Transcend Therapy

Transcend Therapy Mental Health & Wellbeing
Counsellor | Clinical Supervisor
Ruth Andoh-Baxter Time to be the best version of yourself. Time to Heal. Time to Restore. Thank you.

TRANSCEND THERAPY:
Transcend 'beyond the range of (experience, belief, etc), surpass, exceed, excel, outdo, outshine, outstrip, top, abstract, obscure, visionary.’

My name is Ruth Andoh-Baxter and I am a qualified Psychotherapeutic Counsellor. Welcome to my page, another stepping stone in your journey to achieving mental wellbeing and individual empowerment. For more information and to book an o

nline or in-person session, please checkout my website transcendtherapy.co.uk or email [email protected]. Therapist/Supervisor Support - I am also a qualified Counselling Supervisor. Please visit my website page 'Supervision for Practitioners' if you would like more information and to register as a supervisee. THEMES: throughout the year, the Transcend Therapy Page will highlight specific 'themes', giving everyone an opportunity to share thoughts, feelings, experiences and ideas. Opinions and feelings may differ, but all are valid and deserving of respect, even if we don't agree, please be mindful of the sensitivities of others. STATUS: the quotes or posts on the Page are not necessarily my personal sentiments or endorsed by me. My work seeks to lift up the work of others as well as my own. Quotes are there to evoke thought, comment and facilitate empathic dialogue. GRIEVANCE: Should there be any concerns about the content of this page, please contact me privately so that I can address as appropriate, but I am optimistic that those sharing will be as keen to uphold the integrity of the page as I am. That said, mistakes happen but the intention for best practice is assured.

29/05/2026
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Gotta love a bit of Christian Walker! 🤣 ⬇️

21/05/2026

"Looking for affection from unavailable people is an act of self-harm.

And I want to be precise about what I mean by this, because I know how rough it may land:

Emotional unavailability is not a character flaw. It is not something to be judged or shamed. It simply means: this person cannot give you their full attention, presence and commitment in the way you are ready to give yours. For whatever reason (timing, healing, history, circumstance) they are simply not available for what you are available for.

And deep down, in the place you’re most afraid to look sometimes, there's a part of you that knows this.

You know they cannot be there for you the way you need them to. You know, if you are honest, that you are going to get hurt. That the more you pursue, the more it will cost you.

And no, it’s not always because they are simply horrible people—often they are pretty wonderful people—but because love without availability is a door that only opens from one side.

Continuing to knock on that door anyway is self-harming because, every time you do, you are telling yourself something that your subconscious mind and nervous system are registering as truth: that this is what you deserve. That love must look like this. That if it doesn’t hurt, it's probably not real."

—Jovanny Varela, excerpt from Gentle Reminder No 131, "Looking for affection from unavailable people is an act of self-harm:
how to clear painful love templates from the bloodline"

This may be the most vulnerably honest Gentle Reminder to date. If you're finally noticing the pattern of falling for people that are not good for you, I wrote this one for you 🫂🤍

Read the full piece: jovannyvarela.substack.com

Artwork by Henn Kim

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