Francesca Moresi Psychotherapy

Francesca Moresi Psychotherapy Psychotherapist & Psychologist, London 📍
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What is self-esteem really? And why does the way we evaluate ourselves often distort our reality? ⚖️This is the final re...
21/05/2026

What is self-esteem really? And why does the way we evaluate ourselves often distort our reality? ⚖️

This is the final reflection in our series on the self. We started with adequacy (being enough), moved through confidence (the capacity to act), and today we face the roof of the structure: Self-Esteem.

Most self-help tells you to build high self-esteem by repeating affirmations or counting your successes. But there is a trap here: if your self-esteem relies on constant evaluation, it means you are always on trial. 🏛️

Inside today’s newsletter, we unpack:
✨ The Evaluation Trap: Why high self-esteem can sometimes feel just as fragile as low self-esteem.
✨ Conditional Worth: How we become judges of our own existence instead of witnesses.
✨ The Shift to Compassion: How to stabilize your self-worth when you remove the scorecard.

Real self-esteem isn’t about giving yourself a 10/10 every day. It’s about the capacity to look at your flaws and your victories with the exact same steady, non-judgmental gaze.

🔗 Link in bio to read the final part of the series, featuring our usual blend of art, music, and psychological practice.

Confidence is not the absence of doubt. It is the ability to proceed despite it. 🌒We often treat confidence as a “feelin...
14/05/2026

Confidence is not the absence of doubt. It is the ability to proceed despite it. 🌒

We often treat confidence as a “feeling” we need to find before we act. We wait to feel certain, sure, and ready. But what if confidence isn’t a feeling at all? What if it’s a function?

In today’s newsletter, I’m exploring why “feeling confident” and “being able to act” are not the same thing.

We dive into the two faces of confidence: 🎭 Compensatory Confidence: Built on top of inadequacy. It’s protective, fragile, and collapses the moment we fail or face criticism.
⚖️ Integrated Confidence: Built on a stable sense of being “enough.” It allows for errors, hesitations, and not knowing. It doesn’t need to control reality; it just engages with it.

If you wait for certainty before you move, you aren’t building confidence—you’re just managing your exposure.

🔗 Link in bio to read the full reflection, featuring the balance of Picasso and the tension of James Blake.

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There is a point where “working on yourself” stops working. 🛑We become more aware, more confident, even more capable. An...
07/05/2026

There is a point where “working on yourself” stops working. 🛑

We become more aware, more confident, even more capable. And yet, the moment we make a mistake or feel truly seen, everything collapses. Why?

Because we often try to build Confidence and Self-Esteem on a foundation that was never stabilized: the felt sense of being “enough.” 🌒

In my latest newsletter, I explore the gap between:
✨ Adequacy: The quiet, non-conditional sense of being okay as you are.
✨ Confidence: Your capacity to act in the world.
✨ Self-Esteem: How you evaluate your worth.

If you work on them in the wrong order, your progress will always feel fragile.

Confidence can become a compensation—a structure built to hide a deeper sense of “not being quite right.”

It’s time to stop trying to be more “convincing” and start becoming less conditionally acceptable to yourself.

🔗 Link in bio to read the full reflection, featuring the art of Paula Modersohn-Becker and the raw exposure of FKA twigs.

Open or monogamous: which model asks of you the kind of love you are actually able to sustain? 💞We often treat relations...
30/04/2026

Open or monogamous: which model asks of you the kind of love you are actually able to sustain? 💞

We often treat relationship structures as a moral question. But in reality, they are a psychological positioning.

Whether it is monogamy or consensual non-monogamy, every structure gives us something—and takes something else away.

In my latest newsletter I explore what non-monogamy makes possible, and more importantly, what it actually demands:
🌿 Beyond avoidance: It’s not a tool to fix a broken relationship; it’s a space that amplifies what is already there.
🌿 The need for emotional capacity: The security that monogamy provides must be actively created and communicated when boundaries are opened.
🌿 Intimacy in tension: Like the figures in Francis Bacon’s art, connection does not eliminate complexity.

If you have ever been curious about non-monogamy—or simply wondered about your own relational desires and fears—this piece is an invitation to look within without judgment.

🔗 Link in bio to read “Open and Non-Monogamous Relationships: Beyond Right or Wrong.”

Stop asking “Am I on time?” and start asking “Is this the right moment?” 🏺We’ve spent the last week talking about Kronos...
23/04/2026

Stop asking “Am I on time?” and start asking “Is this the right moment?” 🏺

We’ve spent the last week talking about Kronos—the relentless, measuring time that keeps us in a state of constant evaluation. But there is a different way to live: Kairos.

Kairos isn’t about how much time you have. It’s about the quality of the moment you are in.

It is the shift from control to attunement. 🌿

In my latest newsletter, I explore how we can stop chasing the clock and start recognizing the “right” moment:
✨ Why we struggle to slow down: The paradox of forcing vs. allowing.
✨ The Hercules Decision: Choosing the path that meets a deeper coherence.
✨ The practice of waiting: Staying present without filling the space with urgency.

Like Hercules at the crossroads, we don’t get infinite time to decide. The moment opens—and it asks to be met.

