02/09/2026
A practitioner handed me The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle when I was in agony.
They told me my chronic pain was accumulated emotional suffering I was keeping alive by identifying with it, and that if I was present enough, awake enough, healed enough, it would dissolve.
I couldn’t help but feel how sickly ironic that was. I know all about emotional pain manifesting in the body. It is my work.
Six years ago I could not wash or dress myself. I could not get my own boots on. I was 42 years old.
What got me out of it was going into it. Years of it.
The body, the unexpressed grief and rage, the ancestral work, the wee parts of me that hadn’t caught up with where I am now.
All that emotional pain from what happened after the traumas I experienced. I did that work and I am still doing it.
They knew this but they thought they knew better because they had read a book.
I did not transcend. I descended. And then I went down again, and again, a bit deeper each time. Healing is not a straight line and not a victory. It spirals.
I can put my own boots on because of that.
That book was written by a man who has never had his body, his pain or his emotions systematically used against him. Transcendence is an easier sell when presence has never been dangerous. When your body was not the thing you had to leave in order to survive.
And think about who was handed this book.
Women in their forties and fifties, whose oestrogen is dropping and whose rage has arrived all at once, and they are told it is their pain body. Their ego. Their shadow. Something to rise above.
Told to be a good girl. Again.
The problem with this is the direction of travel. That healing points up and out. Everything I know about healing points down and in. Into the body.
I have written about spiritual abuse in my latest blog.
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