SeeClear Counselling & Mindfulness-Anxiety Specialist

SeeClear Counselling & Mindfulness-Anxiety Specialist I help people who feel overwhelmed by anxiety to feel calm and more in control of their life.

Providing a space to feel safe to talk about their experiences & discover useful tools to better cope with daily life. Free resources available here

https://www.seeclearcounselling.co.uk/courses-and-free-resources

Reminiscing on life last year and still proud of us both.On a trip to Legoland recently I convinced my 5 year old Grands...
19/06/2026

Reminiscing on life last year and still proud of us both.

On a trip to Legoland recently I convinced my 5 year old Grandson that Roller Coasters were OK, he’d never been on a roller coaster before and was understandably scared.

His fear was there in the queue, and kicked in big time on the sudden drop, but when he came off he was proud of himself and he enjoyed it.

I have also convinced, nearly, 60 year old me that I can do things that scare me and in the comments is a link to a recent podcast I was interviewed for.

Like my Grandson there was fear before starting, and when we ‘pressed’ go it kicked in, but now I have done it, and bravely listened to it, it’s OK, I am proud of myself and I enjoyed it.

If you are a counsellor and interested in giving it a listen here is what Josephine Hughes who interviewed me had to say about it

‘If anxiety has ever made you doubt your ability to run a private practice, this episode is for you.
Laura shows us what it means to run a business that works with your nervous system – not against it. It’s not about pushing through or pretending you’ve got it all figured out. It’s about taking steady steps, focusing on what you can control, and trusting the process.’

Here are another 2 things that you are probably doing to decrease your anxietyThat are actually increasing your anxiety...
18/06/2026

Here are another 2 things that you are probably doing to decrease your anxiety

That are actually increasing your anxiety

1. Overthinking to prepare yourself

Overthinking every possible outcome
feels like you’re preparing yourself.

In reality, you’re just keeping anxiety alive.

Most of the situations you worry about never happen, yet your mind keeps treating them as if they’re real threats, increasing your anxiety.

Thinking more doesn’t always create more certainty.

Often it just creates more anxiety.

2. Checking how anxious you feel all the time

“Am I calmer yet?”
“Why is my heart still racing?”
“Why am I still feeling anxious?”

The more you monitor anxiety, the more attention you give it.

The more attention you give it, the bigger it can seem.

Recovery often starts when you focus less on how anxious you feel and more on what you want to be doing with your life.

Do you recognise either if these?

What is Anxiety?Anxiety is an emotion that everybody has and we will all feel it at some point in our life.All emotions ...
18/06/2026

What is Anxiety?

Anxiety is an emotion that everybody has and we will all feel it at some point in our life.

All emotions help us to adapt, react and cope with life experiences, and anxiety is our emotion that helps us deal with threats and challenges that we face in our day to day lives.

Normally experienced anxiety is an unpleasant feeling for everyone but in most cases it will be short lived and you will find yourself returning to a normal state quite quickly afterwards

Some of you may be living with anxiety symptoms almost consistently and it can seem a mystery as to why you have anxiety, especially if it seems to come out of the blue

This could mean you have lost your ability to manage your anxiety and so it starts to become a regular unpleasant feeling, it can be with you from the moment you wake in the morning to the moment you go to sleep.

Think of anxiety like your pain response, if we didn’t experience pain we wouldn’t know that something was wrong with us physically.

Anxiety works in the same way, we rely on our anxiety to alert us of something that is dangerous to us and prevent us from being in a threatening situation.

The more things you feel are threatening to you the more often you will have an anxiety response.

Anxiety can be one of the most distressing moods we experience and can even lead to people ending up in A&E, because it feels like there is something physically wrong with you.

Find out more in my blog link in the comments


17/06/2026

Slow regular breathing is a big help with anxiety, but it takes practice.

Breathing exercises can be hard for people in a highly anxious state, and may lead to more panic, if this happens for you, you are not yet ready to practice this, maybe work with someone until you feel ready.

