Unlocking You by Leigh

20/10/2026

📍 “It’s always like this at this time of year.”

You take on another task, move something of your own aside and tell yourself you can manage until Christmas.

You probably can. That’s part of what makes this difficult to notice.

If you’re someone others rely on, the year-end push can mean quietly making more room for everyone else, while leaving less for yourself.

The days get shorter, the list gets longer, and we promise ourselves we’ll rest when it’s all done.

My own experience taught me how easily responsibility can become a way of overlooking yourself. You care about the people around you and want to do things well, while gradually leaving very little room for what you need.

Nature slowing down won’t clear our calendars. It can, though, remind us to question the pace we’ve come to accept.

Does everything really need to happen before Christmas?

Does it all need to be your responsibility?

What are you setting aside to make room for it?

Some commitments will stay. Others may need a different deadline, a shared responsibility or a conversation you’ve been putting off.

What gets treated as urgent at this time of year in your workplace or family that could actually wait?

If you recognise this pattern, my 90-minute Energy & Clarity Reset Session gives us time to untangle what’s taking the most out of you, look at what keeps you saying yes and identify where you have room to make changes. ✨

You’ll leave with a clearer sense of what needs your attention, what can be shared or renegotiated, and practical next steps that fit your actual life.

Send me a message if you’d like to explore whether it would be useful for you. 💛

If you’d prefer to start with some reflection on your own, my free Sustainable Wellbeing Check-In is available in English and German.

You’ll find both links in my bio.

06/10/2026

👉🏼 I want to move forward, but I’m scared of ending up where I was before.

You’re feeling steadier after a difficult chapter, and you’re beginning to think about what comes next. There are things you’d like to change, perhaps even something you’re excited about. But you remember what it took to get here, and you don’t want to put that at risk.

Before long, you’re thinking years ahead, trying to work out everything that could go wrong. Alongside that comes the feeling that you should be further ahead already. Even something you want begins to feel like another demand.

You may be able to explain what makes sense, while finding it much harder to say what you would love.

Perhaps you’ve kept those wishes at a distance because it felt safer not to hope too much. Yet they matter when you’re deciding how you want to live now.

In my work, we give these questions time and attention. We explore the expectations behind the pressure and reconnect with the body, noticing how you respond as you talk things through.

There’s room to listen to your heart, too. To acknowledge what you miss and what you care about, without immediately turning it into something you have to do.

You can take your wishes seriously while respecting your health, your responsibilities and what is manageable today.

A first step might be a conversation, a small change to your week or exploring a possibility before committing to it. Something that helps you discover more about what fits you now.

If you’re feeling steadier but unsure how to move forward, you’re welcome to send me a private message. We can begin with what’s on your mind. 💛

25/09/2026

👉🏼 Your life can look so well organised and still leave so little room for you in it.

People see someone capable and dependable. They may not see how often you reach the end of the day feeling as though you’ve been there for everyone except yourself.

Perhaps you’ve come through a difficult time and everyone is glad to see you back. Perhaps life simply became fuller and more demanding, little by little, until you stopped asking what you want.

Beneath all of that, there may still be a longing to feel at home in your life again.

To be more at ease in your body. To spend time with the people you love without half your attention on what needs doing next. To enjoy your work and still have something left for yourself. To make choices because they matter to you, not only because others are counting on you.

Your responsibilities are real, and you may not know yet what could change. That doesn’t mean you have to stop imagining how you’d like life to feel.

This is what Human Wellbeing by Design means to me: looking honestly at the life you have now, making room for the life you want, and finding choices that are possible within your real circumstances.

Perhaps you can’t yet see exactly what a life that fits now would look like. We can begin there.

If you’d like to explore it together, send me a message. 💛

24/09/2026

👉🏼 “I’ve only just come back. I can’t tell them it’s already too much.”

You’re sitting in a meeting when another task comes your way. You’re still thinking about the favour you agreed to twenty minutes ago and the work you haven’t even started yet.

You hear yourself say yes again.

You’d promised yourself you’d do things differently this time. Yet there’s so much going through your head.

