Live Life & Embrace Death

05/15/2024

Beautiful perspective regarding grief❤️💔❤️

Honor Your Grief ❤️‍🩹

We each have an individual story to tell with Grief.

As you allow yourself to grieve and open your heart and body to the rhythm of your own soul and body…Your Divinity… you begin to heal and rebirth with every breath you inhale and exhale into Your True Story of Existence.

So please stop comparing your grief to another, for who are we to decide how others should feel and their Individuation Path of Love and Light … It is the Journey Home with God, through God, from God and to God…the Eternal Divine Union.

How often was I judged and blamed by others for my story of grief?

Let me tell you some Truth from My Individual Expression of Grief:

I learnt to liberate myself, for grieving the loss of my mother or uncle or friend or home or my family or my car or my dog or my ex-partner or … I learnt that Grieving is to romance with the seasons and cycles of life as within so without, as above so below and all around… All is Divine Love.

So let me tell you something, now when I remember, how closed ones used to tell me “be grateful your mother died, when you were young, or be grateful you made it healthy out of the accident, or be grateful for surviving your battle with life and death at the age of 2, or be grateful that you didn’t get married for you would have lived a miserable life and eventually got divorced, or …” I learnt that these are their limitations and methods of their defense mechanism and survival mode patterns and strategies.

Every judgement helped me to reclaim my Voice, my Womb Consciousness, my Feminine Wisdom and Power…returning to the song 🎶 of my own heart.

Grief never stops, for love never stops…we only learn how to embody the flow of life and flow with the river of Divine Wisdom and Blessings as we show up to Life with A YES from the core depth of our own Being.

So next time someone tells you how you should grieve…let them be… send them love and light from your heart to their hearts and return to the Softness of Your Own Story of Life.

From Sarah with Love ❤️
✍️ Sarah Moussa - The Writer
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12/19/2023

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Holiday host etiquette: If you’re inviting someone to your home and they’re grieving, be sure you’re inviting their grief to attend, too. It will be there, anyway.

Don’t invite someone with the goal of cheering them up for the holidays. Don’t expect them to put on a happy face in your home. Don’t demand they fake it til they make it or do something they don’t want to do, either.

Invite them with the loving intention of offering cheer and companionship and unconditional care during the holidays. To do this, you will need to honor and be responsive to their needs and emotions.

You can do this by privately acknowledging their grief when you make the invitation:

“I know this season is extra hard and your heart is hurting. You and your grief are welcome in our home. Come as you are, we’d be honored to have you with us.”

It’s also incredibly loving to honor the reality that it’s often hard for grieving folks to know what they will want, need, be up for, or able to tolerate at the holidays.

Giving them an invite without the need for commitment and permission to change their mind is extra loving:

“You don’t have to decide right now. If it feels good to be with us, we will have plenty of food and love for you-just show up! I’ll check in again the day before to see if you’re feeling up to coming over and if there’s anything you’d like me to know about how we can support you.”

Your grieving friends and fam need attentive care and responsiveness at the holidays, not plans to keep them busy, distracted, and happy.

If they’re laughing, laugh with them.

If they’re weeping, ask if they’d like your company or your help finding a quiet place to snuggle up alone for awhile.

If they’re laughing while weeping, and this is more common than you’d think, stay with them - this is a precious moment of the human experience that is truly sacred.

We don’t need to protect ourselves or each other from grief at the holidays. In fact, the more we embrace grief as an honored holiday guest, the more healthy, happy, and whole our holidays will be. 🙏☮️✨🎄

Sarah Nannenl

05/30/2023

01/05/2023

Thank you salmon for showing me that death is a natural part of life and that we have an opportunity to let go of the past to move forward. Thank you for reminding me that life is precious❤️

12/24/2022

We offer a wish for healing and love this Christmas eve to those who are spending their last Christmas together and those who are grieving someone they miss. May you seek comfort and peace in fond memories and all the goodness and love that surrounds you.

12/24/2022

I love reading about old traditions from other countries 🎄 ❤️🌲❤️🌲

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVE

THE GHOSTS OF CHRISTMAS EVE

In folk belief there is a sense of the nearness of the supernatural on Christmas Eve. Throughout Northern Europe there were traditions that the family ghosts returned at Christmas time to share the festival with their living relatives.

