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when i was 19 my grandmother told me she never wanted to see or hear from me againdisowned was the word she usedand she ...
09/04/2026

when i was 19 my grandmother told me she never wanted to see or hear from me again

disowned was the word she used

and she kept her word

she died 3 years ago (almost to the day) and i never saw or heard from her after that day 23 years ago

so when a family member reached out to share she had died i didn’t feel anything

and it was the lack of feeling that eventually cracked me open

relationships between the women in my family and myself are tumultuous at best and non-existent otherwise

and it did’t matter

what i did
what i said
how i acted
who i tried to be
it was never enough

and the thing is, it never would have been
never will be

our bodies and the lives we lead within them are shaped by our experiences
our beliefs
our perceptions

and through those we form an identity
and we begin to see the world in relation to who we believe ourselves to be

what we believe we deserve

and consciously or not - we look for evidence to reinforce these beliefs of ours, the lives we live and the shape our body needs to take to stay the course within it
(and others do the same)

and what took me far too long to learn - and i was reminded of this past winter when another family member decided she knew who i was and that the person she perceived me to be was not welcome in her life - was that you have no control

over someones beliefs
over someones perceptions
over someones identity and how they view the world
over how they see you in order to maintain it
protect it
protect themselves

no matter your intentions
no matter your own perceptions and beliefs

so when my grandmother died having stayed true to her word
true to who she believed herself and i to be
i felt grief and loss and an ache deep within my bones

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i don’t want to put any more energy into maskscostumesconcealmentbecause that’s what it iswhen our bodies and lives are ...
09/02/2026

i don’t want to put any more energy into masks
costumes
concealment

because that’s what it is

when our bodies and lives are shaped around who we were taught and told we had to be

when we learned how to sacrifice and abandon parts of ourselves to be accepted, liked, or loved

when we learned how to bury the pieces of ourselves that might put us at risk
might put us in harms way
might - if seen, if found, if heard - leave us isolated and alone

so you learn to tuck them away
shield them
disguise them
cover them up

and it asks a lot of you
playing dress up your whole life
adapting to fit these layers that were never made to be worn by you

it leads to exhaustion
tightness
tension
fatigue

to emotional, mental, and physical symptoms and sensations that you just can’t seem to figure out

just can’t seem to shake

and so a decision has to be made

do you have the strength and courage to shift that energy elsewhere

to be seen (seemingly) coming undone
to be seen (seemingly) lost, confused, and unsure

to be seen unbecoming who you believe you were (and possibly still are) expected to be

is it scary (yes)
does it feel confronting (yes)
do you have to do it (no)

but aren’t you curious

when you start to choose and meet you
your body
your pain
your grief
your joy

when you start to tend to your body and unravel the threads of those layers you’ve worn so well…

aren’t you curious who you’ll meet

its time we tended together

The Body Tending Series | coming soon

(gratitude to Carolyn - Canadian Photographer for the photo 💛)

“you’re never to see or play with her again.”the words came rushing back - accompanied by a few tears, although i’m not ...
08/21/2026

“you’re never to see or play with her again.”

the words came rushing back - accompanied by a few tears, although i’m not sure if it was her mother or mine that said them

which one found us
which one grabbed our wrists and dragged us back to the house

but as i sat in my home now 42 tending to my v u l v a - working with my tissues, my fascia, my breath i knew it didn’t matter

and i knew the seeds were sown then

the belief that the body - my body, the female body - is shameful

we were somewhere between the ages of 4 and 6 camped out in the woods in a play tent
and childhood curiosity took over and we were ‘caught’ as they say looking at each others ‘privates’

chests that were not yet b r e a s t s and v u l v a s that only a couple years before were allowed to be free
bare
uncovered as we ran bare bottomed around the yard through the sprinkler

but now they were livid - the mothers

disgusted
embarrassed
both ashamed themselves
and in that moment teaching us we should be too

passing the shame that was given to them onto us

and they kept their word for a while
for the rest of the summer at least

‘punishment’ for the ‘bad’ thing that we had done

and last night i did it again
the thing i was so terrified to do i almost cancelled
twice
because i was taught it was ‘bad’

i shed my clothes along with 5 other women as we played in the water and the sand
bare chested
bare bottomed

there was no disgust
no projected shame

but there was laughter
there were smiles
there was joy
and a few tears
and a whole lot of love and support

and as i drove home wet, sandy, chilly waiting for my heated seat to warm my previously bare bottom i wondered when you learned it too

to see your body and her tissues as something other than what they are

beautiful, strong
worthy of being seen
worthy of your love

worthy of her own river goddess photo shoot with a wonderful and wild group of women and Tammy Zdunich behind the lens.

do you have the courage to stay?the first thing that popped up in my feed today: Hayden Panettiere passed away - suspec...
08/17/2026

do you have the courage to stay?

the first thing that popped up in my feed today: Hayden Panettiere passed away - suspected drug overdose

