Harmonious Counselling

Harmonious Counselling Kate Heavey - Harmonious Counselling
BACP accredited
Individual, couple, marriage + 2's. EAPs.

Qualified Psychotherapist / Relationship Practitioner
Relationships, loss / bereavement and adverse childhood experience (ACE)
We heal in relationship I am a BACP accredited counsellor and psychotherapist (BA Hons) qualified to work with both individuals and couples (additional qualifications received for couple and online work). Interests: Relationship, bereavement/loss, alcohol issues and BED p

lus more. Appointments

Monday, Thursday and Friday - online and telephone only. Tuesday and Wednesday - face to face in Alfold (near Cranleigh and Billingshurst, Surrey / West Sussex borders) and Walk and Talk Therapy in Surrey Hills. Initial consultation is complimentary for individuals and just £30 for couples (due to pre-assessment work). For my current availability, please check my website www.harmoniouscounselling.com . Email me at [email protected] or call me on 07941 305511 to arrange an appointment.

15/05/2026

The way people choose a counsellor / psychotherapist has changed hugely in the time I have been in Private Practice. With the arrival of 'interactiveness' and 'instant', feedback confirms that potential client / clients want to gain a sense of a counsellor before contacting. So, here I am!
This is my first time EVER appearance on the internet and I now have this video on my home page too.
If I feel like the therapist for you, go to www.harmoniouscounselling.com to see my weekly availability, and to book single-session therapy.
Because authenticity rocks 😁

11/01/2026

This is what I continually talk about in therapy, especially in couple work. The parent / child dynamic kills sexual connection as parents and kids should not have s3x. This can be the 'prince' or the 'princess' dynamic as there are also women that are wanting to be taken care of by men in a daddy way.
https://fb.watch/Ez53jgWioH/

Today I return to work after a fabulous restorative varied exciting tickbox bucket list holiday ✈️🎢⛱⚓️. I remain SO gra...
06/05/2025

Today I return to work after a fabulous restorative varied exciting tickbox bucket list holiday ✈️🎢⛱⚓️. I remain SO grateful to every client that chooses me to help me have such life experiences 🙏 .
Holiday reflection over work / life balance means it is time to take a break again from social media posting. I benefit so much from the experience / wisdom shared by others which helps me grow both professionally and personally. I will still be here reading; and offering counselling.
To my wonderful loyal followers; another thank you 🙏..... you are valued 💚.
Have a great Summer 🌞😎🌻.
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One thing about growing up and trusting that the world is a safe place is that I can journey and experience life. Today...
17/04/2025

One thing about growing up and trusting that the world is a safe place is that I can journey and experience life.
Today is the start of annual leave and, like every free child needs, it is play time.
We all have a free child within us (fun, creative, curious, spontaneous) and we all need to indulge in play.
(Remember; play is known to be a regret of the dying ... no one says I wish I had worked more yet many say I wish I had played more). Fulfill your dreams and get your bucket list done! 👋🌤👣🏖
Enjoy Easter 🐣🍫🛐 . Skips off returning 6th May....
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When I was younger I was taught to watch for the 'green man' as then it was safe to cross the road. Today I am aware th...
15/04/2025

When I was younger I was taught to watch for the 'green man' as then it was safe to cross the road. Today I am aware that, whilst I was informed about my external safety/environment, internal safety was not talked about and feelings were unwelcome. All our environments need to promote attachment needs of safety, security and consistency.
Gabor Mate speaks about trauma not being about what happened to us, it is about what happened within us so environment is key for safety.
Today how are you seen? How do you show up? How do you interact with others? i.e., connectedly or defensively?
Healing from trauma takes connection (so a green man of 'go' rather than a red man of 'stop') and feeling comfortable within (learning boundaries helps here too).
Today, give yourself permission to 'go go go' and get yourself the support, comfort and connection you need.
www.harmoniouscounselling.com

Tulley's Tulip Festival is just glorious and represents everything I love about the Spring garden... we plant in autumn ...
14/04/2025

Tulley's Tulip Festival is just glorious and represents everything I love about the Spring garden... we plant in autumn and nature does the rest.
People can be like this...... some people are dormant not working on themselves their whole lifetime whilst others are looking to heal their own traumas and do self-development work.
Remember we can heal epigentics, trauma and we can flourish / bloom🌷💐 .
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Listening... what if we gave ourselves permission to 'listen' as if we were at the cinema / being entertained? To be fu...
10/04/2025

Listening... what if we gave ourselves permission to 'listen' as if we were at the cinema / being entertained? To be fully captured by what is in front of us?
Actively listening involves facing your body towards, understanding both words and the emotional experiences of others, turning off devices, not talking/offering solutions, and then, after, just reflecting back what you heard.
When you offer this kind of listening / attention, do you think your relationships / connections may change? I virtually guarantee they would.
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Important to share:-Adolescence on Netflix has been very worrying for many parents (with valid reason!). A very kind cl...
09/04/2025

Important to share:-
Adolescence on Netflix has been very worrying for many parents (with valid reason!).
A very kind client sent me this article as I do not have Netflix.
It always feels important to know about 'influence' and 'learnt behaviours' as these children grow up to be the adults that struggle / enter counselling.

https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/review-of-adolescence-netflix

The reason this article is great is that it shares antidotes to help keep connection with adolescents. Namely (copied:-

What You Can Do: Practical Steps for Parents

Monitor your kids’ online activities – Know what they’re watching and who they’re engaging with.
Talk to them regularly (and listen twice as much) – Open communication is key.
Minimise screen time and foster face-to-face relationships – Encourage real-world socialisation.
Spend more time together as a family – Connection builds resilience.
Make sure he gets enough sleep – Poor sleep impacts emotional regulation.
Know where your kids are – Awareness prevents risky situations.
Ensure they have access to great adults who care about them – Role models matter.
Tell them the three most important words they can hear – Not I love you, but no matter what. They need to know they’re worthy of your love—always.

Closing thought: Maybe if we have this approach to all relationships, we would feel more connected.
www.harmoniouscounselling.com
(not promoting the whole website, just the link for this article)

One of the greatest tragedies in conversation today is that we often 'listen to respond' rather than to 'listen to under...
08/04/2025

One of the greatest tragedies in conversation today is that we often 'listen to respond' rather than to 'listen to understand'
I've always loved this Chinese Symbol which invites us in how to listen.. with sensory presence.
How about today you give yourself permission to 'just be with' the other person taking in what they are saying. Then, if you feel you need to respond, simply ask 'what do you need from me right now? (or your equivalent).
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2025 first bluebell spotting! They were basking in the sun on the Downs Link yesterday... a reminder that we live in a ...
07/04/2025

2025 first bluebell spotting! They were basking in the sun on the Downs Link yesterday... a reminder that we live in a visually stunning world and how important it is to get out and top up on natural Vitamin D 🌞 and endorphins 😁.
I would love you to share a snapshot from your weekend .... 📷📱💚
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Continuing with the theme of self-disclosure... what do you notice in this photo? Has 'mum' modelled something the infa...
03/04/2025

Continuing with the theme of self-disclosure... what do you notice in this photo?
Has 'mum' modelled something the infant is now mirroring? (it is uncanny how similar their expressions are). Look how the 'dad' is looking on...what do you notice about his expression? i.e., in awe or disconnected?
Might there be an impact on the child in later years of how this infant shows up for itself (self-disclosure)?
The Gottmans talk about how emotional self-disclosure is one of the strongest predictors of closeness and trust in a relationship.
Remember, when you let others in, they can better understand you, support you, and stand beside you more fully, as you can with them.
Your healing starts with you........
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