10/08/2026
To the women over 40 who are constantly picking themselves apart⦠this is for you. š¤
Iāve had so many conversations with women lately who are being incredibly hard on themselves.
Theyāre looking in the mirror and noticing every line and wrinkle.
Their arms donāt feel as firm as they used to.
Their face has changed.
They feel tired. Lethargic. Like theyāve lost their spark.
And yet⦠theyāre still doing everything.
Running a home. Raising children. Working full-time. Caring for everyone else. Showing up for partners, parents, friends and colleagues.
And somehow, on top of all of that, they feel they should still look like the woman they were 10, 15 or 20 years ago.
Why are we asking so much of ourselves?
The truth is, we all age.
We all develop lines and wrinkles.
We all gradually lose collagen and elasticity.
Our bodies change.
Our faces change.
Our hormones change.
Our energy changes.
And none of that means we are any less beautiful, feminine, desirable, worthy or us.
Iām not here to tell you that you shouldnāt want to make changes. If something is bothering you and you want to explore what might help, Iām always here to listen, talk things through and support you without judgement.
But I also want you to know this:
You do not need to fix every part of yourself.
You donāt have to scrutinise your face in every mirror.
You donāt have to hate your arms because theyāre softer than they once were.
You donāt have to apologise for your wrinkles.
You donāt have to chase the face or body you had at 25.
Perhaps we can start being a little kinder to the woman looking back at us.
Because those lines have come from years of laughing, crying, worrying, loving, parenting, working, surviving, celebrating and living.
Your face tells your story. Your body has carried you through life.
So yes, look after yourself. Invest in yourself. Do the things that make you feel confident and happy.
But please donāt forget to love the woman underneath it all.
And if you ever need someone to talk to about how youāre feeling about your appearance, Iām here. Not to judge you. Not to tell you what you need to change.
Just to listen. š¤
Weāre allowed to grow older.
Weāre allowed to change.
And weāre absolutely allowed to love ourselves through every version.
You are amazing as you are š¤