Wishing You Well

20/06/2026

Some of us feel cruelty like a bruise on the soul and carry injustice in our bodies long after the world has moved on.

Highly sensitive people don’t just witness harm - they absorb the emotional temperature of it feeling the rupture in the field and sensing the wrongness before language arrives.

If you’ve ever wondered why unkindness shakes you, or why unfairness leaves you unsettled, it’s because your system is built for truth, integrity, and connection.

Your sensitivity is not overreaction - it is your inner compass saying, “This mattered. This was not okay.”

Counselling can be a deeply supportive space for highly sensitive people - a place where your depth isn’t “too much,” where your emotional clarity is understood rather than questioned, where your nervous system is met with steadiness instead of pressure. It offers room to process at your natural pace, to explore what your body holds and to understand your sensitivity as a strength rather than a flaw.

Counselling can help you feel more anchored in who you are, even when the world feels loud.

See www.wishing-you-well.co.uk or https://www.bacp.co.uk/therapists/406729/sabrina-evans/ for more information.

15/06/2026

I’m moving into a new therapy room - a positive and meaningful transition in the ongoing growth of my practice.

Change can feel both energising and steadying, and this move holds a bit of both; a fresh sense of possibility, and a reminder that we’re always evolving - in life and in the work.

I’m looking forward to settling into this room as it takes shape around me 💛

12/06/2026

Many of us live with an internal conflict; the longing to be close to others, and the fear of being truly seen.

We want connection, to feel understood, relationships where we don’t have to perform, minimise ourselves, or stay on guard.

And at the same time, being seen can feel exposing. Past experiences may have taught us that visibility comes with risk; judgement, misunderstanding, or the possibility of being dismissed or rejected. So we soften parts of ourselves, hold back, or stay just a little out of reach.

This isn’t confusion - it’s protection. Two parts of you are trying to keep you safe in different ways: the part that longs for closeness, and the part that remembers what it felt like when closeness wasn’t safe.

Counselling can help you explore this tension without rushing either part. It offers a relationship where you can:
- take your time
- notice what feels safe and what doesn’t
- explore your patterns without shame
- practise being seen in small, manageable steps
- experience connection that doesn’t demand performance
- build trust at a pace that respects your nervous system

Over time, many people find that the part of them that longs for closeness begins to feel less alone - and the part that fears exposure begins to soften, simply because it’s no longer carrying everything by itself.

If this tension feels familiar, you’re not the only one navigating it.

See www.wishing-you-well.co.uk or https://www.bacp.co.uk/therapists/406729/sabrina-evans/ for more information.

01/06/2026

This month I’ve been reflecting on belonging. What it means to find a place in the world that feels steady, safe, and true… not because you’ve worked hard to fit in, but because you’re slowly returning to yourself.

So many of us carry a quiet ache around belonging - a sense of being slightly on the edges of things, slightly different, slightly out of step. Not because we are doing anything wrong, but because of the ways we have learned to stay safe.

In this month’s reflection, I explore belonging as something we grow toward - gently, gradually - through self‑permission, nervous‑system safety, and the small moments where we stop abandoning ourselves.

If belonging has ever felt complicated for you, this piece might offer a gentle way of understanding why, and what it looks like to find your place again.

You can read it here:

A counsellor’s reflection on identity, safety, and the inner work of finding your place in the world

26/05/2026

Many of us move through the day without noticing what’s subtly draining us - or what’s gently supporting us. Our energy isn’t a fixed resource, it shifts depending on what we’re holding, what we’re carrying, and what’s asking for our attention.

Some things drain us.
Some things steady us.
Some things give a little back.
And our bodies usually tell us long before our minds catch up.

If you’ve been feeling stretched or flat, you’re not doing anything wrong, your system is communicating with you.

A reflection for today: What’s taking energy from you? What’s helping you stay steady? What’s giving even a tiny bit back?
You don’t need to fix anything, just notice. Noticing is a form of care.

See www.wishing-you-well.co.uk or https://www.bacp.co.uk/therapists/406729/sabrina-evans/ for more information.