“Everyone else is stretched. How can I ask for help?”
“What if being honest puts my job at risk?”
“I’ve worked on this before. Why does this feel so big again?”

Later, you’re frustrated with yourself. You know what it took to recover, and you’re worried about ending up in the same place.

You want to be back. You care about your colleagues. Still, part of you resents being asked to take on more, and then you feel guilty for feeling that way.

It makes sense to feel torn. Your health matters, and so does your job. Knowing you need to speak up doesn’t make it easy.

The team is still short-staffed. Colleagues are off sick. Yet you find yourself thinking that if you’d really recovered, you’d be able to manage it all.

Having worked on your boundaries before doesn’t mean they’ll be easy to voice when you feel you have something to prove.

In coaching, there’s room to say what you’ve been holding back and explore what you need now. Together, we can go through what’s on your plate, work out what’s manageable and practise how to ask for support or explain that something needs to wait.

You can begin to work out what being back at work needs to look like for you to stay well. 🌿

What helps you recognise when you’re asking too much of yourself?

If this feels familiar, you’re welcome to message me privately. You don’t have to know exactly what to say. 💛

21/09/2026

✨ Sometimes we don’t need more energy before we begin. We need something worth moving towards.

There are periods in life when even thinking about change feels like too much.

Life is still moving. You’re showing up, taking care of what needs attention and carrying what has to be carried.

Yet there may be very little space left for asking what you want now.

So I’d like to invite you to pause for a moment. 🌿

What would you like more of?

✨ More space in your head
✨ Work that matters without taking everything from you
✨ A body that feels more like your own again
✨ Clearer boundaries
✨ Time that actually feels like yours
✨ Something to look forward to

You don’t need to know exactly how to create all of that yet.

You just need somewhere to begin noticing.

That’s why I created the Sustainable Wellbeing Check-In — a short, fillable reflection to help you see where you stand now, what may need your attention and what you might want more of next.

There’s no score, nothing to pass and nothing to get right.

Sometimes the first step is simply seeing clearly enough to ask a better question:

How do I get my energy back?

or perhaps:

What do I want my energy back for?

The Check-In is free, fillable and available in English + German.

🔗 https://leigh-br-lisauer-335e.mykajabi.com/the-sustainable-wellbeing-check-in

Take care,
Leigh 💛

A free, fillable reflective guide for stress, energy and recovery. Available in English and German.

19/09/2026

✨ Ich freue mich sehr, mit unlockingYOU von TenBest zu den 10 Besten im Kanton Zürich ausgewählt worden zu sein.

Herzlichen Dank für diese schöne Auszeichnung – und an meine Klientinnen und Klienten für das Vertrauen, das sie mir entgegenbringen. 💛

19/09/2026

✨ Sometimes we don’t fully realise what we’re feeling until we hear ourselves say it out loud.

“I’ve changed, and I don’t want to return to how things were.”

It can be a surprising thing to admit, especially when we don’t yet know what we want instead.

Change doesn’t always begin with a clear decision or a carefully worked-out plan.

Sometimes it begins as a quiet sense that the life, pace or role we once accepted no longer fits in the same way.

We may still be functioning, fulfilling our responsibilities and appearing capable from the outside.

Yet something within us has shifted.

Perhaps we’ve been through a demanding period, an illness, a loss or another life transition.

Perhaps we’re simply tired of living in a way that continually asks us to override our own needs.

At this point, the most helpful question may not be:

What should I change?

It may be:

What part of me most needs a voice today?

The body asking for a different pace?

The emotions we’ve kept under control because there was no space for them?

The need for more meaning, freedom or choice?

Or the part that knows it can’t continue in quite the same way, even if it doesn’t yet know what comes next?

Saying these things aloud can feel very different from thinking about them privately.

Being listened to without judgement gives us the opportunity to hear what has been trying to emerge, without explaining it away or immediately needing an answer.

Human Wellbeing by Design begins here for me.

Not with changing everything overnight, but with recognising what has already changed within us—and giving it a voice in what comes next.