In Scandinavia Christmas was the time when the dead revisited their old homes and had to be made welcome. Before people went to bed, they made sure the house was left tidy with a fire burning in the hearth. Food and ale were left out on the table. If earth was found on the chairs in the morning, it was known that a kinsman, fresh from the grave, had sat there. Sometimes a warm bath was left for the dead visitors so that they might wash before their meal.

In Poland, the dead were invited inside to warm themselves and funeral foods were eaten. In Portugal the souls of the dead are welcomed at Christmas with crumbs are scattered for them on the hearth. In ancient times, seeds were left out for the dead so they could return with fruits and grains from the Otherworld at harvest time.
In Portugal the souls of the dead, the alminhas a penar, are welcomed on Christmas. Crumbs are scattered for them on the hearth. In ancient times, seeds were left out for the dead so they could return with fruits and grains from the Otherworld at harvest time. At the consoada in the early morning of Christmas Day people set out extra plates for the dead among them to celebrate as well.

In Lithuania a special dish called kûèia was prepared for the souls of dead ancestors. It was made of stewed wheat, peas and beans, and sweetened with honey. Oat puddings were also considered to be suitable food for the dead, and a spell was chanted while they were being made. In the region of Merkinë, kûèia was a special loaf of bread which was carried three times around the house by the master of the household. He would knock on the door saying "God together with kûèia asks to be in your house". In other regions, baskets of kûèia foods or Christmas wafers were carried around in the same manner. Supper was eaten by the living when the stars rose in the sky, and if a family member had died during the year, a place was laid for them. The eldest family member went outside to invite the souls of the ancestors, the cold, the wind and bees to eat together. Food would be left on the table as it was believed that once the family was asleep, the dead would come in and feast. The tradition of feeding the souls of the dead continued into the twentieth century in Lithuania.

In Guernsey the powers of darkness are supposed to be especially active between St. Thomas's Day (21st December) and New Year's Eve, and it is dangerous to be out after nightfall. People may be led astray then by Will o' the Wisp, ominous black dogs appear to them, or folk find mysterious white rabbits hopping along just under their feet.

In England people prepared for supernatural visitors during the Twelve Days. The house and its contents were cleaned with extra care. In Shropshire, the pewter and bronze vessels had to be polished to the point that that the maids could see to put their caps on in them, otherwise the fairies would pinch them. If the fairies were satisfied, the maid would find a coin in her shoe. In Shropshire special care was taken to put away any washing suds. Anne Boleyn is alleged to have been seen haunting her old homes, her headless ghost reported at Rochford Hall in Essex and Hever Castle in Kent.

For this reason, it was a tradition to tell ghost stories at Christmas time. Charles Dickens penned several such tales for his readers, and until recently, the BBC still televise a dramatized supernatural tale every Christmas Eve.

Christmas Carol is still my absolute favorite Christmas Movie

Merry Christmas to all and to all a good night!!!

Mystic Mana🎄🌟

09/13/2022

My final wishes at the end of my life include dying at home with my family and friends around me.

Have you thought about where you want to be when you die?

09/06/2021

Beautiful!!❤️❤️

✨Expected Death ~ When someone dies, the first thing to do is nothing. Don't run out and call the nurse. Don't pick up the phone. Take a deep breath and be present to the magnitude of the moment.

There's a grace to being at the bedside of someone you love as they make their transition out of this world. At the moment they take their last breath, there's an incredible sacredness in the space. The veil between the worlds opens.

We're so unprepared and untrained in how to deal with death that sometimes a kind of panic response kicks in. "They're dead!"

We knew they were going to die, so their being dead is not a surprise. It's not a problem to be solved. It's very sad, but it's not cause to panic.

If anything, their death is cause to take a deep breath, to stop, and be really present to what's happening. If you're at home, maybe put on the kettle and make a cup of tea.

Sit at the bedside and just be present to the experience in the room. What's happening for you? What might be happening for them? What other presences are here that might be supporting them on their way? Tune into all the beauty and magic.

