Inclusive Mind and Wellbeing

Inclusive Mind and Wellbeing A compassionate, understanding, and non-judgemental integrative therapist offering face-to-face in Manchester City Centre and online nationwide.

In my 5th year of private practice, I’ve learnt how important it is to be clear on who I am and how I work best.Back in ...
02/08/2026

In my 5th year of private practice, I’ve learnt how important it is to be clear on who I am and how I work best.

Back in April, moving from Jamie Moffat Counselling to Inclusive Mind & Wellbeing Ltd felt like a natural step forward.

Over time, my approach has evolved. I wanted to move away from general counselling and focus on the areas I am most passionate about:

Childhood trauma, inner child healing, abuse recovery, relationship support, and self-worth.

Focusing here also means I get to create, write and share insights on social media about the topics I care most about.

Every piece of content starts with my thoughts and experience, speaking human-to-human in plain language rather than heavy psychology jargon.

While I use AI as a digital assistant to help organise drafts, design graphics, and catch my typos (my spelling and grammar are terrible!! 💀), the core message is always from my heart (who knows... one day I might even build up the courage to start making reels! 😅)

“Inclusive” isn’t just a label; it’s my foundation. My door is open to everyone, regardless of gender, sexuality, culture, or background. You are welcome here exactly as you are.

To support this focus, I’m currently completing my EMDR training (I will qualify in October 2026). EMDR uses side-to-side eye movements or subtle taps to help the brain process traumatic memories.

While core talking therapy remains central to my work, qualifying in EMDR will give me another powerful way to work through deep-seated trauma.

This change also comes as I expand to work with international clients and provide workplace wellbeing support for businesses across the UK and EU.

The structure behind the scenes looks a little different, but my commitment to offering an accepting and compassionate space remains exactly the same.

I am blessed every day to do this work.

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For generations, we’ve been taught that forgiving the person who hurt or betrayed us is the only way to heal.This puts p...
29/07/2026

For generations, we’ve been taught that forgiving the person who hurt or betrayed us is the only way to heal.

This puts pressure on the person who was harmed.

It leaves you sitting with anger, resentment, and a deep sense of injustice asking yourself, “Why on earth should I forgive someone who hurt and betrayed me time and time again?”

I’ve witnessed so many clients riddled with guilt and shame because of this belief.

It often causes far more harm than good, landing as a deep invalidation.

The truth is, if forgiving the perpetrator feels too heavy or out of reach, that is okay.

Healing from broken trust and betrayal is a painful process that cannot be bypassed instantly by forgiving the other person.

Instead, focus on giving yourself the compassion, grace, and forgiveness you deserved all along for what you had to live through, because you didn’t deserve to go through that.

If this resonated with you, feel free to save this post or pass it along to someone who might need to hear it.

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Something that comes up in my therapy room time and time again with survivors of abusive relationships is this: somethin...
22/07/2026

Something that comes up in my therapy room time and time again with survivors of abusive relationships is this:

something in their gut told them early on in the relationship that something wasn’t quite right about their partner.

What this usually means is that their partner’s words and actions didn’t align.

It’s the person who describes themselves as a “nice guy” or a “good person,” but then mistreats people around them, or the classic red flag of being rude and cruel to waiting staff on a date.

In the early stages of dating, mixed signals aren’t a riddle to solve, they’re a boundary to set for yourself that could save you years of betrayal and heartbreak.

When someone’s behaviour and words don’t align, your body senses it long before your mind catches up.

That sinking feeling in your stomach, your chest tightening, a sudden racing heart, or non-stop overthinking, these aren’t random.

They are warning signs from your nervous system telling you that you are not safe around this person.

You don’t need to spend hours, days, weeks, or years analysing someone’s behaviour and waiting for them to change. Consistency doesn’t require an interpreter.

When the pattern is clear, trust what your gut is telling you. Walk, run, block, ignore. Do whatever you need to do to get the hell out of there!

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Gosh, that phrase takes me back.For decades, these phrases have been used to minimise the power of words, simply because...
17/07/2026

Gosh, that phrase takes me back.

For decades, these phrases have been used to minimise the power of words, simply because there are no physical wounds. This is a myth.

Whilst broken bones or physical wounds take months to heal, the emotional scars of feeling worthless, stupid, unlovable, ugly, or weak can take decades to challenge.

These words are so damaging because they minimise your pain and leave you feeling invalidated.

They cause you to second-guess yourself, constantly questioning and doubting whether you are being too sensitive or too much.

These words condition you to be silent or to make yourself smaller, instead of learning to speak up, be assertive, and set boundaries.

Over time, other people’s harmful words become your own beliefs and reality, leading you to be self-critical and giving you a distorted sense of self.

But your emotional pain is just as real, and just as valid, as any physical injury.

My goodness, if I could go back to my younger self and give myself a big hug when I heard these words being said to me at school.

Give your inner child the validation you need today. What is one thing you needed to hear when you were younger that you can tell yourself right now?

