09/09/2026
I think one of the things chronic illness can quietly take from you is the belief that you might actually feel well again.
When you've been tired, in pain or dealing with symptoms for years, you adapt. You become incredibly good at working around how you feel. You lower your expectations, stop making certain plans and eventually, what started as feeling unwell can simply become your normal.
I know this because I did it too.
For years, I organised my life around how much energy I had. There were things I wanted to do that I simply didn't believe my body would cope with, and after a while I stopped expecting that to change.
I don't believe positive thinking cures chronic illness. You cannot think your way out of an autoimmune condition or replace appropriate medical care with affirmations.
But I do think what we believe is possible can influence what we do next.
If you've accepted that exhaustion, pain, poor digestion or brain fog is simply who you are now, you may be less likely to remain curious, ask different questions or notice the small signs that something is improving.
And recovery isn't always dramatic.
Sometimes it's doing something you couldn't do six months ago. Recovering more quickly after exercise. Making plans without calculating how exhausted they'll leave you. Realising you haven't thought about a symptom for days because it simply hasn't been there.
Perhaps the goal isn't to convince yourself that you're definitely going to get well. Perhaps it's simply not closing the door on the possibility that how you feel today isn't necessarily how you'll always feel.
This is something I’ll be talking about next week when I’m speaking alongside at her Wellbeing Rituals UK Leadership Immersion in London, where I’ll be sharing more of my own story and what I’ve learned about understanding our health differently.
If you’d like to join us in London on 17 September, comment KOYA and I’ll send you the details.