CM Counselling & Psychotherapy

CM Counselling & Psychotherapy Individual & Couples Counselling, Psychotherapy, Clinical Supervision and Coaching based in Golf del Sur, Tenerife.

18/06/2026

💚 A Little Reintroduction 💚

Hello again, I’m Carole.

As this page approaches its second year, and with so many new people joining along the way, I felt now was the right time to reintroduce myself and share a little more about me and this chapter of my journey.

Two years ago, I made a huge life change and moved to Tenerife. Like any major transition, it came with excitement (more apprehension if I am totally honest), uncertainty, growth and a lot of adjustment.

Moving abroad reminded me what it feels like to step outside of your comfort zone, rebuild routines, make new friends and adapt to new places. It was hard adapting emotionally to a completely different way of life. It gave me an even deeper appreciation of how important support, connection and self-compassion are during periods of change.

As both a therapist and a person navigating life myself, I understand that life doesn’t suddenly become “perfect” because we make a fresh start.

We still carry our experiences, worries, hopes and emotions with us wherever we go. But sometimes a new chapter can bring reflection, healing, a new perspective and growth in ways we never expected.

For those who are new here, I’m a UK accredited counsellor, couples therapist and clinical supervisor with many years of experience supporting people through trauma, anxiety, addiction, relationship difficulties, grief, depression, workplace stress, abuse and major life changes.

What matters most to me in my work is creating a safe, compassionate and genuine space where people feel heard, supported and accepted without judgement.

Over the coming months, I’m going to be using this page more to share supportive insights, reflections, mental health awareness, wellbeing tools and honest conversations about the challenges many of us quietly face in everyday life.

My hope is that this page becomes a supportive and encouraging space. Somewhere people can pause, reflect, feel understood and perhaps feel a little less alone.

Thank you for being here, whether you’ve been following since the beginning or have only recently found this page. I truly appreciate your support and connection.

And if no one has told you lately you don’t have to carry everything on your own. 💚

Carole

04/05/2026

💙Break the Stigma💙

Men’s mental health is something we don’t talk about enough — and yet it affects so many.

For generations, men have been taught to “be strong,” to push through, to stay quiet. But strength isn’t about carrying everything on your own. Strength is knowing when to speak, when to ask for help and when to let someone in.

Behind the smiles, the work, the responsibilities… there can be stress, anxiety, pressure and loneliness. Too often, those feelings go unheard.

The statistics are stark:
• Men are less likely to access mental health support than women
• Su***de remains one of the leading causes of death among men
• In many countries, around 3 out of 4 suicides are men
• Men are more likely to struggle in silence and delay reaching out for help
• Many turn to alcohol or drugs as a way to cope or self-medicate
• Fear of judgement or appearing “weak” stops many men from opening up

These aren’t just numbers — they represent fathers, brothers, sons, partners and friends.

Reaching out is not weakness. It’s one of the most powerful things a person can do.

Whether it’s talking to a friend, a partner, a therapist, or even just saying “I’m not okay” — that moment of honesty can be the start of real change.

If you’re a man struggling right now, you don’t have to do it alone. There is support. There are people who care. There is a way through.

If you’re reading this and thinking of someone — check in with them. A simple message, a conversation, a reminder that they’re not alone can mean more than you realise.

Let’s keep breaking the silence.
Let’s normalise support.
Let’s remind each other that it’s okay not to be okay.

12/04/2026

❤️Minding Your Peace in a World That Wants Your Participation❤️

There’s this quiet pressure a lot of us feel and the sense that we should be more involved, more social, more present in every space and every circle. And there’s a perception that this only really exists in “island life”… but the truth is, it shows up everywhere, small towns, villages and tight-knit communities.

That unspoken expectation to be at everything. To say yes more than you want to. To fit into spaces that don’t always feel aligned. For a lot of people, that pressure can feel really overwhelming.

And if you’re not showing up everywhere, people can be quick to make assumptions about who you are.

But the truth is… you don’t have to be.🥰

I’m learning to mind my peace and lean into the “let them” mindset. Let them think what they want. Let them misunderstand. Other people’s opinions are none of my business.

Not everything deserves my time or energy and I’m no longer feeling obligated to be part of things that don’t feel right for me.