For years there were these constant thoughts in my head, the main one being,‘The worst case scenario is definitely going...
17/06/2026

For years there were these constant thoughts in my head, the main one being,

‘The worst case scenario is definitely going to happen’

It took me a long time to realise this was anxiety talking

You see anxiety acts like an internal alarm system that gets too sensitive.

It often speaks to you in negative, repetitive loops, using exaggerated “what-ifs” to convince you that everyday situations are dangerous.

What is your anxiety telling you?

Maybe
“If it isn’t perfect, it’s a total failure’’

‘’Bad things always happens to me’’

‘’All these people think I’m weird’’

‘’I won’t be able to cope’’

We call these cognitive distortions because your thoughts are distorting the reality.

What is it that your anxiety has been telling you?

This is me at 13.You’d think breaking my leg would have been the worst thing that could happen at that age.Not for me, i...
16/06/2026

This is me at 13.

You’d think breaking my leg would have been the worst thing that could happen at that age.

Not for me, it was actually a huge relief, at that time in my life School bullying was causing me a lot of heartache.

This meant I didn’t have to go to school for three months.

I was waking up every morning with a knot in my stomach, dreading the day ahead, trying to think up excuses to not go to school.
Suddenly, I didn’t need to think of excuses not to go. I had a legitimate reason to stay away.

Looking back, I can see how anxiety makes us want to avoid the things that feel difficult, uncomfortable or overwhelming.

Most of us do it in one way or another.

We put off making a phone call.
Delay opening an email.
Avoid a difficult conversation.
Avoid places that cause us to feel anxious
Find reasons not to do something that makes us anxious.

What about you?

What’s something you’ve caught yourself avoiding because it felt uncomfortable or anxiety-provoking?

Hopefully you didn’t have to break your leg to achieve it 😬

15/06/2026

What are peoples thoughts on this?

Good move or not?


About 10 years ago I made the decision to stop watching the news on TV, stop reading newspapers and reduce my news intak...
15/06/2026

About 10 years ago I made the decision to stop watching the news on TV, stop reading newspapers and reduce my news intake overall.

It was one of the best things I did to keep me mentally healthy.

Not engaging with threat or danger or sensationilised headlines made to lead me to feel the fear of a situation.

As our brain and nervous system are designed for our survival, the news was a constant stimulation of the danger to my survival.

That constant reminder of threat was a daily way to switch on my fight or flight response, from the belief my survival was in danger.

Now that stimulus is not there my brain does less overthinking trying to protect me, my body feels calmer and more relaxed because my fight or flight response is not constantly switched on and I feel more content with life because I focus on what is going on for me in my small part of the world, where no real threat is happening consistently.

What is one thing you have done for your mental health, that you found most useful?

2 things you are probably doing to decrease your anxietyThat are actually increasing your anxiety1. Avoiding situations ...
14/06/2026

2 things you are probably doing to decrease your anxiety

That are actually increasing your anxiety

1. Avoiding situations that make you anxious
It feels like relief in the moment, but every time you avoid something, your brain learns: “That situation must be dangerous.”

Anxiety grows when we avoid.

Confidence grows and anxiety reduces when we gradually face what scares us.

2. Trying to stop anxious thoughts
The harder you fight, suppress, or argue with anxious thoughts, the more attention you give them.

Instead of trying to get rid of them, notice them, acknowledge them, accept them and bring your focus back to what matters right now.

Anxiety isn’t usually reduced by control.

Anxiety is reduced by acceptance, understanding, and taking small steps forward despite that feeling of anxiety

Which of these 2 things do you find yourself doing most often?

I suspect in the moment your anxiety reduces, but you are still in a loop of constant anxiety

If you’ve had counselling, what was it that helped you most?Was it:* Being listened to without judgement?* Learning prac...
11/06/2026

If you’ve had counselling, what was it that helped you most?

Was it:

* Being listened to without judgement?
* Learning practical strategies?
* Understanding yourself better?
* Working through past experiences?
* Something completely different?

I’d love to hear your experience

Share in the comments

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