🔗 Read the full reflection, explore the art of Carracci, and listen to the architectural precision of Stravinsky via the link in my bio.

“I don’t have enough time.” 🏃‍♀️💨This thought isn’t just a mental complaint; it’s a state of the nervous system. When th...
16/04/2026

“I don’t have enough time.” 🏃‍♀️💨

This thought isn’t just a mental complaint; it’s a state of the nervous system.

When the clock becomes a threat, our body stays in a constant state of “bracing.” We breathe shallowly, we rush through moments, and we lose the ability to be truly present.

In my latest newsletter, I explore Kronos: the version of time that feels like a relentless predator. ⏳

We’ll look at:
🌑 Why “hurry sickness” is actually a survival response.
🌑 How to shift from surviving time to inhabiting it.
🌑 The quiet power of Kairos (the meaningful moment).

It’s time to stop treating the clock as an enemy and start reclaiming your inner rhythm.

🔗 Link in bio to read the full reflection.

You don’t need to stop the pattern immediately. You just need to interrupt it. ⏱️We’ve all been there: we know exactly w...
09/04/2026

You don’t need to stop the pattern immediately. You just need to interrupt it. ⏱️

We’ve all been there: we know exactly what we’re doing (self-sabotaging, procrastinating, withdrawing), yet we feel powerless to stop it.

Why? Because insight alone isn’t enough. When our nervous system takes over, the pattern feels like the “right” thing to do in that moment. It’s not a lack of will—it’s a survival loop.

In the final part of this series, I explore how to expand the tiny window between impulse and action.

Inside today’s newsletter:
✨ The 10-Second Rule: How staying just a moment longer retrains your nervous system.
✨ Naming the Moment: Why bringing awareness to the “exit” changes the game.
✨ The “Escher Effect”: Breaking the closed loop of our habits.

Change doesn’t come from a sudden revolution. It comes from the subtle, evolving variations we introduce into our daily rhythm.

🔗 Link in bio to read the full guide, featuring the art of M.C. Escher and the rhythmic shifts of Steve Reich.

“Why do I do this to myself?” 🌀It’s the question I hear most often in the consulting room. Why do we withdraw when thing...
02/04/2026

“Why do I do this to myself?” 🌀

It’s the question I hear most often in the consulting room. Why do we withdraw when things get good? Why do we procrastinate on the very things that matter most?

We call it self-sabotage, but here is the truth: You are not sabotaging yourself for no reason.

Self-sabotage is rarely a wish for self-destruction. More often, it is protection that has become outdated. 🛡️

In my latest newsletter, we dive into the hidden logic of our patterns:

* The Fear of Being Seen: Why exposure feels riskier than failure.
* Nervous System Loyalty: Why your body prefers the “familiar” over the “healthy.”
* The “Ceci n’est pas une pipe” of behavior: Like Magritte’s famous pipe, what looks like self-defeat is often a misguided attempt to stay safe.

Change doesn’t require heroic acts. It begins with a 24-hour pause and a shift from accusation to curiosity.

🔗 Read the full reflection, explore Magritte’s treachery of images, and listen to the evolving sounds of Floating Points & Pharoah Sanders. Link in bio.

“They all — every single one — had my face.” 🪞There is a quiet violence we sometimes direct toward ourselves. We call it...
26/03/2026

“They all — every single one — had my face.” 🪞

There is a quiet violence we sometimes direct toward ourselves. We call it “discipline,” “realism,” or “responsibility,” but internally, it feels like a siege.

As Giorgio Caproni’s haunting poem Rivelazione reminds us, the “assassins” of our peace, our joy, and our potential often carry our own features.

In my latest newsletter, I explore the anatomy of self-attack:

* Why we become our own worst enemies.
* The clinical roots of self-criticism (it usually started as a way to protect us).
* How to move from self-blame to conscious agency.

Like the woman in Edward Hopper’s Cape Cod Morning, we are often hyper-vigilant, bracing for a threat that isn’t outside the window—but inside our own minds.

Recognizing this isn’t an invitation to feel guilty. It is the first step toward dismantling the prison. Because what is internally constructed can be internally transformed. ✨

🔗 Link in bio to read the full reflection, featuring Max Richter’s “The Blue Notebooks.”

Who are you when no one is watching? 🌕We spend so much of our lives performing, adjusting, and monitoring how we are see...
19/03/2026

Who are you when no one is watching? 🌕

We spend so much of our lives performing, adjusting, and monitoring how we are seen. But authenticity isn’t a fixed destination or a “perfect” version of ourselves. It is simply the space we inhabit when the pressure to perform finally dissolves.

In my latest newsletter, I’m sharing a practice that is as simple as it is profound: The Mirror Exercise. 🪞

It’s not about checking your reflection or fixing your hair. It’s about meeting your own gaze and asking: “Who am I when I’m not evaluating, judging, or performing?”

Authenticity is a relationship—a way of attending to your own presence without needing to justify or control it.

🌿 Read the full reflection, explore the art of Manet, and listen to the ambient layers of Ólafur Arnalds via the link in my bio.

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