presence alone has value
* Moving through life with greater ease, trust and authenticity
Healing the “I am not good enough” program is not about becoming someone else, it’s about remembering that your worth was never missing to begin with.
With love and authenticity
Tracey
