Nichole Frank

06/02/2026

Part 5:

There was a point in that relationship when I already knew it should have ended.

I knew we wanted different things.
I knew we weren’t truly aligned.
I knew I was staying in something that no longer felt right.

But I didn’t leave….Then life chose to intervene.

I was in a car accident, I found myself in a very vulnerable position. I needed support, and I needed time to recover. So I had chosen to go back home with family so I could have 24/7 care that I needed.

And after a few days I got a phone call, it was him on the other end.
He told me he was done…
He was leaving.
He told me he didn’t love me, and he didn’t think he ever really did.

Those words hit hard like a knife…
Not just because the relationship was ending, but because a part of me was angry that he ended it first. I think, deep down, I already wanted out… I just hadn’t found the courage to be the one who chose to leave first.

Looking back now, as painful as that moment was, it forced me to face a truth I had been avoiding:

Sometimes we know a chapter is over long before we’re willing to close the book, and sometimes life closes it for us.

I don’t look back at that moment with the same anger I once did. I look back and see a lesson about self-trust, a lesson about listening to what I already knew, and a lesson about not waiting for someone else to make the decision I’ve been avoiding.

Because the longer we ignore our truth, the louder it eventually becomes.

06/01/2026

Ok, so here is the honest to god truth!

I had a friend recommend this book to me last weekend, and who knew it be the book to really spark something inside of me.

I have read so many books over the last few years… but this one really hit. And I actually told my friend there was no coincidence she recommended this book to me.

So with this being said… My full idea for my Podcast came to life, and now I am in the stages of creating what needs to be done for me to have a great podcast. Yes… I will eventually be asking people to be guests on the show.

I am so stoked to actually for this opportunity to bring some amazing content in the future.

Much love ❤️
Nichole

06/01/2026

Here is Lee Harris’s new Energy Update for June 2026!

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05/30/2026

Part 4:

One of the biggest lessons I learned from that relationship was that love cannot overcome a fundamental incompatibility.

He wanted children… I didn’t.

And as difficult as it is to admit now, I knew that early on. I don’t remember ever truly wanting kids. It wasn’t a fear to overcome, a wound to heal, or a mindset that needed changing. It was simply who I was.

When that truth became clear between us, I should have paid closer attention.
Not because either of us was wrong.
Not because one path was better than the other.
But because we wanted different futures.

Looking back, I can see that I kept hoping love would somehow bridge a gap that wasn’t meant to be bridged.

And I think he hoped I would eventually change my mind.

Neither of us was being fully honest about what that reality meant.

Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is acknowledge when two good people want different lives.

I wish I had understood that sooner.

Not because I blame myself for what happened, but because I think we both could have been spared a lot of hurt if I had trusted what I already knew.

Some relationships don’t end because someone is bad. Some relationships end because the truth was there from the beginning, quietly asking to be acknowledged… but we choose not to see it as it is.

05/25/2026

Part 3:

Looking back now, I can see something I couldn’t fully understand at the time:

I was never really being loved as a partner.
I was being treated like a project.

When we met, he was still in the middle of ending another chapter of his life.
And somewhere inside all of that unresolved grief, confusion, and identity shifting… I think he started trying to build a version of a future he thought would make him feel whole again.

The problem was:
that future required me to become someone I wasn’t.

I was very clear about not wanting children.
That was not a phase.
Not fear.
Not something waiting to be “healed.”
It was simply my truth.

But over time, I started feeling this quiet pressure to evolve into a version of myself that fit the life he secretly hoped for.

And that’s the thing about relationships built on potential instead of acceptance:
eventually someone starts disappearing inside them.

Love is not:
“I’ll stay if you become who I need you to be.”

Real love says:
“I see who you are now, and I respect that person fully.”

I was not difficult to love because I didn’t want the same things.
We were simply not aligned.
And no amount of “fixing” was ever going to change that. 🤍

05/23/2026

Part 2:

Looking back now, I realize he wasn’t just trying to “help” me.

He was trying to mold me into someone that made him feel more whole.

The more I healed, the more I started noticing something I couldn’t unsee:
he was pouring all of his energy into fixing me… while avoiding the parts of himself he didn’t want to face.

After a bit of time, I confused that intensity for love.

But trying to control someone’s healing journey is not the same thing as loving them.

Real love doesn’t require you to become smaller, quieter, easier, or more convenient just so another person can feel stable inside themselves.

Sometimes people try to repair themselves through other people.
Sometimes they chase “potential” because it distracts them from their own wounds.

And eventually I realized:
this relationship was never built on truly seeing each other. It was built on projection, rescuing, and trying to create versions of ourselves that didn’t actually exist.

You cannot build a healthy relationship when one person is trying to become the architect of the other person’s identity.

Healing taught me that I was never meant to be someone’s self-improvement project.
I was meant to be loved as a human being. 🤍

05/20/2026

Sometimes the people who say they want to “help” you are actually more attached to the idea of being your savior than they are to truly knowing you.

And when you stop fitting into the version of you they thought they could repair, reshape, or rescue… the relationship shifts and no longer works to their advantage.

I used to think being deeply analyzed meant being deeply loved.

But love is not:
“Let me make you easier to handle.”
“Let me turn you into someone more convenient or digestible.”
“Let me love the future version of you while rejecting who you are right now.”

Real love has space for humanity.
For complexity.
For healing that isn’t linear.
For hard moments.
For growth without control.

I was never a project, and will never be a project…And neither are you. 🤍

I say this with so much love. So, if this hits something inside of you, and you wanna hear more, follow me for more.

And if you ever wanna chat with me about your life living with ADHD, chronic illness, crippling depression, and anxiety… you know I am here for you to do so (I’m one message away).

05/15/2026

Part 6 continued (last part)

This series has been such a beautiful reminder that ADHD is so much more layered than we’ve been taught.

Not just mind.
Not just body.
Not just energy.

But a full human experience moving through every layer of who we are.

I’ve actually gone through the kosha system in class twice now, and every single time I revisit it, something new clicks into place.

There’s something about understanding the koshas that helps weave everything together.
The body.
The mind.
The nervous system.
The emotions.
The energy.
The deeper self.

It creates a fuller picture of why we experience ourselves the way we do.

Exploring ADHD through this lens has completely shifted the way I view regulation, healing, overwhelm, focus, and even self-compassion.

Because maybe the goal isn’t becoming someone “less ADHD.”
Maybe it’s learning how to support yourself more fully through every layer of your being.

Thank you so much for following along with this series 🌿

And if this resonated with you, keep watching… because there’s so much more we’re going to explore together around ADHD, nervous system healing, embodiment, energy, and learning how to work with ourselves instead of against ourselves.