23/02/2026
The beginning of a relationship is meant to overflow.
Itâs new. Itâs exciting. Itâs full of dopamine and possibility.
But love isnât meant to stay in overflow mode.
Itâs meant to settle into safety. Into calm. Into consistency.
If youâve experienced deep emotional wounds, the âbaselineâ can feel unfamiliar⌠even unsafe. So you unconsciously try to recreate the intensity â more reassurance, more closeness, more validation.
But when love feels like itâs never enough, your partner starts carrying the pressure of filling a glass that canât stay full.
Real security isnât found in overflow.
Itâs found in being able to sit peacefully at baseline. đ¤
Which stage feels most familiar to you right now? đ