Stop Being Stuck

Transformation Coach for High Achievers who have tried everything and still end up exhausted | NLP | Hypnotherapy | Hawaiian Energy Work

09/09/2026

Growing software businesses are getting it all wrong.

That’s what I learned at Jodie Goodchild’s networking event yesterday.

When they are looking for a partnership, they usually end up with whomever the CEO happens to know.

No analysis, no plan, no strategy ❌

And that’s why they need Sara Smith.

She explained how she closes that gap for those smaller, growing businesses.

Create actual strategic alliances rather than just random partnerships 🤝🏻

She’s done the big corporates, and what really lights her up these days are the smaller businesses, the can-do attitude where you can make a difference.

And if you ever plan an icebreaker when Sara is in the room: Don’t ask about a ‘fun fact’.

We both very much agreed that the real fun facts are not the ones we’d share with colleagues 😂

And if your networking group is awkward and you are tired of all the sales pitches with everyone just fishing for their next client:

You’re in the wrong networking group.

I loved getting a glimpse into Sara’s world yesterday, learning something new and connecting in person with a woman with a very different story and many shared values.

07/09/2026

10 reasons why a coach isn’t ‘just a paid friend’.

1. A friend wants you to be comfortable. A coach wants you honest.

2. A friend validates your story. A coach digs into it.

3. A friend will just want to spend time with you. A coach sets a result they want to achieve with you.

4. A friend might help you make a decision. A coach will also work with you on consistent actions after that.

5. A friend doesn’t have a timeline. A coach has a set number of sessions to achieve that goal.

6. A friend helps you to see the problem. A coach helps you to see the pattern underneath.

7. A friend might chime in on why life is hard and why you can’t do X. A coach holds you accountable.

8. A friend might get jealous when you share a win. A coach celebrates the win with you.

9. A friend agrees with your misery. A coach unearths the limiting belief that creates the misery.

10. A friend helps you feel better in the moment. A coach helps you feel better for life.

02/09/2026

It’s just past the summer holidays, so I should feel full of energy … but I don’t!

Why is that?

It might be simple:

🥱 You only just got back from a trip and are still tired from travelling.
🥱 Your time abroad wasn’t a relaxing beach holiday. Your heart is full, it was exciting, but the body needs to rest now.
🥱 You had your normal routine with cooking, entertaining the kids, etc., just in a different location. So you didn’t actually have a break.

If that’s the case, focus on yourself for the next week and prioritise sleep, nourishing but easy ‘no-faff’ food (unless cooking is a passion for you) and the activities that energise you.

But if your tiredness doesn’t fit the pattern above, it might be something like this:

1️⃣ You run patterns like ‘people pleasing’ that mean you are always the one picking up the slack.
2️⃣ You don’t set boundaries or try to, and your environment (work, family, …) keeps running over them.
3️⃣ Your environment doesn’t align with your values (you value honesty, and the company you work for does ‘tweak the facts’ towards their customers).

You probably realised that no amount of holidays (and sabbaticals) does fix these issues.

And they are incredibly draining, way more draining than a full calendar with little breaks can ever be.

If you feel stuck in one of them, let’s have a chat.

27/08/2026

Five words that can change your life:

“That doesn’t work for me.”

❌ Your partner left the dishes in the sink instead of the dishwasher.
❌ Your boss dumps a last-minute request in your inbox that they had in theirs for a week.
❌ Your mother wants you to help with the groceries again when your sister hasn’t lifted a finger for a month.

The important thing: Stop and deal with your emotions first.

Calm down, by going for a walk, do a breathing exercise or scream into a towel (whatever works for you).

And then open the conversation with “That doesn’t work for me.”

You’ll notice that the energy of the discussion is completely different.

If you need a script for a specific conversation, I have various versions of what to say after that opening phrase for:

❌ General boundary setting
❌ Setting a boundary with someone who has crossed that boundary regularly in the past
❌ Saying ‘no’ to a request gracefully

So if you need some help with any of that, drop me a message.

25/08/2026

Isn’t it boring to work on your own all day long?

I work online with my clients. So apart from my husband I don’t ‘physically’ see a person all day long if I just do sessions with clients.

