Sarah Tolmie Life&Love - Holistic Community Care

23/08/2026

Here’s a good article if you’re feeling stuck
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Sarah

https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/56847/whenever-you-feel-stuck-in-life-ask-yourself-these-10-powerful-questions/?fbclid=IwZnRzaAT4U-JwZG9mBWZkaWQWUNA7oUoA_3XyYAlzbeHCS9LK2zquAGV4dG4DYWVtAjExAHNydGMGYXBwX2lkCjY2Mjg1NjgzNzkAAR5UBkq6Oc8I4U2fgEQdI5FDUd3Qw1L1EEVVbNrNy3dz286UpJZTgZFx_UR3EQ_aem_3YWm_3O7ze22Zg4sDsF06w

The experience of feeling stuck deserves better than the usual advice to “just push through” or “trust the process.” Something more useful happens when you get curious instead of frustrated with yourself. Every person who has ever felt trapped by their own life has also had the chance to ask...

20/07/2026

Most people wait until things are unbearable to get help.
The smartest couples I see now don't wait. Some come to prevent a crisis. Some come to reset after months of quiet drift. Some are deciding, clear-eyed, whether to stay or to leave well. And a growing number haven't even chosen a partner yet — they're just refusing to repeat a blueprint nobody ever gave them.
One shift has changed what's possible for the couples who can't wait months for clarity: the couple intensive. Built for people who are time-poor, at a genuine decision point, and need real movement now — not eight scattered sessions stretched across a busy year.
I've written about the full range of couple therapy, why "staying together" isn't always the goal, and what an intensive can (and can't) do on its own.
Click on link below to read: The Many Rooms of Couple Therapy - and Why One of Them Looks Different Now:
https://sarahtolmie.com.au/the-many-rooms-of-couple-therapy-and-why-one-of-them-looks-different-now/

11/07/2026

I've just released my new e-book for FREE.
Love Isn't Luck - Five Truths Every Couple Needs to Know About Lasting Love.
It's drawn from nearly two decades sitting with couples in my therapy practice, at weddings, and even beside the dying. It's the same throughline, again and again: most relationships don't fail from lack of love. They fail from lack of skill, and lack of a map.
Read it alone or together, and keep what lands.
Download it free here:

Most couples arrive at the start of their relationship — married or not, whatever form that takes — with enormous love and hope. What almost none arrive with is a map. This free guide shares five truths from nearly two decades supporting couples of every kind: relationships don't fail, they get ...

15/03/2026

Thank you Women's Healing Sanctuary for inviting me to facilitate your Grief Retreat this weekend. It was a deep and profound privilege. And an amazing group of women. And special thanks Janine for hosting us with great care,love, humor and nourishing food. I’m at my favorite restorative pit stop on my way home at the beautiful Merewether Ocean Baths. Feeling complete and happy.
Xx Sarah
Sarah Tolmie - Community Funeral Director and EndofLife Services
Sarah Tolmie Life&Love - Holistic Community Care
Sarah Tolmie Life&Love Celebrations CMC

21/02/2026

Transforming Grief Into Hope - This women-only retreat offers a gentle place to honour the full spectrum of grief, learning how to live, love, and laugh again.

11/02/2026

Lately I’ve been thinking about how love behaves more like land than lightning.
It responds to attention. It weakens with neglect.
It becomes robust when it’s nourished consistently.
I’ve just shared a new article exploring relationships through the lens of gardens and permaculture — and why tending matters more than intensity.
If you’re building something long-term, this is for you.
https://sarahtolmie.com.au/designed-to-last-growing-a-robust-relationship/

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Sarah

04/02/2026

Yes. I like this definition and honoring of a death and a grief that is inherent in commitment - and therein lies the paradox - as it allows you to fully presence and live into something
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Sarah

"The best definition I’ve ever heard of commitment:

*You choose one life,
and you let all the others die.*

You stop fantasising about parallel selves and unrealised futures.

You stop half-living, half-inside a thousand imagined lives.

You grieve the lives you will never live, the selves you will never be.

Yes. Grief sits at the heart of commitment.

All the other paths.

All the other options.

It is a direct encounter with death.

Not the concept of it, but the reality of it, how it permeates life and is one with it.

Sacred commitment is the falling away of countless possible futures.

And yet, in that grief, something settles.
Something ancient and deep.

As the other fantasy lives die, you can finally be present for this one.
You can finally… live.

You plant your flag here.
In this body.
In this moment.
On this path.
You say YES to where you are!

In sacred commitment, your feet finally touch the ground.
It is not restriction or loss of freedom.
It is a portal to great joy."
~ Jeff Foster

Art by Eileen Lawrence

30/01/2026

The problem is real and painful for many partners. The inequality. The invisible work. Home and kids are an equal partnership. Be careful not to make yourself redundant. Love the word - gonna use it - “choreplay”
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For years, Jordan Carlos thought that because he was hustling as a comedian to make money for his family, he didn't have to do chores and child care at home. He left most of it to his wife, even though she had a job too. It all eventually reached a breaking point.

On "Modern Love," Jordan talks about how he had to step up or lose his family. https://nyti.ms/4a8f87G

10/01/2026

Fabulous new spiritual co-op with beautiful magic goodies and crystals and yummy scents and jewelry and ceremonial specialties has opened up on the corner below me. Elemental & Co. welcome to the corner and all the best.

22/12/2025

Festive Love and Summer Blessings
Thank you for your community and connection this year.
Here is my end-of-year message and some FREE resources to get you through the festive season.
Merry Christmas - Happy Holidays - Summer Love Blessings
Peace Be With You All
xox
Sarah Tolmie

Hello dear ones.Thank you for your community and connection this year. My happy place is to be in service to life & love. Whether that is in relationship repair, recovery, reconnection, and re-creation; or supporting families at end-of-life in my funeral and sacred deathcare practice; or in celebra...