I’d rather keep my circle small and real. A few genuine, trustworthy people over a crowd any day. People who don’t require me to prove myself or overextend just to belong.

Give yourself permission to make whatever choice feels right for you. Even if it looks different. Even if others don’t get it. That's really ok💛

You get to choose your people. You get to choose your peace.

Quality over quantity. Always.

25/03/2026

Taking Care of Your Mind Matters: Understanding Counselling and Psychotherapy

Counselling and psychotherapy are often talked about in the same breath but at their heart, they’re both about something very human: being heard, understood and supported.

They offer a safe, confidential space where you can pause, reflect and make sense of what’s going on in your life. Counselling often focuses on the here and now, helping you navigate challenges like stress, grief, or relationship difficulties. While psychotherapy can gently explore deeper patterns and experiences that shape how you think and feel.

And here’s the important part: Therapy isn’t just for when things feel overwhelming.

It can be a powerful, positive step towards:
• Understanding yourself more deeply
• Building confidence and resilience
• Strengthening relationships
• Learning healthier ways to cope
• Creating meaningful, lasting change

Reaching out for support isn’t a last resort, it’s an investment in yourself.

There are a few common myths that can hold people back:

❌ “I should be able to handle this on my own”
👉 We’re not meant to do everything alone. Support matters.

❌ “Nothing will change just by talking”
👉 Talking in the right space, with the right person, can be the start of real change.

❌ “Therapy is only for when things are really bad”
👉 It’s just as valuable for growth, reflection, and staying well.

❌ “It means something is wrong with me”
👉 It simply means you’re human.

One thing that’s really important to know is that qualified counsellors and psychotherapists spend many years training, developing their skills and working under supervision. This means they’re equipped to support you safely, ethically, and effectively holding space for whatever you bring, without judgement.

Choosing to speak to someone properly trained ensures you’re getting the support you deserve.

At the end of the day, counselling and psychotherapy are about giving yourself permission to slow down, to be heard and to take care of your mental wellbeing.

And that’s something worth prioritising. 💛

22/03/2026

💗Being Vulnerable💗

There’s a quiet strength in allowing yourself to be vulnerable.

In a world that often tells us to “stay strong” and “handle it alone,” choosing to open up can feel uncomfortable, even scary. But vulnerability isn’t weakness. It’s honesty. It’s courage. It’s being real about where you are and what you need.

And asking for help? That’s not failure. That’s self-awareness.

None of us are meant to do life entirely on our own. We all need support, connection and understanding at different points in our journey.

When you let your guard down, you create space for real connection. For healing. For growth.

You don’t have to carry everything by yourself.

You’re allowed to be seen. You’re allowed to ask. And you’re still strong when you do. 🤍

08/03/2026

💛One of the quietest pressures on our mental health is the belief that our lives should look like everyone else’s.💛

We compare our families.
We compare our friendships.
We compare the way our lives are “supposed” to look.

Psychology calls this social comparison, our natural tendency to measure ourselves against others to understand where we fit in. While this can sometimes motivate us, it can also quietly damage our wellbeing when we start believing there is only one “right” version of life.

We may look at someone else’s family and feel like ours isn’t good enough.
We may hear opinions about how relationships should work and begin questioning our own.

Over time, this can lead to self-doubt, guilt and the feeling that we’re somehow getting life wrong.

But life doesn’t come in one template.

Some people are born into supportive families. Others build their own support systems through friendships that grow into something just as meaningful and sometimes even more so.

Friends can become the family we choose. The people who listen without judgment, stand beside us in difficult moments and remind us we belong.

Research consistently shows that our mental health is strongly shaped by the quality of our relationships, not the label attached to them.

What matters most is having people who make us feel safe, valued and supported.

So instead of comparing our lives to someone else’s version of “normal,” maybe we should focus on nurturing the connections that protect our wellbeing.

Because sometimes the family we choose becomes exactly the one we needed all along.🥰

15/02/2026

❣️Belonging Without Fitting In❣️

Nearly two years ago, I made the decision to move to a new country and begin a new chapter in Tenerife with my husband.

