23/06/2026
If you practise yoga (and youâre not living in a cave somewhere) this is where it actually matters.
You say your partner is avoidant.
You say they donât meet you.
You say youâre the one doing the work.
Maybe.
But letâs slow down for a second.
Because yoga doesnât start by analysing them.
It starts by looking at the one who is perceiving.
And this is where most people miss it.
You think youâre responding to your partner (or neighbour, friend, colleague)â.
But youâre not.
Youâre responding to:
what you think is happening
what youâve decided it means
what your system has already rehearsed a hundred times before
They go quiet.
You feel rejected.
They need space.
You feel abandoned.
They disagree.
You feel unseen.
And maybe none of those things are actually true.
In yogic psychology, this is Avidya.
Not seeing clearly.
Mistaking your interpretation for reality.
And once that happens, everything else follows.
You react.
You defend.
You withdraw.
You pursue.
You explain.
You try harder.
Not because itâs true.
Because it feels true.
Then something strange happens.
You start finding evidence for the story.
You call it intuition.
You call it a red flag.
You call it âjust knowing.â
Meanwhile, the same pattern keeps showing up.
Different person.
Same dynamic.
Different story.
Same feeling.
And at some point you have to ask:
Is it really the relationship?
Or is it the lens Iâm looking through?
Because until that shifts...
you can practise yoga for twenty years
and still find yourself repeating the same emotional pattern with different faces.
The practice was never about becoming more flexible.
It was about seeing clearly.
Thatâs where freedom starts.
Not when they change.
When you can finally see what youâve been bringing into the room.
Mind Mechanics is where we explore exactly that.
Comment MIRROR and Iâll send you the details.