Ruda Holistics

03/09/2026

There was a time when I thought I needed to have more answers..

To think things through.
Push through.
Try harder.
Be more disciplined.

Figure out what was “wrong” and fix it.

What I’ve come to understand through my own journey is that so much of what I was looking for wasn’t actually another answer..

It was a deeper relationship with myself.
Learning to notice.
Learning to feel.
Learning to listen.
Learning to pause before reacting.
Learning to recognise what my body was asking for - and trusting myself enough to respond.

And this has changed so much more than how I feel in my body.

It’s changed how I navigate relationships.
How I make decisions.
How I experience disappointment.
How I rest.
How I care for myself.
How I respond when I’m anxious, overwhelmed or activated.
How I set boundaries.
How I allow myself to be seen.
How I trust myself.
And how I move through life when I don’t know what comes next.

This is the work I offer.

Somatic Alignment, Bodywork and Energetics create space to slow down, feel what’s happening beneath the surface and reconnect with the wisdom that is already within you.

You don’t need to arrive knowing what you need.
You don’t need to know how to “do” somatic work.
You don’t need to be fixed.

You can simply arrive as you are.
And we listen from there.

If you’ve been feeling disconnected from yourself, stuck in your head, overwhelmed by what you’re feeling, struggling to know what you need, or simply longing to feel more at home in your body…

I’d love to hear from you. 🧡

DM me “SOMATIC” and we can start a conversation about what you’re experiencing and whether a session might support you.

02/09/2026

Holding space is not about doing more. 💫

It’s not about how deep you can take someone, how intense you can make an experience, or whether you can create a visible release.

It’s about presence.

Your capacity to stay grounded enough to listen.
To feel your own boundaries.
To sense what is safe.
To notice what is arising without immediately needing to change it.

It’s about discernment.

Knowing when to guide.
Knowing when to pause.
Knowing when to say no.
Knowing when not to take someone further.

And perhaps most importantly, it’s about trusting the wisdom of the person in front of you.

Their body.

Their timing.

Their capacity.

Their process.

Because we are not here to become the authority on someone else’s healing.

We are here to create the conditions where they can begin to hear themselves more clearly.

Sometimes that means doing less.

Sometimes it means sitting in the silence.

Sometimes it means allowing discomfort to be there without rushing to resolve it.

And sometimes the most profound work doesn't look like a breakthrough at all.

It looks like someone leaving your session and making a different choice.

Walking alone.

Feeling an emotion without abandoning themselves.

Spending time in their own company.

Coming back into relationship with their own body.

This is integration.

This is embodiment.

This is where the work becomes theirs. 🧡

30/08/2026

We’re often taught to push fear away, overcome it, or avoid whatever is making us afraid.

But fear is part of our protective system. It is trying to gather information and prepare us for what might happen next..

Sometimes fear is telling us “pay attention.”

Sometimes it’s telling us “this matters.”

And sometimes it’s simply an old alarm responding to something that feels familiar.

The invitation isn’t to eliminate fear.
It’s to become curious about it.

What is it protecting?
What is it asking you to notice?
And what choice feels right once you’ve listened?

You can feel fear without letting fear make every decision. 🧡

25/08/2026

Grief isn’t a problem to solve.

It doesn’t always move in a straight line, and it doesn’t have a fixed timeline.

Sometimes it feels like sadness, sometimes anger, numbness, longing, exhaustion, or even moments of joy that arrive unexpectedly.

Our grief can tell us something about what mattered to us.

Rather than rushing to make it smaller, we can learn to make space for it - to notice what it needs, what it’s showing us, and how it changes over time.

You don’t have to “move on” from what mattered.

You can learn to carry it differently. 🧡

24/08/2026

24/08/2026

Rejection can touch something much deeper than the moment itself. 🌹

Sometimes someone doesn’t respond well to our boundary, and suddenly we’re questioning ourselves.

Did I ask for too much?
Should I have been more flexible?
Maybe I should have given more.

But what if their response isn’t a reflection of your worth? 🙏

What if your boundary simply showed you what they were - or weren’t - able to meet?

From a somatic perspective, there is so much to notice here.

The tightening in the body.
The urge to explain.
The fear of being left.
The impulse to abandon ourselves in order to restore connection.

