07/22/2026
A disrespectful horse does not exist.
I know thatâs a statement that not everyone will agree with.
But think about what the word disrespectful actually means. It implies that a horse has formed an opinion about usâthat theyâre intentionally being rude, stubborn, or trying to challenge us.
Science tells us otherwise.
The horseâs brain isnât wired to make moral judgments or play power games with humans. Itâs wired for survival.
Every decision a horse makes is based on one simple question:
âWhat is the safest and most comfortable option for me right now?â
Thatâs it.
When your horse drags you, doesnât load in the trailer, walks through you, spooks, or ignores what youâre asking, they arenât sitting there thinking, âIâm going to disrespect my human today.â
Theyâre simply giving you the answer that makes the most sense to them based on what they know, what theyâve experienced, and what feels safest or most comfortable in that moment.
The problem isnât a lack of respect.
The problem is usually one of three things:
The horse doesnât understand, it doesnât feel comfortable or it has learned that another answer works better.
Instead of taking the behavior personally, become curious.
That simple shift changes everything. It replaces frustration with curiosity, punishment with education, and conflict with communication.
The goal isnât to make a horse ârespectâ us.
The goal is to help them understand us, trust us, and discover that the answer weâre asking for is the easiest and most comfortable one to choose.
Because good horsemanship isnât about winning an argument.
And thatâs the foundation of every horse I train.
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