Tomarja Mind - Holistic Centre

Tomarja Mind - Holistic Centre Private quiet space, not on the high street. Perfect place for a relaxing without disturbances

31/08/2026

A beautiful weekend to end the summer, rest, reset and belonging 💕🌸🌺

A time I enjoy every year, time to be me, to see what my future should be, to have a sense of belonging in a world where there is no judgement, just freedom to be yourself ✨🌺🌸💕

Thank you ITW and all whose path I crossed, to those whose path is travelling along side mine, I look forward to the journey how ever long it may be and to those whose paths go in a different direction, I wish you abundance and happiness in all you choose.

Until next time, namaste to all 🙏🏻

Peace ☮️ ✌🏼

It’s been a while 💕🫶🏻A nice 1 hour facial treatment today, Indian head massage last week and more to come tomorrow 💕🫶🏻Wa...
13/08/2026

It’s been a while 💕🫶🏻
A nice 1 hour facial treatment today, Indian head massage last week and more to come tomorrow 💕🫶🏻

Want to book in and treat yourself to some you time? See the price list below.
Treatments are done within the peace and quiet of my home, away from the hussle and hussle of the high street

An honest post from deep within.I’ve been reflecting a lot lately on the relationships I’ve had throughout my life and t...
12/08/2026

An honest post from deep within.

I’ve been reflecting a lot lately on the relationships I’ve had throughout my life and the roles I’ve allowed myself to take within them.

For much of my life, I’ve felt controlled by others. I used to wonder whether that meant I had simply chosen the wrong people. But I don’t believe that anymore. They were the right people for what I needed at that particular point in my life. Every relationship taught me something, even when the lesson came at a cost.

As I’ve grown, so has my confidence. I’ve learned to think for myself, speak for myself and stand on my own two feet. And with that growth came a difficult realisation: when you change, some people struggle with the fact that you no longer fit the position they had created for you in their life.

I’ve also spent a lot of my life helping others through their struggles. I’ve been the person people turn to when they need support, reassurance, practical help or someone to carry some of their weight.

Recently, someone told me that they needed me in their life.

And something about that word stopped me in my tracks.

I realised that for so long, I have felt needed, but I’m not sure I have ever truly felt wanted.

There is a difference.

I don’t want my value in someone’s life to come from what I can do for them, what I can fix for them, how much responsibility I can carry, or how much of myself I’m willing to sacrifice.

I don’t want to be needed because someone wants control, or because my independence threatens the role they expected me to play. Equally, I don’t want to be needed because someone has become dependent on me doing everything for them rather than learning to stand on their own two feet.

I want relationships where people choose me simply because they want me there.

Not for what I provide.
Not for what I fix.
Not for what I carry.
Not because they need something from me.

Just because I am me.

After almost hitting rock bottom again, and dealing with the consequences of that this past week, I’ve made myself a promise:

I will never knowingly allow anyone to make me feel that way again.

I know I can’t force anyone to want me in their life, and I wouldn’t want to.

But I can decide what I’m willing to accept in mine.

I will always care deeply. I will always help where I can. That part of me isn’t something I want to lose.

But I’m learning that being a good person doesn’t mean abandoning yourself for everyone else.

So from now on, I’m choosing relationships where I am valued, respected and wanted — not simply needed.

And perhaps, most importantly, I’m finally learning to choose myself too.

Let’s talk about hope 💕What do you hope for?I hope I’ll win the lottery.I hope that one day there will be world peace.I ...
11/08/2026

Let’s talk about hope 💕

What do you hope for?

I hope I’ll win the lottery.
I hope that one day there will be world peace.
I hope my children are happy, healthy and successful in life.

These are all beautiful things to hope for… but sometimes, that’s where it ends.

Hope can be a fleeting thought. A wish. A whim. Something we say when we want an outcome but haven’t yet decided to take responsibility for the journey towards it.

“I hope I win the lottery” — but I don’t even play.

“I hope there will one day be world peace” — but what am I personally doing to contribute to a more peaceful world?

“I hope my children have a happy and successful life” — but am I teaching them the mindset, resilience, confidence and values that might help them create that life?

There’s nothing wrong with hope. In fact, hope can be incredibly powerful. It can give us something to believe in when things feel uncertain. It can keep us moving when we can’t yet see the outcome.

But hope without action can become a hiding place.

Think about something as simple as spilling a glass of milk.

Do you hope you’ll clean it up?

No. You get a cloth and clean it up.

If you become poorly, do you simply hope you’ll get better?

Of course, we hope we do — but we also seek help, rest, change our habits, take medication when appropriate, nourish our bodies and do the things within our control to support our recovery.

So why do we treat our dreams and goals differently?

“I hope I get this job.”

What if you changed that to:

“I will get this job.”

And then asked yourself, What do I need to do to make that more likely?

“I hope I become healthier.”

What if it became:

“I am going to become healthier.”

And then you changed your habits, your environment, your choices and ultimately, your mindset?

“I hope I become more confident.”

What if it became:

“I am going to work on my confidence.”

And then you started doing the uncomfortable things that help confidence grow?

The words we use matter.

Not because simply changing “I hope” to “I will” magically changes our lives — but because the language we use can change the way we think.

Hope looks towards a possibility.
Action moves us towards a reality.

We can’t control everything. Life will always throw things at us that are completely outside of our control. Sometimes we will work incredibly hard and still not get the outcome we wanted.

But there is a huge difference between saying “I hope things change” and asking yourself:

“What can I do to create change?”

So today, notice how often you say “I hope…”

And when you catch yourself saying it, pause for a moment.