Pausing gives your soul a chance to adjust, because no matter how prepared we are, a death is still a shock. If we kick right into "do" mode, and call 911, or call the hospice, we never get a chance to absorb the enormity of the event.

Give yourself five minutes or 10 minutes, or 15 minutes just to be. You'll never get that time back again if you don't take it now.

After that, do the smallest thing you can. Call the one person who needs to be called. Engage whatever systems need to be engaged, but engage them at the very most minimal level. Move really, really, really, slowly, because this is a period where it's easy for body and soul to get separated.

Our bodies can gallop forwards, but sometimes our souls haven't caught up. If you have an opportunity to be quiet and be present, take it. Accept and acclimatize and adjust to what's happening. Then, as the train starts rolling, and all the things that happen after a death kick in, you'll be better prepared.

You won't get a chance to catch your breath later on. You need to do it now.

Being present in the moments after death is an incredible gift to yourself, it's a gift to the people you're with, and it's a gift to the person who's just died. They're just a hair's breadth away. They're just starting their new journey in the world without a body. If you keep a calm space around their body, and in the room, they're launched in a more beautiful way. It's a service to both sides of the veil.

Credit for the beautiful words ~ Sarah Kerr, Ritual Healing Practitioner and Death Doula , Death doula
Her original video link is here ~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q7mG0ZAym0w

Beautiful art by Columbus Community Deathcare
Always With Love

05/20/2021

Be alive in all the ways that make you feel alive❤️

05/03/2021

How would you answer these questions:

*are you truly living?

*are you living authentically?

*are you addressing and facing your fears so they don’t hold you back?

*are you enjoying the moments with family and friends when you can?

*are you treating yourself and others with grace, compassion and respect?

*do you understand that there is an end to this precious life we have been given?

*are you aware that the only thing you can control in life is yourself?

Some small questions to ponder this Monday morning❤️

02/12/2021

We have an excellent opportunity for a Licensed Funeral Director!

About Us:

Kearney Funeral Services is a local family owned business with four locations who has been serving the lower mainland with care and compassion for over 110 years. In our mission to care for the bereaved, we aim to provide the highest level of service and live the virtues of high ethical standards and responsible stewardship. We are Compassionate, Trustworthy, Responsible professionals and this at the centre of our philosophy which guides everything we do.

While our focus is meeting the needs of our customers, our success is driven by our people.

If our values resonate with you, and you want to learn, grow and develop within a team that inspires, shares knowledge, and cares, then please apply!

The Opportunity:

The Funeral Director position requires a high level of compassion and a caring individuals who enjoys helping others.

We are looking for individuals with excellent communication skills, who enjoy working with and helping people. The ideal candidate will be very organized, have a high sense of urgency, the ability to multitask with a pleasant demeanor. Must be proficient in English both spoken and verbal (other languages an asset) and be able to perform physical requirements of the job.

Required Education, Skills and Qualifications:

· Have experience in all types of Funeral related services (Arranging, coordinating of services held in Chapel, Church, Memorial, Visitation, Reception/Catered events, Burial, Cremation, Entombment, Minimum Cremation needs)

· Excel in both written and verbal English communication (other languages an asset)

· Be naturally empathetic

· Be remarkably organized with the ability to manage time efficiently yet effectively

· Be able to complete the physical demands of the job

· Be dedicated, caring and service driven

· Have a good demeanor and professional outlook

· Be an excellent communicator and team player

· Hold themselves to a high standard of service

· Build excellent relationships with families and within the community

· Be a team player who leads by example, and challenges others to better fulfill their roles

· Have a great attitude and truly loves our profession

· Be a leader and encourage Apprentice Funeral Directors to reach their full potentials both personally and in their roles as Funeral Service Professionals

· Not be afraid of doing other important tasks (cleaning vehicles, assisting with clerical duties as required etc)

· Have a flexible schedule which may include evening and weekends

· Have a Class 5 drivers license with a clean driving record

For candidates who embody these attributes, this position has the potential for further advancement within the company.

A BC Funeral Directors license is preferred, however for the right candidate, we will facilitate licensing transfer requirements.

Compensation (including bonuses and benefits) is competitive and will be tailored to match the qualification and skill of the individual applicant.