From Anxious attachment to stable

16/07/2026

In a world where we are always chasing a dream, a goal, a person, place, a thing, or even a feeling, it's wise for us to try to remember...

Vessel first, light later✨

15/07/2026

There is no need or desire to wonder if someone is going to return to you after a breakup, when the relationship was harmful and hurt, when you realize that doing the work on your inner self means that if they do return, you are not likely to want them anyway.
That's energetic alignment, ladies!

14/07/2026

Monday 20th July @ 11am CEST join me for a FREE 1 hour workshop on how to move from "Anxious attachment to Stable" just click the link to sign up

Join me as we explore the core wound of anxious attachment, so you can finally understand what has been holding you back and keeping you in toxic relationship cycles.A short and empowering online workshop, Monday 20th July, 11 am CEST

21/10/2024

There is nothing more beautiful, than when the universe sends you instant signs to say you are aligned.
It's like being loved and hugged, by a most potent energy.
When you take the time to connect to your higher self, make a practice of doing it each day.
The rewards are tenfold.

You experience peace within, and so it is without.
You no longer feel like you have to struggle to achieve your goals. You just put in the work and regularly see signs, that guide you.
Confusion becomes a thing of the past.
You develop trust in yourself once again, and decision-making becomes easier.
Fear disappears and in its place faith is restored.
Everything feels brighter and you have more clarity.
The need becomes a thing of the past and desires, turn into reality.

www.connectedtoself.com
Because disconnection means living a life that isn't half of the life you were designed for.

19/09/2024

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19/10/2023

Do you behave in ways that you are embarrassed about afterwards, when interacting with your partner?
I know I certainly have in the past.
It was almost like I was possessed🫣

Then I would spend hours, going over and over the scenario...was it me? Was it them?

Why do I behave like that?

I would cry and cry, ashamed to tell anyone.

And this went on for years😭

Finally I discovered the answers as to why I was behaving like I did. And I was so relieved to discover that could put things right.

I found out that the hurt child inside me was running my relationships. Looking for her unmet needs to be met, through others.

That's why I was so childish at times, so easily hurt and demanding.

Always looking for ways to please and still not being loved the way I wanted to be loved.

I was neglected and disrespected, what ever I did.

I always put my needs to one side and still it wasn't enough.

I was exhausted with the cycle.

Then I learnt how to heal the little girl inside, to meet her unmet needs myself.
To give myself the love, care and respect and that's when things changed.

I no longer needed to have others love me.

I stopped being triggered when I feared abandonment.

I was no longer insecure and jealous.

I knew my worth and it wasn't for sale.

I felt powerful for the first time, because I wasn't giving it away.

Yet, I was softer, gentler, more open and not as defensive and protective.

All these changes just by healing and connecting with my inner child.

One of the practices I began to do was to imagine myself as a little girl, when I felt fearful, triggered or sad and ask her 'What do you need right now?"

And I always got an answer.

Sometimes it would be to be loved. So I would nurture myself with kindness, care and comfort.

Sometimes it would be, to feel safe. So I would ask "How, in what way?"
And it may be financially, so I would focus on how to build more financial stability. Or emotionally, so I would reduce time with people or environments that made me feel unsafe and uncomfortable.

There are so many ways and it doesn't have to be an uncomfortable, long and drawn out process.

On Monday 30th October I will be offering a 3 day online masterclass. Off just 2 hours max a day where I will be sharing the exact same process I used, that brought me where I am today.

Emotionally safe, strong, in my power.

Confident and open in love.

And open-hearted.

If you are tired of being in the same toxic relationships and want to feel love for yourself and others without being defensive and protective.

I invite you to join me on the 30th October.

It's just 49 euros per person, including a worksheet and if you can't make it, you will receive the recording.

Here's to living a fearless life of love and peaceful relationships.

Love Nic xx

24/07/2023

Could it be that one of the reasons you have struggled in relationships is because you don't know how to handle them?

Because you never observed a healthy relationship?

Because your father never made you feel you were special, so the first guy to come along who said you were special was embraced by you, because you'd waited your whole life to hear the words.

"You're special".

If this sounds like you, it's not too late to heal your 'Father wound' and create that wonderful relationship you truly deserve.

You my lovely are special, you just need to learn how to feel it.

Here are 5 Ways to begin.

1. Raise your value and self-respect by creating boundaries.
Say 'No' to what you don't want.

2.Reparent yourself by being your own father.

Protect yourself physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually by not allowing anyone to take from you, what you don't wish to give.

Provide for yourself, through work and giving yourself what you want.

3. Affirm to yourself daily, through mantras. All that you wish to feel
I am loved
I am worthy
I am enough
I am safe
I am powerful
I am special
I am unique

4. Put yourself first.
Most women feel selfish to put their needs first. But the truth is we have to embody what we desire to have.

5. Speak your truth kindly. Don't lose your voice, ever. Just because you want to be loved.
The greatest love comes from respect.
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