Chantal Bruijsten

Chantal Bruijsten Tantra Therapy, Conscious Conception & Fertility. Guiding the path to connection and personal growth. Online or come to our beautiful place in Spain.

11/08/2026

I’ve been thinking a lot about tension lately.

We often see tension as something we need to get rid of as quickly as possible. But I’m beginning to believe that the more important question is not how we can avoid tension, but how we deal with it when it appears.

Maybe the first step isn’t immediately trying to change it.
Maybe we first need to allow it to be there.
To notice what is happening in our body.
To allow the emotion.
To let the energy move.
And to see what the tension may be trying to show us.

And then, just as importantly, it needs to be able to leave again.

How we do that will be different for everyone.
Movement, breathing, talking, crying, touch, meditation, being in nature, bodywork… sometimes we manage it ourselves and sometimes we need support.

The goal isn’t to create a life without tension.
It’s to be able to move through tension and return to calm and coherence, again and again.

I’m curious: what helps you truly let go of tension?

23/06/2026

Sometimes in a relationship, one person starts doing deep inner work and the other one doesn’t.

And this can be such a difficult phase.

One person is growing, opening, healing, changing and becoming more conscious. The other person may still carry pain from the past, but may not know how to look at it yet. Or may not even be able to see it, because it hurts too much.

I have been in this phase too.

For years, I was the one doing the inner work. Ybo was watching, feeling, resonating and sometimes walking a little behind me. It took him many years to consciously start working on his own process, but looking back, I can also see that he was already doing a lot unconsciously.

By staying close.
By listening.
By feeling what I was going through.
By staying connected.

And I think this is so important to remember:

You cannot make your partner do inner work.

You cannot force someone to open, heal or grow before they are ready.

Your responsibility is not their process.

Your responsibility is to stay honest with yourself. To feel your boundaries. To speak about what hurts. To share what you need. And to decide if this relationship still feels right for you.

For me, it was very clear: he was the one I wanted to be with.

And what helped us was to keep talking. Not to pull him into my process, but to share myself. To show my vulnerability. To let him see what was happening inside me.

Because connection does not always mean growing at the same speed.

Sometimes it means staying close while you both walk your own path.

15/06/2026

Through my work with Hypnobirthing and fertility courses, I have seen again and again how much stress can affect the body.

I have seen how it can influence birth.
How it can influence fertility.
How it can make the body feel unsafe, tense, closed or disconnected.

But stress does not only affect birth and fertility.
It can take us so far away from ourselves.

It can make it harder to think clearly, to feel our body, to stay open, to connect with the people we love, and to enjoy what is actually here.

And yet, stress is also very human. So the answer is not to judge ourselves for it or to stress about having stress.

The invitation is to notice it, and gently help the body come back to safety.
A few deep breaths into the belly.
A longer exhale.
Relaxing the face and shoulders.
Closing the eyes and feeling the body from the inside.
A hug.
Loving touch.
Nature.

Small things, but they can shift so much.

Your nervous system does not need perfection.
It needs reminders of safety.

28/05/2026

Maybe you are not fully ready.
Maybe you don't feel fully open yet.

That doesn't mean you cannot begin.

Sometimes beginning is simply pausing, breathing, and returning to your body. And very often, that is where real connection starts.

Body & Mind Ta**ra Retreats: https://youtu.be/DCRxfDIsKHU

26/05/2026

More peace, more openness and more connection with your body, yourself or your partner.

This is what my Body & Mind Ta**ra Retreats are all about.

In the full video, I explain more about the retreats, who they are for, and how this work can help you come out of your head and back into your body, your emotions and your deeper connection.

You can watch the full video on YouTube: https://youtube.com/shorts/-5kLJyGs8fc?feature=share

21/05/2026

In this video I explain what my Body & Mind Ta**ra Retreats are about.

They are private retreats in Spain for women and couples who feel they are ready to slow down, reconnect with their body, release what is still held in the system, and open to more connection and pleasure.

The retreats take place on our land in the mountains, surrounded by nature, silence and space.

If this touches something in you, you are welcome to contact me or book a free discovery call. www.chantalbruijsten.com/tantra

14/05/2026

This is a simple exercise for being really present.

You can do it with your partner, but also with yourself, to learn to be more present in your own body and to connect more deeply with yourself.

Place your hand on different parts of the body. Stay with each place for a few seconds. Be fully present. No rushing, no goal, no thinking about the next step.
Just bring your attention to that part of the body.

You can even name it softly, for example:
“This is your left arm.”
“This is your shoulder.”
“This is your hand.”

This helps the person who touches to become fully present with what they are doing. And it helps the person who receives to become more aware of their own body and of what they are receiving.

When you do this with yourself, it can help you come back into your body, feel yourself again, and deepen the connection with yourself.

Because when you are really present, you connect much deeper.
With yourself.
With your body.
And with the person you are with.

This can make pleasure more intense, energy flow stronger, and bring a deeper feeling of connection, love and being loved.

12/05/2026

I used to think taking responsibility meant carrying everything.
Especially as a mom, this pattern can feel so normal.

You carry the family, the house, the children, the relationship, the emotions, the planning, the needs… and sometimes even the happiness of the people you love.

And then you may feel frustrated when others don’t take their part.

But the truth is: sometimes they don’t have to, because you are already taking it.

What I learn again and again in my own life, and what I also work with in Ta**ra Therapy, is that taking responsibility does not mean carrying everything.

It also means knowing what is not yours to carry.

Your part is yours.
Their part is theirs.

Even when you love them.
Even when it is hard for them to take their part.
Even when it is hard for you to trust that they can.

When you leave responsibility where it belongs, there is more space to breathe, to trust, and to connect.

05/05/2026

The connection between mind and body keeps amazing me.

Most of us recognize how the mind can influence the body.
When you are stressed, worried or overwhelmed, your body often responds.
Your shoulders become tense.
Your belly tightens.
Your breathing becomes shallow.
You feel pressure, heaviness or restlessness.

But what fascinates me just as much is that it also works the other way around.
The body can influence the mind.
A deep breath can create more space.
A movement can help something shift.
A hand on the place where you feel something can bring you closer to what is really going on inside.

And the body has a memory too.
Sometimes it holds experiences, emotions or tension that your mind has already tried to understand or move on from.

This is why I love working with both the mind and the body.
Because real change often happens when they are no longer separated, but start working together.

30/04/2026

Many people try to stay strong, while their whole system is asking for release.

They keep going.
They hold it together.
They push through.

But sometimes real strength is not in holding more.

Sometimes real strength is allowing yourself to feel what is there and giving it space to move.

For me, this can be very simple.

Sometimes I sit down and breathe out loud, so my body has a way to let out what needs to come out.

Sometimes I place a hand on the place where I feel something and let it speak to me.

Not because I need to fix it.

But because the body often knows what wants to be felt, expressed and released.

And when that happens, there can be so much relief.

The energy starts moving again.

And you can feel so, so much better.

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