Ruth Veda Therapy

21/06/2026

SAYING YES WHNEN YOU MEAN NO!

The more I dive into this topic, the more I realise just how challenging and heavy it is. It is a very real issue for so many of us.

It shows up in so many quiet, exhausting ways:

- People-pleasing just to keep the peace.
-The deep fear of losing closeness or connection if we say no.
- The heavy "shoulds" we constantly tell ourselves.
- That awful, uncomfortable feeling of guilt.
- Minimizing our own pain—telling ourselves, "It's not that bad."

It just goes on and on.

Pauline and I are holding an online space on Tuesday, 30th June at 7pm UK time. We just want to explore this together and look at what safely gets in the way of us holding our boundaries.

This is simply a heartfelt shout-out to say you are not alone in this struggle. It is a safe place to get some support, breathe, and gently learn to respect and honour your own choices.

Any thoughts or questions?

21/06/2026

What happens for you when you think about broken glass?
What happens when you think about walking on broken glass?

👣 🥃🍺 🍾 🍷 👣 🥃🍺 🍾 🍷 👣 🥃🍺 🍾 🍷 👣 🥃🍺 🍾 🍷 👣

What do you notice in your thoughts, stories and what happens in your body?

This practice can take you deep into your inner world, meet yourself where you are, hold yourself, be with fear and over come blocks.

"It's not the fear that holds us back, but our fear of feeling the fear"

01/04/2026

ATTENTION: Any with ADHD diagnosed or undiagnosed

From my practice as a Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner which is deeply influenced by the work of Dr. Gabor Maté I know how empowering and thought provoking this event will be for those of us navigating an ADHD diagnosis.

Dr. Maté reframes ADHD as a neurodevelopmental journey, exploring how our unique biology interacts with the world around us.

This perspective looks at:

-How sensitive nervous systems respond to their surroundings.
-The role of emotional connection and stability in early development.
-The impact of the environments we grow up in.

By looking at ADHD through this compassionate lens, we can move away from "what is wrong with me?" and toward a deeper understanding of our own story. It’s about gaining the clarity needed to make supportive, empowering choices for our lives today.

Join Gabor Maté, M.D., and Terry Matlen, MSW, for a transformational workshop that reframes ADHD beyond symptom management. Instead of viewing ADHD as a fixed genetic disorder, this event explores it

16/03/2026

23/02/2026

Move & Groove with me, every Tuesday 9.15am

30 Mins to Reconnect to you & let the inner child come out top play (Just like my adorable nephew here) 💚

Get out of your head and into your body. This is a loosely guided space to shake off the week and find your flow.

"It’s not about how it looks, it’s about how it feels."

Camera on or off — your choice!

Join us here: https://tidycal.com/ruthvedatherapy/move-and-groove

18/02/2026

And grow.....

"Vulnerability is our capacity to be wounded. Vulnerability is a necessity for growth and without vulnerability there is no growth."

- Dr. Gabor Maté

17/02/2026

Hello Fellow Human Being,

Are you tired of saying YES when your body screams NO? 🛑

When we say "yes" but mean "no," we abandon ourselves to maintain connection with others. We tell ourselves "it's not that bad," but the truth is, resentment is a slow poison.

As Dr. Gabor Maté powerfully reminds us:

"If you face the choice between feeling guilt and resentment, choose the guilt every time."

Join Ruth Clarke & Pauline Stiles (both trauma-informed Compassionate Inquiry Practitioners) for a FREE 90-minute somatic workshop to support you in finding your true, sovereign "No".

In this safe, confidential space, you will:
✨ Discover why people-pleasing is actually a clever survival strategy.
✨ Understand the power of healthy anger.
✨ Explore where your boundaries currently sit using somatic movement and creative mapping.
✨ Begin the journey of moving from automatic compliance to choosing YOU.

🗓 Date: TUESDAY 10th March
⏰ Time: 6.30pm - 8pm
📍 Where: Online via Zoom

📝 Preparation: Please have your journals, coloured pens, and paper ready.

Register Here: 🔗 https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/lZNztsqvS5eaRM9golQjcg #/registration

This free workshop is a standalone experience and also serves as the perfect introduction to our 4-week deep dive COURSE starting Tuesday 17th March.

Through our own journeys with chronic pain and recovery, we are committed to supporting you in finding your voice. We don't view people-pleasing as a flaw to be fixed, but as a childhood strategy that deserves compassion.

We would love for you to join us.
Ruth & Pauline

16/02/2026

When things feel heavy, what is one small thing you do to invite a bit of play or a laugh back into your day?

I’ve learned that I don't always have to be "on" or in "fix it" mode. Letting myself laugh, with good friends is my way of releasing the pressure valve.

Thank you buddie Stuart Whan
Still makes me smile 😀

03/02/2026

What 's one act of kindness you can offer today, even if its to yourself ?

"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."
Leo Buscaglia

This video from Capsle Stories ( on IG) is a great reminder that little acts of kindness can go a long way. A kind gesture of welcoming and sha...