06/01/2026
The first clip went viral when I shared it 2 years ago, so many positive comments highlighting how cute my sweet girl was and the patience and grace of the grocery store cashier who turned a hard moment into a core memory.
But it also got a lot of angry comments from people who assumed that we made a lot of people wait so she could help scan ( there was nobody behind us lol) and then from loads of people ( who I’m going to assume were always made to feel as though they were a burden in their own childhood, never to be heard but only seen) who were adamant that letting her be cheered up in this way when she was having a hard time would lead her to expect it every single time, never be able to handle her hard moments or be able to exist in the “real world”.
And here she is, a big and beautiful 4 year old girl who knows her way around the grocery store like it’s the back of her hand, who scans, packs up and pays for our groceries regularly. Who waits her turn patiently and quietly. Who still has big feelings and is always getting better and better at moving through them - who is the actual sweetest girl that is always the first one to try to make those around her feel better when they’re having a hard time.
We are so obsessed with rushing independence and it shows in the sea of anxious, dysregulated adults that society is made up of more and more.
Let them be little.
A baby that needs you to sleep is being a baby. A toddler that is having a hard time waiting is being a toddler. Children are not mini adults and they definitely aren’t convenient but here’s the thing, they aren’t meant to be - meeting them where they’re at allows them the space to grow at their own pace and become more confident as they grow while being securely attached.