It has been a journey of beautiful highs and painful lows. Along the way, I’ve experienced personal losses that required deep healing. Healing, I’ve learned, does not follow a timeline. It asks for patience. Compassion. Space to grieve. Space to grow.

Starting again in a new place is more than changing your surroundings, it’s rebuilding parts of yourself. It’s questioning where you belong. It’s wondering if you’ll ever truly feel settled.

There were moments I compared myself to others and people who seemed to integrate quickly, build friendships easily, or feel instantly at home. But comparison is a heavy burden to carry. It pulls us away from our own path. I’ve had to gently remind myself that everyone’s journey unfolds differently. There is no prize for arriving first. There is only honouring your own pace.

As someone who isn’t a typical extrovert and doesn’t thrive in cliques, I’ve had to find my own way. I value depth over volume. Genuine, non-judgemental, kind-hearted people over crowded spaces. And I’ve been incredibly fortunate to meet some truly kind-hearted souls here. The ones who show up quietly, discreetly and consistently. They know who they are.💞

Their presence has reminded me that real connection doesn’t have to be loud to be meaningful.

I’m also deeply grateful for the patience and steady support of my husband throughout this chapter. His quiet belief in us has made the unknown feel less daunting. And at the same time, I recognise that not everyone has a partner or constant support beside them.

If you are navigating change on your own, I see the courage that takes. Strength doesn’t always look loud, sometimes it’s simply showing up for yourself each day.🥰

Finding aligned connections has also meant having the courage to say no to spaces and dynamics that don’t feel right and not settling for less than respect, kindness and authenticity.

One of the most freeing lessons for me has been embracing the “let them” theory.

Let them misunderstand you.
Let them judge.
Let them choose differently.

And then let yourself choose peace. Let yourself choose growth. Let yourself choose environments that feel right.

Self-acceptance has been at the heart of this chapter. Accepting that I don’t need to fit everywhere. Accepting that healing takes time. Accepting that I am allowed to outgrow spaces that once felt comfortable.

After so much change, something has shifted. I feel grounded in who I am. There is a quiet contentment here now, not because everything is certain, but because I no longer feel the need to force certainty.

Will I spend the rest of my life in Tenerife? I don’t know. None of us truly know what the future holds. But right now, I feel aligned. And that feels enough.

If you are navigating loss, transition or learning to stop comparing yourself to others know this: your journey is valid. Your pace is valid. You are allowed to take up space without shrinking to fit in.

Sometimes the most powerful transformation isn’t changing your life overnight.

It’s slowly, courageously becoming more yourself.❤️

01/02/2026

Women empowering women matters more than ever. In a world where women are too often placed against each other, choosing support over competition is powerful. When we lift each other up, celebrate each other’s successes, and stand together through challenges, we all grow stronger. There is enough space, success, and strength for every woman—especially when we support each other.

At Tenerife Woman’s Club, we support, inspire, and empower each other—because when women support women, amazing things happen🩵

We are meeting every Wednesday at 11:00 at the Apolo Centre ( 1st floor).

01/02/2026

💜Letting Yourself Be💜

For a long time, I thought fitting in meant holding parts of myself back. Staying quiet. Staying agreeable. Staying safe.

Often, that comes from past experiences or times when being ourselves didn’t feel welcomed or when we learned that showing up fully might lead to hurt. So we adapted. We protected ourselves in the only ways we knew how. There is nothing wrong with that.

But sometimes, that protection lingers longer than it needs to. It can make it feel scary to allow ourselves to simply be or to trust again, our own feelings, our voice, or the possibility that things could be different now.

Healing doesn’t ask us to rush or to be fearless. It invites us to be gentle. To move slowly. To open up in small, careful ways that feel safe enough. Trust can begin quietly, in moments so small they almost go unnoticed.

Not every space will be right for us and that’s okay. But there are places where we don’t have to earn belonging, where we can rest, soften and be met with kindness.

You don’t have to shrink to be accepted. You don’t have to change to be worthy. You are allowed to take up space exactly as you are, at your own pace.

Sometimes, fitting in isn’t the goal at all. Sometimes, it’s about allowing yourself to belong gently, slowly and with compassion for all that you’ve carried.🥰

21/01/2026

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Golf Del Sur, Tenerife
Santa Cruz De Tenerife

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