10/06/2026
💙 Oscar and "Lying"
One of the hardest things for us to understand was why Oscar would sometimes tell us things that weren't true.
We'd ask a simple question and get an answer that didn't match what had happened.
At first, it looked like dishonesty.
But over time, we learned there can be more going on beneath the surface.
For some people with ADHD, an answer can come out before they've had time to think. Sometimes they're worried about getting into trouble. Sometimes they're embarrassed, overwhelmed, or trying to avoid disappointing the people they care about.
That doesn't mean lying is okay.
But understanding the reason behind a behaviour helps us support rather than simply punish.
Instead of asking, "Why are you lying?"
We started asking, "What's making it hard to tell the truth right now?"
Understanding behaviour doesn't remove responsibility—it helps create a path towards learning, trust, and growth.
💬 Have you experienced something similar?