Happy Healthy Life

Happy Healthy Life Trauma-Informed Coaching + Yoga Hi, Im Frances

I'm the Yoga teacher for people who think that they can't do yoga. The come and chat to me!

Have you been intimidated by a regular Yoga class? Do you feel like you have a barrier or challenge which prevents you from doing Yoga, even though you want to? I have helped a number of clients with all sorts of challenges to access the benefits of Yoga. To feel the benefits of practicing
gentle movement
breathing techniques
relaxation
meditation

To feel less stiff
To feel more positive
To manage stress

Come over and join my Facebook community https://www.facebook.com/groups/happyhealthyyoga

28/08/2026

I know that many of you want to feel calmer

But I’m going to let you into a secret… being calm all of the time isn’t really the goal

Because life isn’t calm...

🌊There are difficult decisions to make

🌊Relationships that challenge us

🌊Supporting our kids as they navigate their challenges

🌊Work pressures

🌊Financial worries

🌊Disappointments

🌊Uncertainty

There are also things that require us to step outside our comfort zone...

💪🏻Starting something new

💪🏻Putting ourselves out there

💪🏻Being seen

💪🏻Taking a risk

💪🏻Doing something simply because we want to

Understanding my nervous system and learning to listen to my body hasn’t given me a life where I don’t experience any stress.

It has given me more capacity to live my life when stress shows up…

It’s helped me make difficult decisions in relationships

It’s helped me support my children through some really challenging situations

It’s helped me understand and work with my ADHD rather than constantly fighting against myself

It’s helped me run a business and keep putting myself out there even when that feels uncomfortable

And sometimes it means noticing that I need to spend an afternoon lying on a beach and actually letting myself do that!

Calm isn’t the destination

The destination is having enough space within ourselves to choose...

To rest when we need to rest

To act when we need to act

To say no

To say yes

To take the risk

To have the difficult conversation

To change our minds

To trust ourselves

To live ❤️

What would having more of that space make possible for you?

Sometimes the changes that happen through this work aren’t the ones we expect.I received this feedback from a previous c...
27/08/2026

Sometimes the changes that happen through this work aren’t the ones we expect.

I received this feedback from a previous client:

“A truly personalised programme which has given me the confidence to apply for a new job, put in place boundaries with difficult relationships and even helped me to respect myself enough to question my relationship with alcohol as support.”

I love this because none of these things are just about feeling calmer…

They’re about choice.

The choice to go after something you want.

The choice to set a boundary in a relationship.

The choice to question a coping mechanism that perhaps isn’t serving you anymore.

This is what I mean when I talk about breaking cycles.

We can spend years knowing what we should do.

Knowing we should set the boundary.

Knowing we aren’t happy in our job.

Knowing that the thing we reach for when we’re stressed isn’t actually making us feel better.

But knowing and being able to do something differently aren’t always the same thing.

For me, the aim of this work isn’t to become someone who never gets stressed, never gets triggered or always makes the right choice.

It’s to have more freedom in how we respond.

To notice ourselves.

To trust ourselves.

And to have more choice about what happens next.

That’s the kind of change I’m interested in ❤️

It was pretty powerful to write that down, and then create a piece of artwork around it.I am familiar with this pattern ...
26/08/2026

It was pretty powerful to write that down, and then create a piece of artwork around it.

I am familiar with this pattern in myself and I do alot of work around it to stop it from running my life.

But it is also a pattern I see coming up with the clients I work with, and in the corporate trainings that I run.

Because when we get stuck in the cycle of stress and survival, it can feel like anything unproductive, for ourselves is a luxury that we cannot afford.

But the thing is that it is these very things that are the key to us breaking free from stress and gaining freedom and choice.
Maybe there is no point to me doing an art course.

I’m not going to make money from it. I’m not going to turn it into a business. I’m not trying to become an artist.

And maybe that’s exactly the point.

What would you love to do if it didn’t have to be useful, productive or make you money?

Yesterday I wrote about listening to my body and taking myself to the beach because I knew I needed rest and solitude 🌊....
25/08/2026

Yesterday I wrote about listening to my body and taking myself to the beach because I knew I needed rest and solitude 🌊. And I know how fortunate I was to be able to do that.

But it made me think...

Most of us don’t need someone to tell us that slowing down is important. We know!!

We know we should switch off from work.

We know we shouldn’t be answering emails late into the evening.

We know we need time for ourselves.

We know that constantly running on empty isn’t sustainable.

So why does it still feel so difficult?

I think this is where we can get caught in the trap of believing we just need to try harder to look after ourselves. Another meditation. Another yoga class. Another promise that this week I’m going to finish work on time.

But if you’ve spent years being the person who gets things done, takes responsibility, looks after everyone else and keeps going no matter what...

