09/08/2022
“I tried NLP and it doesn’t work.”
A bad restaurant experience doesn’t make us hate “Italian food” forever; we are usually quite aware that it is the chef or management of the restaurant that made our food distasteful.
Stereotypical comments like that are very common in a Complementary Therapy field. We are all very aware that it takes a proper pizza oven, good dough, skilful hands and premium Italian ingredients to have a desirable Italian pizza experience.
We all love our favourite chocolate bar, bag of crisps or that premium bottle of wine. We do not say that “we don’t think red wine is not tasty” because of tasting this one bottle of random wine from an Off Licence. It takes time to refine our taste.
And as for a fine wine from a premium region, made of finely selected and hand picked grapes, aged in barrels and processed through a family secret method that keeps clients coming back. That is how any therapeutic method is refined. Not by the definition of what it actually is.
Of course a credibility of training with creators of the given methods, gives more of a chance that the therapist picked up quite a good level of skills.
We are dealing with a so called “Bible Effect”, in the modern version (multiple times rewritten and refined) the Jesus of superpowers could walk on water, turn it into wine (can anyone channel back this skill please) and all in all be born from no semen (not trying to suggest IVF would loose business).
Meaning, you want to make sure your therapist is not a 30 0000s version of today’s bible, otherwise we are all gathering for a run on the surface of Thames.
Like any art takes refining, so does any approach become a master peace of its author. NLP is a form of art and the more of a performer the therapist is, the more you are assured a successful outcome.
When I made my last pizza order as the first one in the line as was incredibly hungry, not only did I have to watch all my friends eat their pizzas first, every detail of my order got lost in a translation.. I mean “no onion and an extra sprinkle of fresh thyme” doesn’t sound like: “E=MC2”!
I can assure you that there are “therapist” out there that will get your order completely wrong, transfer their own problems onto you and even tell you need a trauma treatment instead of the little motivation coaching session you actually expressed a need for.
That is a venture worth a whole new article, next time I will touch onto a philosophy of Buddhism, Solution Focused mind-set therapy, Epigenetics and a Law of Resonance research why that is a bad idea.
Like a good restaurant will have enough numbers of stars for you to eat there, a credible therapist will have a good number of testimonials, then insurance and a licence with a professional body (just to assure they follow some sort of rules, safety and in tune with the latest research).
In an initial consultation, your gut instinct will already tell if that is someone you would like to work with.
Sometimes our need for help is so much greater than actually tuning into red flags.
Then you are all set to know you are in good hands and should trust the process.
And the same way we get on with our own plates in restaurants, where we cut and chew our steaks or broccoli, we get on with the tasks and complete all necessary steps to get to our desired goals sooner!
As one of my clients said: “I highly recommend Lenka’s sessions as having truly life changing potential in a way traditional talking therapies do not. Spending time with Lenka is an investment in your own potential and ability with a truly talented coach/therapist who can help you to rewire how you think”.
Prior to overcoming his alcohol addiction, professional difficulties and day-to-day challenges, my client didn’t know I used any of the 24 methods I studied for over past 12 years.
He knew I could help him with what he needed.
Techniques are just names/bunch of tools, look at the whole package!How does the person present himself/herself? It doesn’t take a rocket science to see if they are healthy, look after themselves and got it all kind of together.
Yes, do judge the pizza by its cover, because it’s going inside of you!