01/06/2026
Living with addiction is incredibly hard for everyone involved. If you are waking up feeling sad, disappointed, unheard, or unseen, then this is for you.
When you live with someone who has an addiction, you often live with the hope that they will change. They tell you they will give up whatever has become their crutch. They promise they will. They say all the right things, and sometimes they genuinely try for a while. If you are very lucky, maybe they will make lasting changes.
But for those of you where that day may never come, this is your reminder that it is time to take care of yourself.
This is your sacred time to reclaim the parts of yourself that have been lost through disappointment, waiting, and constantly living in hope.
First of all, don’t spiritually bypass what you are feeling. Start by journalling your thoughts. Be completely honest and hold nothing back. If you are worried about someone finding what you have written, you can burn the pages afterwards or keep your journal somewhere safe.
The two things I always suggest are:
Firstly, take a walk in nature, your garden, or anywhere that helps you feel grounded and connected to yourself.
Secondly, get out some paints, pencils, or any creative materials you have and create something that makes you smile. If you feel called to explore your shadow self, try drawing or painting how you are feeling instead. Both approaches work in different ways, but both can be deeply healing.
If painting isn’t for you, that’s okay. Simply get out of the house and do something just for yourself, something that helps bring back your sparkle, your smile, and a little joy.
You deserve moments that are yours, regardless of whether someone else chooses to change.
Sharing with so much love,
Nicola ###
Nature,sea,water witch, holistic therapist, medicine woman, whisperer