Ask yourself:

Is this something I’m simply wishing for, or is there something I can actually do about it?

Because your thoughts influence your words.
Your words influence your actions.
Your actions become your habits.
And your habits can shape your life.

So by all means, hope. 💕

Hope for beautiful things.
Hope for better days.
Hope for your dreams.

But don’t leave it there.

Hope is the starting point — action is what brings it to life. ❤️

Start the day right 💕🥰Do life for you. Put yourself first, and don’t feel guilty about it. ❤️Take time out. Be still. En...
11/08/2026

Start the day right 💕🥰

Do life for you. Put yourself first, and don’t feel guilty about it. ❤️

Take time out. Be still. Enjoy your own company. Be kind to yourself. Rest, recharge, recuperate… and simply be. 😌✨

You deserve the same love, care and energy that you so freely give to others. 💕

Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is let go of what no longer serves you.✨ Cut the cords.✨ Release the negat...
05/08/2026

Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is let go of what no longer serves you.

✨ Cut the cords.
✨ Release the negativity.
✨ Cleanse your soul.

Make space for peace.
Welcome positivity.
Embrace the life you deserve. 💛

A New Day 🌅Life is full of opposites.🌙 Night reminds us to appreciate the beauty of the day.🌧️ Rain helps us cherish the...
10/07/2026

A New Day 🌅

Life is full of opposites.

🌙 Night reminds us to appreciate the beauty of the day.
🌧️ Rain helps us cherish the sunshine.
💔 Sadness makes happiness feel even sweeter.
💪 Challenges reveal our strength.
❌ Failure teaches us how to succeed.
😔 Bad days make the good ones unforgettable.

Just like every sunset is followed by a sunrise, every difficult season is followed by the chance for a fresh start.

Today is a new day. A blank page. A new opportunity to choose hope, kindness, gratitude, and joy.

No matter what yesterday looked like, today is yours to write.

Embrace the light, learn from the darkness, and keep moving forward. Your best days may still be ahead of you. ☀️💙

There was a time when one bad day would turn into a bad week. I’d let it consume me, replaying everything over and over ...
08/07/2026

There was a time when one bad day would turn into a bad week. I’d let it consume me, replaying everything over and over until it felt impossible to move forward.

Now, things are different.

When I’m struggling, I sit with the feeling instead of fighting it. I acknowledge why I’m feeling that way. I ask myself, “Am I actually in danger right now, in this moment?” The answer is almost always no. It’s the trigger talking, not my reality.

I let the thoughts come, and I let them go. I don’t have to believe every thought my mind throws at me.

Progress isn’t about never having bad days. It’s about recovering more quickly and not letting one difficult moment become a setback.

Tomorrow is another opportunity to take a step forward instead of backward. And I’ll keep choosing forward, one day at a time. 💙

Twenty-two months ago today, I responded to a Facebook advert that claimed a man had healed his own brain.It sounded far...
06/07/2026

Twenty-two months ago today, I responded to a Facebook advert that claimed a man had healed his own brain.

It sounded far-fetched, and I wasn’t sure whether to believe it or not. But at that point in my life, I didn’t really care. The tickets were inexpensive, so my expectations weren’t particularly high. I simply wanted a day out in London, a change of scenery, and a chance to escape the constant noise in my mind.

Then I attended my first workshop with Ray Behan.

The only word I could find afterwards was: WOW.

Since that day in September 2024, I’ve attended two more workshops, and they’ve helped me begin one of the most important journeys of my life.

I’ve looked deep within myself and rediscovered the person I truly am. I’ve released years of trauma, learnt to protect my energy, and become comfortable saying “no” when something doesn’t serve me. I’ve learnt to embrace every emotion and every experience—whether joyful or difficult—and to look for balance in all aspects of life.

There are still good days and bad days. Some days I need to pause, rest, and listen to what my body and mind are telling me. I’ve learnt to trust my own instincts instead of the opinions of others. I’ve found peace where I once sought distraction, and I’ve discovered strength in slowing down.

It hasn’t always been easy. At times, it’s been overwhelming. But over the past few months, I’ve reached a place I never thought possible.

I can honestly say: I love who I am.

I’m proud of the person I’ve become. I’ve taken responsibility for my mistakes, learnt from my past, and finally feel at peace with the person I’ll spend the rest of my life with—me.

Today marks the beginning of another exciting chapter as I start a new full-time job. I’m excited, nervous, confident and apprehensive all at once—and that’s okay. Growth often comes with uncertainty, and I’ve learnt that balance is what keeps us grounded.

If you’re searching for the person you used to be before life became complicated, don’t give up. They’re still there, waiting to be rediscovered.

And if you need someone to walk alongside you, or simply someone to listen, my inbox is always open. ❤️

We tell people “I love you” so often that sometimes those words become part of our routine. They’re still important, but...
29/06/2026

We tell people “I love you” so often that sometimes those words become part of our routine. They’re still important, but there’s something else we don’t say enough…

Thank you.

Thank you for always answering the phone.
Thank you for making me laugh when I needed it most.
Thank you for checking in.
Thank you for believing in me when I couldn’t believe in myself.
Thank you for simply being here.

Being thanked gives someone something different than being loved. It reminds them that they matter. That they’ve made a difference. That their presence has purpose. Sometimes, that’s exactly what a person needs to hear.

You never truly know what someone is carrying behind their smile. A simple “thank you for being in my life” could be the reminder that they are seen, valued, and appreciated.

Today, don’t just tell someone you love them.

Tell them why you’re grateful they’re here.

It might seem like a small gesture to you, but to someone fighting a battle you know nothing about, it could mean everything.

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