Slowing down might not feel relaxing at all.

It might feel uncomfortable.

You might sit down and immediately start thinking about everything you could be doing.

You might feel guilty.

Restless.

Irritable.

You might reach for your phone without even realising you’re doing it.

Or suddenly decide now would be an excellent time to clean the kitchen.

And that is the bit I’m really interested in...

Not just - Why don’t I slow down?

But - What happens when I try?

Because there is a difference between understanding in your head that you need to slow down and noticing what happens in your body when you actually attempt it.

That’s where we start to understand the pattern rather than criticising ourselves for having it.

And when we can notice the pattern, we have more opportunity to make a choice rather than automatically following it.

I’d love to know what you notice when you try to slow down?

24/08/2026

I am very grateful that I live by the beach, and that yesterday I happened to have a free day with noone requiring anything of me…

So it made sense to take myself to the beach, to rest my body on the stones, in the sun, and let my mind be free to wander and daydream and maybe read a little 🌊

As I did that I wondered how many other women feel able to do this when they need to...

Not necessarily this exactly, lying on the beach is not everyone’s idea of replenishment. But how many women feel able to listen to their body and respond to what it needs.

I wondered this, because I know how difficult it is. I still feel the resistance myself...

Because there is always something else that we should be doing. I should have been working, I should have been generating income, I should have been doing life admin, I should have been cleaning the house...the list goes on and on 🤯

For years I ignored my body. I ignored those powerful messages that our bodies send us. I ignored the wisdom that my body holds. I was driven by survival and scarcity and fear. And it had an impact on how I felt mentally and physically. It ultimately meant that I burnt out and I have spent years recovering and learning how to do things differently.

If any of this sounds familiar, I want you to know that these patterns become so automatic that it feels as though we dont have a choice. We can get stuck in cycles of stress, and survival where pushing through, carrying on and ignoring what we need feels like the only option.

But it is possible to break those cycles. It is possible to get to a point where you can make choices again. Where you can notice what your body is telling you and actually respond.
And you don’t have to figure out how to get there on your own.

IIf this feels familiar and you’d like to talk about how I can help you, I’m offering a small number of free 20-minute calls this week. DM me and we can arrange a time ❤️

17/08/2026

I loved a drink 🍷
But I got sick of how alcohol made me feel and behave.

I knew the pattern.
I knew it wasn’t making me happy.
So why was it so hard to change?

I thought I needed more willpower.
What I eventually realised was that I needed to understand what alcohol was doing for me.

What was I looking for when I reached for that glass of wine?

What was I trying not to feel?

What did drinking allow me to feel that I struggled to access without it?

Because for me, drinking wasn’t just about drinking. It was part of a much bigger cycle.

But not anymore…it’s been over 5 years since I last had a drink 🎉

And one of the things I absolutely LOVE is that I can take my kids to see live music and enjoy the whole thing completely alcohol free.

I can dance with them (even if they cringe)
Laugh with them.
Stay up late.
Be silly.

And be completely present for all of it.

I don’t feel like I’m missing out.
I don’t feel deprived.
I’m not spending the evening thinking about when I can have a drink.
I’m free to actually be there.

And I don’t think the old me would ever have believed that was possible.

That’s what breaking a cycle has given me.

Lasting change is not simply about knowing that something isn’t good for us and trying harder to stop.

Sometimes we need to understand why we keep going back to it in the first place. 

But there is a difference between understanding something in your head and understanding the pattern in your body.

That’s where we can start to do something differently.

That’s the idea behind the Break the Cycle sessions I’ve opened up 🌀

It doesn’t have to be alcohol.
It might be overworking.
People pleasing.
Never allowing yourself to rest.
A relationship pattern.
Overthinking everything.
Constantly needing to be in control.
Or something else you keep doing even though you KNOW it isn’t helping.

Bring me the pattern.
We’ll get curious about it together.

DM me to book your spot ❤️

Trauma-informed Somatic Coaching can be transformative 🌿. I see it with my clients time and time again, as well as havin...
15/08/2026

Trauma-informed Somatic Coaching can be transformative 🌿. I see it with my clients time and time again, as well as having experienced it myself. Working with the body and the nervous system, in the present moment for lasting change.

Drop me a message if you would like to find out how I can support you with issues such as anxiety, chronic stress, overwhelm, people pleasing and imposter syndrome….

Come home to you ❤️

Perhaps you pride yourself on being able to get sh*t done. You have a stressful job that you are really good at.Maybe y...
13/08/2026

Perhaps you pride yourself on being able to get sh*t done. You have a stressful job that you are really good at.