09/05/2026

We often assume that emotions fade if we ignore them. In reality, unprocessed feelings don’t disappear - they settle into the body and begin to speak in different ways. A tight chest that arrives without warning, a heaviness that doesn’t match the day, irritability that feels out of character, a sense of being “too much” or “not enough”, a sudden urge to withdraw, or a familiar ache you can’t quite name.

These experiences are not signs of weakness, they are signs of a system carrying more than it had support to feel at the time. What gets buried varies from person to person; it might be sadness that felt too big. Shame that was learned, not chosen. Fear that once kept you safe. Anger that had no acceptable outlet. Tenderness that wasn’t met. Unexpressed love - a care, longing, or affection that had nowhere to go, so it folded itself inward. Grief - the quiet kind that accumulates over years, not days. Or the feeling of being disappointed or let down - moments where you needed more than you received and learned to expect less in order to cope.

None of these emotions are wrong - they are simply unfinished experiences waiting for space.

Counselling offers a steady, confidential place where these emotions can be met rather than managed alone, where you can explore the body’s signals with curiosity rather than judgement, understand why certain feelings were pushed down in the first place, gently reconnect with emotions that have been silenced or misunderstood, build the capacity to feel without becoming overwhelmed and make sense of patterns that once protected you but now keep you stuck.

You don’t have to force anything to the surface, and you don’t need the right words. Counselling provides the time, containment, and relational steadiness for buried emotions to rise at their own pace, be understood, and finally soften.

See www.wishing-you-well.co.uk or https://www.bacp.co.uk/therapists/406729/sabrina-evans/ for more information.

02/05/2026

Many people think vulnerability means “sharing everything.” But real vulnerability is quieter than that - it’s choosing honesty over perfection, it’s saying “I’m finding this hard” instead of “I’m fine.” It’s letting someone meet you where you truly are.

If vulnerability feels difficult, it doesn’t mean you’re closed or distant - it means you’ve learned to protect what’s tender.

This month I've written about why vulnerability can feel risky - and how to open up without losing your sense of safety. You can read it here:

A counsellor’s reflection on openness, safety, and the quiet bravery of letting yourself be known

27/04/2026

Attachment styles shape how we connect, protect, and relate - often without us realising it. They’re not fixed labels, but patterns we learned early on to feel safe. With awareness and support, these patterns can soften and evolve.

Many people feel confused by their reactions in relationships - the pull for closeness, the urge to withdraw, the fear of being “too much” or “not enough”. Understanding your attachment style helps these responses make sense; they become information, not flaws.

It’s also important to remember that attachment is contextual. You might have a dominant style, but your responses can shift depending on the relationship, the level of safety you feel, and the stress your system is carrying. Some people bring out your openness; others activate old protective strategies. This isn’t failure - it’s adaptation. Attachment exists on a spectrum; you may lean anxious when you care deeply, lean avoidant when overwhelmed, or move between both when intimacy feels both comforting and risky. These shifts simply show what your body has learned to expect.

Counselling offers a space to explore what feels activating, understand how your nervous system responds to closeness or distance, and make sense of these patterns with compassion - helping you build the internal safety that allows more secure, grounded connection to grow, both with others and with yourself.

See www.wishing-you-well.co.uk or https://www.bacp.co.uk/therapists/406729/sabrina-evans/ for more information.

25/04/2026

So many of us move through life feeling like we’re always one step behind our own worth. We keep climbing, striving, stretching… hoping that the next achievement, the next healed part, the next version of ourselves will finally feel like “enough.”

But the ladder keeps growing; another rung, another goal, another expectation we never agreed to but somehow carry. Sometimes the problem isn’t the ladder at all; it’s the belief that we must keep climbing to earn rest, belonging, or safety.

Counselling offers a place to pause on the rung you’re already standing on. A place to explore who taught you that stillness is dangerous, or that your value lives in your productivity. A place to meet the parts of you that fear stopping - and the parts that are quietly longing for it.

Together, we can soften the old stories that keep you climbing and help you build a steadier sense of “enough” from the inside out.

You’re allowed to stop, to breathe and to be enough - even here.

See www.wishing-you-well.co.uk or https://www.bacp.co.uk/therapists/406729/sabrina-evans/ for more information.