Sambandha

Here’s a little bit about me…

Through-out my life, I’ve been on a bit of a journey of two paths. After graduating from a BTEC in Fashion and B.A(Hons) in Contour Fashion, I went on to have a successful 26-year career as a lingerie designer. I had many amazing experiences in my career, but I also had many personal struggles along the way, that often lead to a feeling of burn-out and feeling very u

nhappy and unfulfilled. For years I helped women to feel more confident and empowered through wearing beautiful, well-fitting lingerie, but that was far from the reality of what I felt on the inside. Like anything surface level that we seek outside of ourselves, we can only reach a temporary state of feeling good, it doesn’t address the real issues that many women suffer with at their very core. I really struggled with low self-worth and a lack of confidence. I’d never really been comfortable in my own skin since childhood and negative self-talk was as normal as brushing my teeth. I knew that I found it hard to love and accept myself fully but could never quite find the solution. I strived for perfection and validation in everything I did, in the hope that one day I would feel good enough. In my twenties, I began my spiritual journey that ran alongside my lingerie career. It was the start of trying to find my way back home to the truth of who I am, and it felt like a journey of my own self-discovery and mastery trying to get to the root of my struggles and deep sensitivity. I started going for regular crystal therapy sessions and meditations which helped to start peeling away the layers and bring some calm and balance. In my early thirties I decided to train to become a crystal therapist myself. I loved learning about the crystals and their formations (which felt familiar), and they have remained a big presence and support in my life ever since. When we begin that inner inquiry and quest to ‘heal’ ourselves, it can feel like a daunting, never-ending task. You may have heard of the term ‘shadow work’, or ‘dark night of the soul’, which sounds scary in itself, but going in and working on our shadow self is just shining that much needed light on the parts of ourselves that are lost and bringing love to the parts that feel pain. From my own experience, we can never truly overcome our struggles until we have met those unhealed parts of ourselves. For me, that was the missing element that had prevented me from getting to the real issue of my pain and struggle. If we start to become conscious of our behaviours and triggers and look deeper into what it is we’re really feeling and when did we first feel like that, we can start to uncover the root cause and realise what it is we needed and didn’t get in that moment, so we can give it to ourselves now. The responsibility is ours, so we can learn to stop giving our power away to someone or something outside of ourselves. Life is never going to be perfect, and we will always meet challenges along the way, it’s part of our soul’s journey and growth. We can, however, commit to observing that growth through the eyes of compassion and curiosity to help us better navigate the challenges that come our way. This change of perspective can help them to become more like little blips in the road, rather than great big obstacles that stop us in our tracks each time. When I came across the ‘I love You, Me’ method, 7 Steps to transformational self-love by Tara Love Perry, it was the first time I was actually able to go within and meet these abandoned, unhealed parts of myself. I was able to meet my little me’s that were waiting for me to acknowledge them. If like me, you’ve always found it hard to connect inwardly for answers, this method will allow you to meet yourself like never before with profound results. When we can give voice to these parts of us and hold them with such love and compassion, we can start to forgive and heal in miraculous ways. It’s the key to being able to transform your life both internally and externally, so you feel safe and empowered to move forward as your true authentic self. It gives you the much-needed clarity on why you’ve struggled the way you have, so you can begin to let go of the past and propel yourself forward. Your future self is waiting for you! As a qualified self-love coach and through my own personal journey of transformations, I’m passionate about holding space to help other women with their own self-empowering journey and assist them with overcoming their own personal struggles and pain. We all have the ability to heal ourselves. Can we surrender and take the responsibility to want to change what isn’t working out for us in our lives? When we make that commitment to want to change and grow, amazing transformation happens. Would you be willing to love yourself enough to try? I have so much love for past me and my journey, for the person I’ve become, and continue to become as I expand and grow each day. I am grateful to all my little me’s for courageously waiting for me and happy they get to co-create with me on our journey forward! Much love,
Paula x