Havening and Amnanda with Gudrun Wiedemann

12/06/2026

Honouring ones nature is important
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Scientists discovered that around 1 in 5 people are born with a nervous system that processes the world more deeply than everyone else. Not more emotional. More wired. They notice the flicker of a light. The shift in someone's tone. The scratch of a tag on their neck. This is not a personality flaw. It is a biological trait.

Here is what happens inside their brain. Their insula, the part that processes internal and external sensory information, is more active. Their mirror neurons fire stronger. They feel what others feel. They see what others miss. Loud spaces exhaust them. Conflict drains them. Beauty moves them to tears. The volume is turned up on everything.

The science is clear. This trait exists across species. High sensitive animals pause before entering new spaces. They check for threats. They notice details. They survive longer in stable environments. In chaotic environments, they struggle. In calm, predictable environments, they thrive.

If you are a sensitive person, stop calling yourself weak. You are not broken. You are finely tuned. Protect your environment. Limit noise. Avoid chaos. Rest often. Your nervous system is a gift. Treat it like one.

10/06/2026

This is so powerful.
In the context of trauma recovery, joy and happiness can be difficult states/ emotions for people to be in. They are often unfamiliar, they are often linked to hiding our light, to make others feel better about themselves.
This writing addresses how counter productive those okd outlived strategies are... and as we all know, insight is only one step to transform trauma imprints. Havening can help to reprocess on the underlying encoding, and supports us to embrace joy and happiness more fully.
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02/06/2026

So very true.
Learning to ask questions, challenge authority, and speaking up for oneself are important skills that keep kids, teens and yes adults safe.

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Trigger Warning

Training your child to be obedient makes them easier prey for predators. But no one wants to talk about that. We just want obedience because it’s convenient. Because it’s what the school, childcare, swim teacher and the soccer coach all expect. It makes everyone’s job easier… well you know who else’s job it makes easier? Predators. Obedience… at what cost? That’s what I think about… at what cost? There are other ways to parent that don’t focus on obedience as the main goal. One of these methods is Responsive Parenting.

22/05/2026

Recovery from trauma has many challenges.
One not so often spoken about is stepping into Joy.
Our brain is drawn to what feels familiar, and learning to allow and enjoy joy (without the expectation that the other shoe will drop) can be an unexpected piece of work
I love this clip where Brené Brown speaks to this.
Havening can be a very useful tool to help clients to step more into Joy.

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17/05/2026

I think this is an interesting paper.
It is based on the latest neuroscience and questions some of very well known works.
Whist I think the article is very much in line with what Havening has to offer and targets, I would not want to throw out the baby with the bathwater.
Maybe in neuroscience terms the article is correct, and I think from the lived experience of people affected by trauma, and (C)PTSD the symptoms that appear in the body are very real.
From my own experience trauma is complex and often different approaches are helpful at different times to clients on their journey of recovery. This is especially true for clients who are affected by early childhood and developmental trauma where incomplete developmental steps and relational dynamics are areas that need to be tended to. .. and I think most client benefit greatly from Havening, simply because when the triggering is eliminated or greatly reduced, all the other aspects are much easier worked with. Havening also gives clients a simple yet highly effective tool to support themselves when feeling activated or stressed.
One thing that makes Havening stand out, is that it targets the part of the brain that raises the alarm and makes the past appear in the present, as trauma memory is not encoded in the part of the brain that keeps track of how we perceive time (e.g past, present future seem to collapse into one place, which often leads to an out of proportion response/reaction to what has happened in the present) When triggering occurs, our survival brain takes over and other brain regions will be shut down, including our prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for logical thinking and social engagement system (relationships) This repeated "triggering" becomes a reinforcing negative downwards spiral, that in itself creates stress because of fears of re-experiencing the helplessness/hopelessness from unprocessed trauma. Havening can break this negative downwards spiral and turn it around into a reinforcing positive upwards spiral supporting clients to regain nervous system resilience and agency.
If you would like to find out more about Havening, please have a look at my website, or give me a call to have a chat.
www.gudrunwiedemann.co.uk

https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/systems-neuroscience/articles/10.3389/fnsys.2026.1812957/full?fbclid=IwY2xjawR3CvRleHRuA2FlbQIxMABicmlkETFYY0RxSEZLeEE5aXRReW1Gc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQQMjIyMDM5MTc4ODIwMDg5MgABHj6seQtCcMgTIXZIpimFphdphOx-u8C4xXmyofQdsnj5NScUtg-QM4tCsoVt_aem_rEdd7Sg3y4Y551CuihxIwg

The Body Does Not Keep the Score: Trauma, Predictive Coding, and the Restoration of Metastability By Steven Kotler, Michael Mannino, Glenn Fox, Karl Friston ...

14/05/2026

... I like to add
A few minutes of applying Havening Touch is also Medicine.
It creates Delta brain waves, which make us feel safe, and prompts the release of feel good Neurotransmitters, Serotonin, Oxytocin, GABA, and Dopamine.

03/05/2026

Forgiveness is a word, that means different things to different people.
Love this post.
Havening can help to stop replaying past events, and letting the hurt and burden go.
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Forgiveness is one of the most misunderstood practices in medicine.

It is not about excusing harm. It is about releasing what carrying it is doing to you.

A 2016 study examined how forgiveness affected the relationship between lifetime stress and mental health. The researchers found that forgiveness significantly reduced the harmful effects of stress on both psychological and physical health. Other studies have linked forgiveness to lower blood pressure, lower cortisol, reduced cardiovascular reactivity, and better sleep.

What does that mean in plain language?

When you replay a wound, your body responds as if the wound is happening again. Heart rate climbs. Cortisol rises. Vessels constrict. Held over years, that biological replay quietly damages tissue.

After 20 years of practicing medicine, I have watched the cost of unprocessed resentment in real bodies. It does not stay only in the mind.

Forgiveness is not a single moment. It is a slow, often non-linear process. It can begin with naming what happened, allowing yourself to feel what you feel, and gradually deciding that your peace will not be held hostage to someone else's behavior.

You may need help. A therapist, a trusted person, a quiet practice.

You are not freeing them. You are freeing your own nervous system.

What is one thing you have been carrying that has grown too heavy?

01/05/2026

I love the Gottmans' work.
This clip not only shines a light on how to sucessfully navigate challenges in relationships, but also destructive behaviours.
Often people get stuck, trying to make a relationship work - but it takes 2 to make it work
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29/04/2026

all in our own time, love this. x

What a beautiful idea…

28/04/2026