14/04/2019
11 Things That Happen When an Empath Falls in Love with a Narcissist!
The relationship between a narcissist and an empath is one that never ends well for the empath. In fact, the combination of these 2 personality types makes for a highly toxic relationship.
The narcissist seeks out and pursues the empath as they see somebody who can fulfil their needs in a selfless way. The empath wants to “fix” the narcissist and see it as a personal challenge to not quit or fail.
The empath is an “emotional sponge,” who can absorb the narcissist’s feelings very easily. And it makes them the perfect target for the narcissist. The narcissist initially presents a false self.
Long-standing narcissistic behavior isn’t always obvious and the narcissist usually gets what they want through charm, control tactics, passive-aggression, lying, and manipulation. They feel they are superior to the empath, but it often manifests itself in subtle ways.
They are preoccupied with achieving wealth, fame, beauty, power and success, but whatever they accomplish is never enough. They lack empathy for the empath, so that they can take advantage of them to get their own desires and needs met.
For somebody on the outside looking at a relationship between a narcissist and an empath, it isn’t hard to blame the empath. How and why would anybody want to stay in such a relationship? Also, why did they get into it in the first place?
Here Are the Answers to These Questions:
– The empath enters the romantic relationship, because they want deep, unconditional love. They are attracted to the narcissist, and think their need for affection is being met, even if the narcissist does not do so. The empath feels “in love” and happy just from being around the narcissist.
– The empath starts believing that they have a “unique” kind of love with the narcissist, and the narcissist lets them know that their relationship is special. But, the truth is that the narcissist only wants constant attention and validation.
– The narcissist makes the empath feel incompetent. Even if they do not state it directly, they may say something like, “I do not want to hurt you,” or not let them handle anything that is a symbol of control. It makes the empath feel reliant on the narcissist and believe that they “need” them.
– As time goes by, the empath just can’t see the narcissist in any type of pain. And that’s why they want to talk to them, lift them up and help them feel better again. They just want to “fix” them. What they do not understand is that the idea or feeling of healing the narcissist’s deepest wounds, feels the same to them as healing their own. But, it isn’t the same thing.
– The empath starts feeling afraid to advocate for their own needs – they just want to remain more likable, even if they are less happy. But, the more work, affection, devotion, care and love they put into making their relationship work, the more powerful the narcissist becomes.
– Ultimately, they start adopting the traits of the narcissist. As their emotional needs aren’t being met, they begin to seem “egoistical,” or preoccupied with themselves. But, the narcissist dislikes it. And that’s why they try to make the empath feel “crazy”. They say that their concerns are unfounded and that they are too sensitive and over-dramatic. It’s the most obvious way the narcissist exerts mind-control and power over the empath.
– The empath starts blaming themselves for everything and wondering if they are deserving of love. But, they aren’t aware that it has nothing to do with them, and everything to do with the narcissist.
– Even if they try to have an open, honest communication with the narcissist, the narcissist makes excuses and finds ways to pass the blame, convincing the empath that it is their fault.
– The empath does some serious self-evaluation and finally realizes what happened in the past that made them be so defenseless, and it is the start of their transformation.
– They finally realize that not everybody they fall in love with is honest, thinks the way they do, and has the same intentions they do. They also realize that the relationship was an opportunity for them to understand that they must heal themselves.
– The narcissist continues to act as if nothing happened. They deny or even “forget” about the toxic relationship they once had with the empath, and they do their best to go pursue it elsewhere.
