27/12/2025
Most people do the same thing when a relationship ends.
They reach.
To their ex.
To someone new.
To distraction.
To anything that stops them feeling their wounds.
This soothes the wound in the short term.
But it keeps you trapped in the same familiar wounded child cycles.
I chose a different path.
Not reaching wasn’t about pride or punishment.
It was about building my inner adult to hold and heal my attachment wounds.
Because the truth is:
If you can’t hold love/pain inside yourself,
you’ll keep reaching for people to hold it for you.
Sometimes walking away, isn’t abandoning love.
It’s refusing to keep loving from the wounded child.
It’s giving the space needed to do the inner work to grow your inner adult and maybe one day meet again as your adult selves if aligned 🙏
