West Coast Wellness Journal

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05/13/2026

11 TYPES OF PEOPLE YOU SHOULD NOT BE FRIENDS WITH


1. The person who spreads rumors and shares private matters
Someone who exposes other people’s secrets will eventually expose yours too.

2. The person who is always negative
Some people complain about everything and drain the energy from every room they enter. Negativity spreads quietly.

3. The one who smiles in front of you but talks behind your back
Fake loyalty is more dangerous than open dislike. Pay attention to consistency, not charm.

4. The friend who only appears when they need something
Real friendship is mutual support, not convenience.

5. The one who creates drama out of everything
Chaos becomes exhausting when every small issue turns into conflict, gossip, or emotional stress.

6. The person who secretly hates your success
Not everyone clapping for you is genuinely happy for you. Jealousy often hides behind fake support.

7. The friend who constantly competes with you
Healthy friendships inspire growth, not silent rivalry and comparison.

8. The person who lies constantly
Without honesty, there can never be real trust, peace, or emotional safety.

9. The one who blames everyone else for their problems
People who never take accountability often repeat the same toxic patterns forever.

10. The person who drains your peace and energy
After spending time with them, you feel emotionally exhausted instead of uplifted. Your nervous system notices unhealthy people before your mind does.

11. The person who disrespects your time, feelings, and boundaries
People who truly care about you will not repeatedly ignore your limits, emotions, or self-respect.

The older you become…
the more you realize friendship is less about quantity
and more about peace, trust, loyalty, and emotional safety.

04/15/2026

Be cautious of people who resort to provoking you deliberately to get a reaction out of you, so they can blame everything on you afterward.

Every once in awhile you meet someone whos behaviour and/or body language will trigger your instincts to be alert and vigilant. Instinctively you look for behaviour patterns. Thats your nervous system and brain preparing you, preparing you for flight, fight or freeze. I historically freeze first, then flight but return stronger later because I need rest to regain my strength and gain perspective.

These types of people crave control. They may poke your insecurities.
They may cross boundaries on purpose.
They may dismiss your feelings, twist your words, and apply pressure quietly, but consistently.

All while staying calm. Watching. Waiting.

Not to fix anything,
but to push you to the edge.

Deflecting is their go to…

And when you finally react…
when you raise your voice, cry, or defend yourself,
that reaction becomes their proof.

Suddenly, you’re the problem.
“Unstable.” “Angry.” “Toxic.” “Negative.”

Everything they did to provoke you disappears from the story.

This isn’t miscommunication.
It’s a setup to break you down.

They need your reaction to avoid accountability, flip the narrative, and walk away justified.

The moment you recognize the pattern, you stop playing the role they assigned you.
That’s when you take your power back. ❤️‍🩹

01/07/2026

I’m posting this because some people who have this issue don’t know they are actually experiencing migraine attacks, and I want to place a light on the subject.

This woman is a migraine specialist and I’ve been following her since my specialist educated me on migraine symptoms and auras. Watch this video for more information!

Lots of people think migraines are only headaches and that is so far from the actual truth of this chronic disorder, it’s actually a neurological disorder. Education is key! Again just go watch this video!

I’ve had migraines for the past 50plus years, since I was about 10yrs old I had these symptoms the entire time but didn’t know it was migraine attacks. My parents thought I was being difficult and I thought I was just experiencing symptoms of cptsd, tension headaches, and IBD flair ups due to stress response, that’s what two GPs told me, but they were wrong and so was I.

Over the years I was tested for every other type of medical condition out there with very little luck. Then my BP rose during attacks to the red zone these past couple of years and my nervous system became unstable. I couldn’t leave the house without feeling ill and unbalanced, I became ultra sensitive to stress, noise and light, smells and even indoor lighting was too much.

Carrying on a conversation during an attack specially during stressful situations is at times very difficult. The only relief is hiding in a dark, quiet place until it subsides.

My doctor finally referred me to a neurologist last year who specializes in chronic neurological disorders for evaluation. Finally a proper diagnosis, and now to find the best solution and treatment plan.

Go watch this video and follow this neurologist, she knows what she’s talking about!

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1Byvh2PLr3/?mibextid=wwXIfr

11/15/2025

Most of us have realized from our own experiences that Reactive Abuse is when a toxic and unhealed person pushes you until you snap, then blames you for your toxic behavior but never wants to discuss the abuse that triggered it.

It’s a subtle, insidious form of manipulation designed to shift blame and maintain control. The unhealed person will provoke you repeatedly—through criticism, gaslighting, silent treatment, or emotional withholding—carefully chipping away at your patience, your confidence, and your sense of self-worth.

They push boundaries, test your limits, and create situations where you are almost guaranteed to react.

When you finally respond—angrily, tearfully, or even defensively—they immediately turn the tables. Suddenly, your natural, human reaction becomes “evidence” of your supposed toxicity, while their deliberate actions are ignored or minimized. They refuse to acknowledge their role in the conflict, deny any wrongdoing, and may even involve others to make you look unreasonable or unstable. Over time, this cycle leaves you doubting your own instincts, questioning your reactions, and feeling isolated from friends and family who may believe the unhealed individuals version of events.

Reactive abuse is more than just a moment of anger—it’s a carefully orchestrated trap.

Its purpose is to keep you off balance, constantly second-guessing yourself, and increasingly dependent on the toxic persons approval, all while they avoid accountability entirely.

It’s a psychological minefield designed to keep you trapped, shamed, and manipulated, often leaving deep emotional scars long after the encounters have ended.

Education is knowledge to make informed decisions when or if this attack occurs again, and yes it is highly likely to.

11/10/2025

11/10/2025

Educating oneself and becoming aware is your superpower, however when the toxic person or people learn of your superpower they may become very defensive and deflective telling anyone in their path that you putting up boundaries was an injustice to them.

They may attempt to manipulate you and bate you into a negative mindset so you respond as they hope which puts them in the victim status to others.

Put up boundaries by requesting a break so to recover mentally and emotionally and give time for reflection.

If over time the individual who you placed clear boundaries hasn’t shown any signs of understanding and attempts to continue the toxic behaviour then it maybe time to put up stronger boundaries. In doing this you will demonstrate to younger generations how to take care of yourself with a covetous and toxic individual.

09/07/2025

What is Toxic positivity?
It is a defense mechanism that causes people to bypass painful feelings and mask them under the guise of a positive mindset. It’s a tactic to avoid discomfort, sweeping real emotions under the rug, so you and others can be protected from sadness, anger, disappointment, or vulnerability.

Toxic positivity is dangerous because it causes us to repress our emotions, which can cause depression and even illnesses. It shames us for having a common human experience, and it keeps us from having true genuine connections with others because we avoid authenticity. Common signs for someone who is experiencing it are: feeling guilty for being sad or angry, dismissing difficult feelings, ignoring problems, or feeling pressured to “stay positive” during hard situations.