09/01/2026
BORROWED STEADINESS
Sometimes a client says,
I’m afraid this relationship is becoming a lifeline.
Their body settles in the room, the urge quiets, the breath returns.
For those who have spent years surviving through substances, compulsions, numbness, or escape, this kind of attachment can feel both nourishing and frightening.
But attachment is not the problem. People have a chance to learn that they can be with difficulty and not be alone, and that closeness does not always lead to rupture.
The work is to support this lifeline.
It is to let the body experience enough steadiness that, over time, some of that steadiness begins to live inside.
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