My free Sustainable Wellbeing Check-In offers you a quiet place to begin. It will help you notice what’s still supporting you, what may no longer fit and what now needs your attention.

Available in English and German.

You’ll find the link in my bio, or message me directly and I’ll gladly send it to you.

What part of you most needs a voice today? 💛

17/09/2026

👉🏼 The past can belong to us without continuing to lead us.

There’s something so freeing in that distinction.

It doesn’t mean denying what happened or rushing past what still needs to be felt. Our experiences, emotions, expectations, roles and patterns have all shaped us.

Some of those patterns helped us cope.
Some helped us belong.
Some simply kept us going.

Yet something can have been necessary then and no longer be right for us now.

My recovery is bringing this very close to me.

It’s easy to focus on getting back—to movement, independence, familiar routines and the life I knew before.

Yet recovery doesn’t only have to be about returning.

It can also be about discovering.

What do I genuinely want back?
What am I ready to release?
What still belongs in the life ahead?
What might I choose differently from here?

We don’t have to relive the past or keep turning it over endlessly before we’re allowed to move forward. We can acknowledge what has been and still decide today what the next step will be.

Perhaps sustainable wellbeing isn’t about becoming someone new.

Perhaps it begins with pausing long enough to choose what still belongs.

Pause. Discover. Release. Choose. Design. Step forward.

The most important point in your life is now.

If you’re not sure where to begin, my free Sustainable Wellbeing Check-In can help you pause, take stock and see what needs your attention right now.

It’s available in English and Deutsch through the link in my bio—or message me directly and I’ll send it to you. 💛

16/09/2026

👉🏼 Sometimes the very strengths that got us through are the ones we need to question next.

Perfectionism. Responsibility. Being strong. Control. Achievement. Helping others. Resilience.

None of these are automatically a problem.

Often, they’re the very things that helped us cope, succeed, care for others and keep life moving when things were difficult.

That’s why they can be so hard to question.

A strategy can still work… and no longer be right for you.

You can still be capable and exhausted by the way you’re doing things.

You can still be dependable and resent how much you carry.

You can still be resilient and realise you no longer want resilience to be the thing your whole life depends on.

Sometimes we notice that before anything really breaks.

Sometimes it takes exhaustion, burnout, illness or a major life change to make the old way impossible to continue.

Then comes the part we don’t talk about enough.

What if you’re getting better, but you don’t actually want your old life back?

What if “back to normal” no longer feels like the goal?

Recovery can give you energy back.

It doesn’t automatically give you direction.

Sometimes the real question becomes:

What no longer fits?

What am I ready to stop carrying?

Where do I need a boundary rather than another coping strategy?

What kind of life fits who I am now?

Perhaps that’s the deeper work.

Not becoming someone new.

Not fixing everything.

Just noticing what has quietly outlived its purpose… and deciding what comes next. 💛

13/09/2026

👉🏼 What if the thing everyone admires in you is also the thing that keeps you going for too long?

Resilience is usually seen as a strength.

The ability to cope, adapt, get back up and keep going.

For many people, that strength becomes so normal that they barely notice it anymore.

They just do what needs to be done.

They keep the family going.

They show up at work.

They carry the pressure.

They find a way through.

People say, “I don’t know how you do it.”

Sometimes, the truth is, you don’t know either.

You just know you always have.

That’s where resilience can become complicated.

When you’ve spent years proving to yourself that you can cope, it becomes much harder to notice when coping is costing you too much.

You tell yourself it’s only a busy phase.

You’ll rest when things settle.

You’ll deal with yourself later.

Eventually, resilience can quietly become endurance.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently.

Sometimes strength looks like continuing.

Sometimes it looks like stopping.

Asking for help.

Changing the plan.

Letting something take longer.

Admitting that the way you’ve always managed things may no longer be the way you want to live.

Perhaps resilience isn’t proving that we can always keep going.

Perhaps it’s learning to notice sooner when carrying on is slowly carrying us away from ourselves.

That feels like a different kind of strength.

And perhaps a much more sustainable one 💛

Beneath the Surface — Reflection 12: Resilience ✨