(followeed by a reel i shared in my story inviting you to let the s**t go and live your life - simple yes, easy - no)

the articles all share how open she was
how she spoke about her struggles with depression, substances/ drugs, and postpartum depression

all the ways and things she was doing (did) to try to care for herself
her body
her baby
her family

i shared this news with my husband as he was getting ready for work
he said he didn’t understand it

how someone with that much money and access to it all: personal trainer, personal therapists, personal cooks, personal healers, personal massage therapists, rehab centres (all the things money can and does buy) could still struggle

couldn’t overcome it
could end up dead at 36

i understand it well

and think it highlights how powerful the beliefs and experiences (pre and post conception) that shape us can be

how we can have access to it all
the people
the modalities
the therapies
the healers
the experts
the plans and the protocols

and still struggle
to find the self
the body
and the courage to stay with her

in the pain
in the grief
in the hopelessness

there are some things money can’t buy

things that ask nothing as payment but all of you

you breath
your blood
your flesh
your tears
your touch

things that don’t care what you’ve used and abused to stay there - away, apart, detached, dis-associated, distracted, numb

things that demand you come home

regardless of how long you’ve been away

to hold your body
to hold yourself

to tend to the parts that are so tired
so hurt
so forgotten
so full of ache they see no other way out

those are the parts that need your touch
your tenderness
your strength
your courage
your love

parts that want what can’t be bought

that ask nothing as payment except your courage to stay

it’s not always (or only) mind over mattersometimes its body over mindbody as memorybody as protector(and this is someth...
08/14/2026

it’s not always (or only) mind over matter

sometimes its body over mind
body as memory
body as protector
(and this is something women’s bodies know well)

one of my ‘being on social media’ fears happened and my body took the reins
(and my mind - as brilliant as it is had no say)

i signed into my social media accounts a couple weeks ago to see 2 names beside a lot of likes and a dm notification from one

and my body instantly remembered them both and froze

she remembered that the way to get through the physical, emotional, and psychological experiences with these individuals was to freeze

to stay small
to stay quiet

this is how we get through it she said
(because my body didn’t know this wasn’t something she had to ‘get through’ anymore)

so I sat on the floor my thumb hovering above my screen internally telling myself and my body it was okay

reminding myself where i was
in my beautiful home
with this beautiful dog beside me
in this beautiful life i created with a strong, loving, capable man

who i am now

reminding my body and self of the real physical distance between these people and i

but my body didn’t respond to my mind
my thumb didn’t scroll
my hand didn’t put the phone down

she stayed still
she stayed silent

she’s slowly been thawing and i’ve been trying to give her (and myself) time

tending to her, nourishing her, moving her
giving myself permission to be human
(reminding myself - you are too)

and it works, when listen to our bodies
when we know we can trust her and her pace rather than imposing something - some time line, some expectation…someone else’s ‘shoulds’ upon her

i haven’t posted for 2 weeks - in the past it would have been 2 months

and that is what we notice

not the moments we judge ourselves for being human
for falling apart
for being a mess
for needing time

but the space between them

because any change in length - from a few months, to a few weeks, a few hours, a few seconds - is growth
is change
is your strength, courage, and self compassion in action

is you coming back to your body and yourself 💛

08/01/2026

if you can’t define perfect someone else will define it for you

and they can change that definition

the perfect size of your breasts
the perfect shape of your glutes
the perfect colour of your hair

they can keep you chasing something you can’t define for yourself

so define it

come back into relationship with yourself
with your body

learn to be so rooted, so grounded, so at home in your skin that someone else’s definitions don’t matter

I sat down to record a video tonight and my phone storage was maxed out - I told myself I didn’t have the energy to mana...
07/23/2026

I sat down to record a video tonight and my phone storage was maxed out - I told myself I didn’t have the energy to manage it and felt a sense of relief.

A free pass.
I don’t have to show up.

Then I found myself writing these words and here we are.

Meeting the resistance and the tension anyways.

You should join me, join us.

We’ll bloom together.

Taking life lessons from Moose today. 🤎
07/22/2026

Taking life lessons from Moose today. 🤎

This morning, I found myself sitting in my husband’s office - it’s bigger, cleaner, and you can actually see the top of ...
07/21/2026

This morning, I found myself sitting in my husband’s office - it’s bigger, cleaner, and you can actually see the top of his desk, you can’t at the moment in mine.

I sat down with the intention of quickly finalizing the outlines for a couple of workshops I’ve wanted to create since I opened this account eight years ago.

I thought it’d take half an hour.

Half an hour turned into an hour.
Then two.
Then six.

And as I sat there - my errand/ day off slipping away I noticed the tension creeping into my body.

And wasn’t from sitting still.

It was how I was starting to filter the work I was doing through my perceptions of what you might think.

That you already know this.
That you can get this information anywhere.
That maybe I don’t actually know enough.
That there’s already another woman (or 20) out there teaching this better than I can.

So I started editing and second guessing what I wanted to teach - what I wanted to share because those thoughts and beliefs were quietly and quickly deciding what was “worth” creating.

And my body adapted to them.

As I continued to edit and second guess myself, I could feel my body tense.

Not metaphorically.
Literally.

And this is what I see in women I work with as well.

The tension we carry isn’t just from what’s happening around us or ‘to’ us - it’s from the ways we’ve learned to respond.

The ways we restrict what we’d really like to say or do.

Not only because of the beliefs we carry about ourselves...

But because of the stories and perceptions we assign to other people as well.

What we think they’ll expect from us.
What we imagine they’ll think of us.

So I want to in invite you to notice -

Notice how often you stop yourself.
How often you edit yourself before your words leave your mouth.

How often you hold yourself back.

And notice what happens in your body - how she adapts to hold the shape of your beliefs when you do.

07/19/2026

We all meet it within our bodies and selves when we decide to create a change in our lives.

The tension.
The discomfort.
The beliefs that have shaped us.

About who we are, what we’re worth, what we’re capable of - what we deserve.

And when you do and it feels hard, uncomfortable, painful, or like you’re alone in it, I want you to know you’re not.

Keep doing the thing.
Taking the steps - challenging and shifting your beliefs and reshaping your body and your relationship with her along the way. 💛

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