05/27/2026
We spend so much of our lives looking backward, wishing we had spoken up sooner, left sooner, trusted ourselves sooner, or recognized the lesson before it arrived with a wrecking ball and a life lecture.
But wisdom doesn't arrive before the experience. That's what makes it wisdom.
The younger version of us made decisions with the information, capacity, courage, and awareness we had at the time. We couldn't have known then what years, heartbreaks, friendships, travels, mistakes, and a few spectacularly humbling life experiences would eventually reveal.
Time has a way of teaching things no book, therapist, teacher, or well-meaning friend can explain for us. Some lessons must be lived before they can be understood. So when we look back, we have to try not to judge who we were from the perspective of who we've become.
That version of us was gathering the evidence.
This version of us is carrying the wisdom.
Both deserve compassion. ✨️