30/04/2026
I just finished a workshop focused entirely on the shoulders, and I wanted to share some thoughts.
The knots in my own shoulders have felt like an impenetrable force for as long as I can remember, at least since I was fourteen, when I left for boarding school. I’ve come to think of them less as a problem to fix and more as something that has been faithfully doing a job.
When I work with people on the table and make contact with the tension held here, people very often have a visceral image arise of armor. The shoulder girdle is implicated in how the body learns to suppress feeling, particularly around breath. When we brace against something emotionally, the breath shortens and the muscles of the upper back contract, restricting the lungs from fully expanding.
I’ve noticed two patterns that tend to show up. Elevated, braced shoulders, preparing for an impact that may have already come and gone. And hunched shoulders that tend toward self-enclosure, a withdrawing inward. Both are protective, just in different ways, and in doing their protective work, both restrict the breath and the capacity to fully feel.
My theory is that the shoulders protect, carry responsibility, and maintain a vigilance that keeps us functioning. But in that same tightness, they can keep us at a distance from the emotions underneath that were never quite safe enough to feel, the grief, vulnerability, or pain that the armor was built to protect us from having to feel.
In somatic sessions, rather than pushing against that holding, I try to guide my clients to meet it with curiosity and gratitude. And when the shoulders are met with presence rather than being forced to loosen, the nervous system can start to register that it’s safe enough to let go a little. The breath gets more room to flow, and something that had no space to be felt might finally begin to move. For some people that has been grief, and in meeting that grief, people find themselves more in contact with a heart that has been protected for a long time.
If you recognize tension in your own shoulders and you’re curious to explore it, you can book a session with me at in Berlin or online at www.maricrook.com