Can we pause there? ✋

Can we feel the discomfort of rejection without making it mean that we are unworthy of love?

You are allowed to have needs.
You are allowed to say no.
You are allowed to take your time.
You are allowed to have boundaries.

And if someone walks away because of them, it doesn't mean you should have given more of yourself.

Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is stay with ourselves. 🧡

The goal isn't to never experience rejection.
It's to experience rejection without rejecting ourselves.

What happens for you when someone doesn't respond well to one of your boundaries?

24/08/2026

Anger isn’t inherently negative.

It’s information.

A signal that something matters, a boundary has been crossed, or a pattern needs our attention.

The goal isn’t to silence anger, but to listen to what it’s telling us. 🧡

16/08/2026

Grief isn’t only the loss of someone we love. Sometimes it’s the loss of a version of ourselves.

The person we were before becoming a parent, a miscarriage, infertility, an ended friendship, a parent, a relationship, a job, a home, a dream or a future we once imagined.

Grief lives in the body - affecting our nervous system, sleep, appetite and sense of connection. It can feel heavy, numb, or arrive in unexpected waves. We can feel okay one moment and undone the next.

This isn’t going backwards.

Grief isn’t linear, and there is no timeline for “getting over it.”

The body and heart have their own timing, and healing asks for patience: to feel, to rest, to be changed, and to slowly open again to love.

And trust - whatever that means for you.. faith, hope, something greater, or the quiet knowing that you are still here and will find your way back to yourself.

You already carry more wisdom than you know. Answers come slowly, in stillness.

Grief can take us into places we didn’t choose, but often it’s there we meet ourselves most deeply - what matters, what we can’t carry, what we must release, and who we are becoming.

So if you are grieving, don’t compare your path or rush your healing. You don’t need to make meaning before you’re ready.

For now, simply be where you are, trusting that even in the dark, the light remains.

And in time, your heart will find its way back to love - not the same as before, but deeper, wider, and more whole.

You will find your way back home to yourself. 🧡

15/08/2026

We often think of healing as something we need to do because something happened to us.

There’s an event, a wound, a loss, a pattern and we imagine healing means getting to a point where it no longer affects us.

But what if healing isn’t about fixing ourselves at all?

What if it’s about change, growth, expansion, and awareness?

From a somatic and energetic perspective, healing is less about getting rid of emotions and more about learning to be with what is here.

To feel without immediately labeling it.

To experience sadness without deciding something is wrong.

To feel anger without shaming ourselves.

To experience grief without rushing through it.

To let joy move through us without clinging to it.

To allow the body to feel what it feels instead of overriding or suppressing it.

There is wisdom in learning to pause.

To notice what happens in your body when a boundary is crossed.

To tell the difference between guilt and responsibility.

To recognise that someone else’s reaction doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong.

To say:

This isn’t mine.
This isn’t my responsibility.
This doesn’t feel right for me.

And to set boundaries or walk away without abandoning yourself.

Healing also means looking back - at how we grew up, what we learned about love and safety, and the experiences that shaped us.

Some patterns are ready to shift. Others may be part of our medicine.

The sensitivity. The empathy. The strength. The depth. The awareness. The desire to create something different.

Sometimes what shaped us also points us toward our purpose.

So maybe healing isn’t becoming untouched by life.

Maybe it’s about meeting life more fully.

To feel deeply without being consumed.

To sit with discomfort without escaping it.

To hold boundaries without guilt.

To trust the body’s wisdom.

To stay connected to ourselves while staying open to others.

To create space between what happens and how we respond.

And ultimately, to have more freedom, presence, and choice.

Maybe healing isn’t about becoming “fixed.”

Maybe it’s about becoming more fully ourselves.

12/08/2026

Been spending a lot of time by the sea lately 🌊

The water is calling me: the air, the space, the way it allows me to just be. To be present, to slow down, to flow with life. No phone, no schedule, no sense of time.

I’m obsessed with the colours in the sky, the scenes the clouds paint, and how it all makes me feel. 🤗

There’s something about being by the sea that brings me back to myself.

I think this is why I’m so drawn to somatic and energy work too. There’s something about coming back into the body, feeling what’s here, softening into the moment and allowing rather than forcing.

The sea seems to know this instinctively. 🧡