And life as a coach and therapist is so much more than seeing clients, write LinkedIn posts and do the admin.

This is what yesterday looked like:

✍🏻 Prepare my speech for the Holistic Beauty Takeover at Ollie Malones that evening
💻 Online networking call with the fabulous The Ribbons Network
🗂️ Book clients, confirm appointments, follow up on past clients
📧 Emails (who doesn’t do emails)
🗣️ Present Hawaiian Energy Sessions and do a whole bunch of mini sessions at the Holistic Beauty Takeover

Long day and faaaar from boring ❤️

19/08/2026

Reasons why I walk.
Part 4 of 4: The Spiritual Body.

It’s all about connecting to the elements:

Fire. The sun on my skin, the warmth building as I move.
Even on a grey day, there’s fire.
You just need to stay open to find it.

Water. Rain, puddles, the sea, my own breath.
Water finds a way around everything in its path.
Walking reminds me I can too.

Earth. Ground under my feet, solid and unmoving.
Trees, grass, the specific street I walk without thinking.
It steadies me before I've even noticed I needed steadying.

Air. The breath in, the breath out.
Feeling the wind on my face.
Sometimes air moves and sometimes air is still.

Four elements, one walk, one small return to myself.
Stop Being Stuck — sometimes it really is this simple. 👣

17/08/2026

What did you do on the weekend? If your answer is ‘nothing’ you might need to keep reading.

I had a great, unexciting weekend.

Gym, food shopping, laundry, a long walk, reading in the garden while the laundry dried (see picture) and a get-together for a beautiful meditation and a deep conversation on Sunday morning.

I got lots done and at the same time felt really refreshed for the week ahead (apart from a very tired lower back from the gym session, but that’s a story for another day).

If you replied ‘nothing’ there isn’t anything inherently wrong with doing ‘nothing’.

Unless you did ‘nothing’ because it was all you had the capacity and energy for.

‘Nothing’ can take many forms:
😔 Sleeping
😔 Doom scrolling
😔 Aimlessly watching TV
😔 Going with the flow with what the family wants without really taking part

Especially that last point: Not really being there and just tagging along. Not feeling the joy anymore.

That can be an indicator that you are burning out and you might not even notice.

So you might need to ask yourself: Was this just a one-off (happens to the best of us), or is this a common theme?

If it is the norm, you might want to talk to someone.

14/08/2026

It's safe to say that AI won't take over the world just yet. This post was meant to be about me being fed up with the heat...

I asked AI to create an image, and this was my prompt:

Create a picture of me, wearing warm autumn clothes (in warm colours), juggling the following things:

- Pumpkin
- Knitting project
- Cosy tea mug
- Halloween decoration

I meant one of each and tried to explain to the AI in no uncertain terms that I wanted only one of each.

Happy counting in the pictures.

Oh, and yes, I'm done with summer... 🥵

12/08/2026

I came across a really sad and scary number this week: Over a third of UK employees say they don’t feel comfortable discussing stress with a manager!

And the worst: This number is up from 32% to 35% in the last year.

I’m a bit lost for words here.

I had mostly amazing managers while I was still in the corporate world.

And I felt like I could talk to them when I wasn’t feeling great about it all.

Heck, they would come to me and tell me that they were stressed out of their heads.

And yes, when I struggled most with burnout, I couldn’t.

I talked to my husband, my friends and family.

But at work I didn’t feel I could open up.

That made a large portion out of the day a very lonely place.

If you are in this situation:

❔Is there maybe a co-worker you can talk to?
❔Do you have a mental health offering at work you can reach out to?
❔And if the answer is no, can you make your lunch break a ‘mental health refuge’ that makes you feel better?

You don’t have to go through this alone.

10/08/2026

Reasons why I walk.
Part 3 of 4: The Mental Body.

My best ideas never turn up at my desk.
I can sit there for an hour and get nothing.
Then I walk and they just... arrive.

There's something about rhythm and movement.
It untangles what sitting still keeps knotted.
Like my brain needs my legs to work properly.

If you're stuck on a decision, a problem, a sentence you can't finish:
Try walking before you try harder.
Sitting there pushing isn't always the answer.

A tired mind doesn't need more effort. It needs motion.
Part 4: The Spiritual Body — next.

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