13/07/2026
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If someone is talking to YOU about someone else.. they’ll also talk to someone else about YOU!
Abusers are skilled at recruiting people to do their dirty work.. don’t be fooled.. 👺
Monsters live amongst us, they don’t wear cloaks or horns or warning signs around their necks 👹
They’ll twist the narrative to play the victim & will happily do the same to YOU too!! 🤥
Patterns don’t lie, the truth will always shine a light on the darkness 🙌
Stand in the truth do not be manipulated. Keep your boundaries strong & your head held high.. 👌
The shame is not yours to carry 👺
In the context of domestic abuse, a “flying monkey” is a person who is manipulated or recruited by an abusive individual to help them control, intimidate, monitor, or discredit their target.
The term comes from the winged monkeys in The Wizard of Oz, who carried out the Wicked Witch’s orders.
A flying monkey may or may not realise they are being used. Some genuinely believe the abuser’s version of events, while others knowingly participate.
Common behaviors include:
* Relaying messages after the victim has gone no-contact.
* Pressuring the victim to forgive, reconcile, or “keep the peace.”
* Spying on the victim or reporting back to the abuser.
* Spreading rumors or repeating false accusations about the victim.
* Minimizing or denying the abuse (“They’re not that bad,” “You must have misunderstood.”).
* Trying to gather personal information about the victim for the abuser.
For example, if someone leaves an abusive partner and that partner asks mutual friends or family members to contact them, convince them to come back, or find out where they are living, those friends or relatives may be acting as flying monkeys.
Why this happens
Abusers often use flying monkeys to:
* Maintain control after a relationship ends.
* Isolate the victim from sources of support.
* Damage the victim’s reputation.
* Circumvent boundaries, such as blocked phone numbers or no-contact requests.
* Make the victim question their own experiences.
