21/05/2026
Sorry to break it to you, but life will never stop trying to pull us out of ourselves.
Regulation and groundedness are, of course, excellent resource points.
but….the more we hold that as the goal and this place we think we need get to, the more shame we end up carrying every time we do get pulled…
and we do
we will
….we’re human.
The body is always responding to life as life arrives. So this is where we want to focus: the return.
How quick can we notice when we’ve gone?
How long does it take us to come back?
Can we come back at all without fully losing ourselves?
When life throws something big, and it will, and it is currently for many of us…it’s throwing really big stuff… it’s ok that we won’t always have the capacity to meet it from steady ground.
Sometimes we’ll meet it from the four-year-old or from a place that learned to manage everything, learned to people please or from the old patterns that keeps telling us its safer than being in the present.
And that’s ok!
We want to focus on the return.
The real flex is coming back.
Finding those micro-awareness moments of “I’ve gone” and then work on coming back and anchor in.
:: with breath
:: with a hand on the chest
:: with feet on the floor
We will still get pulled, we will still spiral, we will still lose it some days but the return will stop taking days > hours> minutes, and then when you arent even noticing it starts happening all on its own.
Life will continue to test us in ways unimaginable, and we are not failing if we get rocked by it, we are simply always returning and trusting that self that knows the way home.
That is where the truth of who we are waits and where the real change happens.