05/19/2026
Heading back home …
Spent a rich 4 days in Toronto attending my first Brazilian Zouk Dance congress.🥳
5-6 classes a day, socials that went far past my bedtime (thank goodness 😂) and teachers from all over the world sharing so much beauty, skill, play, connection and presence.
Normally midnight is a stretch for me, but many of the dancers were heading home when the DJs stopped … around 6 or 7 am lol.
I joined the newcomer track and fell. in. love. with so many of the people I was learning and practicing with.
There was something so human and alive about it all — touch, listening, laughter, nervousness, joy, learning together.
What struck me most was the amount of delight.
People who looked serious or guarded would transform in dance — suddenly radiant, sparkling, soft, magnetic. Something essential and natural in them coming alive.
Partner dancing feels like learning another language of intimacy with life itself. Listening. Responding. Feeling subtle invitations and unspoken communication through movement.
And also … being willing to learn publicly. To be a beginner. To accidentally step on people’s toes … 😂
One of the Brazilian words that was used this weekend was gostoso — pleasurable, delicious, satisfying, deeply enjoyable.
You’re doing it right when it feels gostoso.
Not performative. Not forced. Not pushing.
Receiving the experience. Orienting toward enjoyment.
It made me think so much about the work I do with women inside Reignite Your Feminine Fire — how often our vitality, joy, sensuality, playfulness and natural expression get buried under performance, stress, professionalism, overthinking or simply years of taking care of everyone else first.
We already bring embodied movement into the work, but I’m excited to bring some of these super yummy movements and explorations into future retreats and immersions too. 🔥
The physiology of pleasure is fascinating to me.
How different life feels when we slow down enough to meet the pace of pleasure already present in our own being.
Si o no? 😊
xo, Dr. Monika 💃