Maybe you have noticed that it is hard to switch off from that state? It is easier, once you have finished work, to keep on doing until you are exhausted and you collapse with a glass of wine on the sofa. Or maybe you just keep working? The lines are so blurred now between work and home we can easily be answering emails until we go to bed.

And in some ways all this serves you very well - you juggle family and friends and work. You are reliable and consistent and you don’t let anyone down. Except……. Yourself, right? Being reliable and consistent and turning up for yourself isn’t on the agenda. There just isn’t enough space for that with all the other stuff going on.

You know exactly what you should be doing. You even do all the research into it - you read articles, follow all the right accounts on social media. You soak up snippets of advice from instagram and Facebook. You buy books that you don’t have time to read on how to look after yourself. You are well aware of the newest fix that everyone is talking about.

So why do you still feel uncomfortable in your body and unsettled in your mind?

Because you find it unbearable to take the time to stop doing for others. It is way outside of your comfort zone now. You are much more comfortable working, or fixing, helping and improving.

So it is going to feel really uncomfortable to stop. To take time for yourself. You are going to meet with resistance from your mind every time you try.

There will always be something else you could be doing.
There will NEVER not be something else you could be doing right now.

The to-do list never comes to an end. There is always more.

You will have to break the cycle. You wont stop and take time to look after yourself after everything else is done because it will never happen. You have to start looking after yourself right now. Because no-one else is going to do it for you.

DM me to book my one-off Break The Cycle 🌀coaching session - you don’t have to do this on your own ❤️

I know that you already know a lot about feeling better. You’ve read the books. You listen to the podcasts. You follow t...
11/08/2026

I know that you already know a lot about feeling better.

You’ve read the books. You listen to the podcasts. You follow the right people. You know you should slow down, set boundaries, rest more and stop putting so much pressure on yourself.

But knowing doesn’t always change how you feel. You can still find yourself slipping into the same patterns: overthinking, pushing harder, reacting more strongly than you want to, numbing, distracting, second-guessing yourself or struggling to properly switch off.

You don’t need another strategy. You need to understand the cycle you’re caught in.

Which is why I am offering a special one off coaching session with me to Break The Cycle.

In our 60 minutes together, we’ll focus on one pattern that keeps showing up in your life.

🌀Get clear on the cycle that’s keeping you stuck.

🌀Explore what’s underneath it and what might be triggering it.

🌀Understand what happens in your thoughts, emotions and body when the pattern begins.

🌀Identify practical ways to interrupt the cycle and respond differently.

Sometimes breaking a cycle isn’t about trying harder to change. It’s about understanding the pattern, recognising what you need and giving yourself permission to do something differently.

Sometimes one session gives us exactly the insight we need to make a change. Sometimes it opens the door to something deeper.

Break the Cycle is also an opportunity to experience the approach I use in Calmer You, my four-month personalised 1:1 coaching programme. If you decide to continue working with me through Calmer You, I’ll refund the full £99 cost of your Break the Cycle session when you enrol.

Are you ready to Break the Cycle 🌀💙

I am just catching up after an amazing weekend away at Wilderness Festival. It was a much needed reset and was SO nice ...
05/08/2026

I am just catching up after an amazing weekend away at Wilderness Festival. It was a much needed reset and was SO nice to spend 3 days in nature, with wonderful friends, laughing and dancing. I also managed to catch a really interesting talk by the author of a book on mental health and trauma (that deserves its own post). As well as attending a brutal combat and mobility workshop and a creative writing session.

As part of the creative writing session we had to write a letter to say thank you to ourselves and I thought that I would share it with you...

Thank you for booking this weekend. I don’t think you realise how much you needed or deserved it. It has been such a long time since you have done something soley for you. Not for work, or for the kids, but just for you. Not for self-development, or learning, but something frivolous and fun. A weekend of dancing under the trees and the stars and the full moon. A chance to swim in the cool green lake and bask on the banks, skin drying in the sun. To move your body in a way that is new and not related to work. To enjoy a massage in the shade of a large oak tree, while music plays in the background. This is a pivotal moment, a returning to a place where toxic patterns played out over and over again. Cycles of excess and punishment. Because that is all that you thought you deserved. But you are doing it differently this time. You are accepting that you deserve to enjoy this. And it feels like coming full circle but at the same time starting anew.

It can be so hard to enjoy yourself when you have experienced extreme stress or trauma. What might look like enjoyment from the outside, can often be just another way to soothe, distract, numb, and survive.

In my experience, moments of enjoyment were fleeting, and followed by self loathing. This weekend was a chance to prove to myself that things have changed.

So I want to introduce you to the process that I went through and that I now share with my clients with a special 1 hour session to Break the Cycle.

AND I will refund anyone who goes on to book my 4 month Calmer You programme which will start next month.

Spaces are limited, message me to book

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