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In a profession where professional boundaries are to be followed, being a blank slate for clients creates a narrative th...
05/07/2026

In a profession where professional boundaries are to be followed, being a blank slate for clients creates a narrative that isn’t real.

It can cause therapists to be perceived as perfect, which could not be any further from the truth.

When people ask why I became a therapist, I usually say something quite generic, such as: “I do this profession because I like to help others.”

But the honest truth is much more human. When I was 12, I survived a severe assault that left me hospitalised and deeply traumatised.

It was a difficult, dark, and overwhelming time for me. But having therapy in my teens completely changed my trajectory.

It taught me how to process trauma from a young age and showed me how to rebuild.

I’m not sharing this to make this space about me. I share it because I want others to know that I am a human being with real-life experience.

I know what it feels like to be broken, and I know exactly how hard it can be to heal.

Because of my own traumatic incident, I am a massive ally for therapy and always have been since I was very young.

You don’t need a perfect therapist. You need a human being who is real and understands pain.

I’m curious to hear: what do other therapists say when they’re asked why they chose this profession?

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I am passionate about creating spaces where everyone feels safe, seen, and celebrated for exactly who they are at Inclus...
24/06/2026

I am passionate about creating spaces where everyone feels safe, seen, and celebrated for exactly who they are at Inclusive Mind & Wellbeing.

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“Why did I not leave sooner?”This is one of the most common, heartbreaking phrases I hear in the therapy room.The truth ...
11/06/2026

“Why did I not leave sooner?”

This is one of the most common, heartbreaking phrases I hear in the therapy room.

The truth about abuse is that it isn’t bad all the time. It starts with an intoxicating honeymoon phase where you are showered with love, affection, and attention, which floods your brain with dopamine and oxytocin. From the outside, it looks picture-perfect.

That is exactly why it is so confusing. When the mood shifts and the mind games, blame, rejection, abandonment, sometimes physical abuse, and cold shoulders set in, your mind goes into overdrive. You will do anything to try and bring back that loving partner you thought you had.

As this cycle repeats, it locks you into a powerful trauma bond. You become physically, mentally, and emotionally addicted to the person, regardless of how badly they treat you, with the hope that you will bring back the person they once were.

This isn’t just a metaphor. Research by Dr. Helen Fisher and Dr. Brown found that losing a toxic attachment activates the exact same brain pathways involved in co***ne and he**in withdrawal.

If you are a survivor, please stop blaming yourself. And if you are looking on from the outside, stop judging. Leaving isn’t a simple choice, it’s battling an addiction. This is why no-contact is the only way to break the addictive cycle of abuse.

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I have seen the word “limerence” floating around social media for some time now, and I’ve learned that it is an intense ...
31/05/2026

I have seen the word “limerence” floating around social media for some time now, and I’ve learned that it is an intense infatuation you have with another person. Limerence can cause intrusive thoughts, making it difficult to concentrate and focus on daily tasks.

It is an emotional rollercoaster where your mood depends entirely on another person’s actions or behaviour; something as small as a text or even a smile can cause euphoria, but the subtlest sign of someone pulling away can trigger a deep sense of rejection.

This causes hypervigilance, where you begin to look for signs, reading into actions or body language for hidden meanings or proof of reciprocal feelings. Limerence can also make it difficult to ignore red flags because you only see the idealised version of them created by your fantasy, making it hard to see who the person truly is.

While it creates feelings of euphoria and excitement, causing your heart to race and giving you a knot in your stomach when thinking of them or being around them, it is incredibly draining.

The Gambling Effect: If someone is being hot and cold, your brain becomes hooked on uncertainty and breadcrumbs of affection, almost like playing a game of poker; the reward floods your brain with dopamine, making you addicted to the chase.

An Emotional Escape: Limerence can strike when you are bored, lonely, or going through life changes. Living in a fantasy world is a coping mechanism that helps you escape your reality.

Old Emotional Wounds: If you have a fear of rejection or abandonment, your nervous system can mistake the high intensity and anxiety of chasing someone for love. Overanalysing every move is your way of trying to protect yourself from getting hurt.
 
In a nutshell: Limerence is a fantasy that you create of someone else which feels intoxicating because it isn’t real. It is used to distract yourself from painful emotions or because of having unmet needs.
 
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I love this quote by Dr Naomi Eisenberger and Dr Ethan Kross because it makes so much sense of why the pain of rejection...
17/05/2026

I love this quote by Dr Naomi Eisenberger and Dr Ethan Kross because it makes so much sense of why the pain of rejection can feel so overwhelming and destabilising.

When we understand that rejection affects the exact same parts of the brain as physical pain, our behaviors start to make sense. Of course we try to avoid it at all costs, because pain hurts!

That fear of pain can quietly start running our lives. It often looks like:

• Isolating ourselves from trying new hobbies or interests.

• Avoiding vulnerability or relationships.

• Feeling panic when stepping
outside of our comfort zone.

• Experiencing anxiety in social situations.

• People-pleasing to make sure everyone likes us, even at the expense of our own boundaries.

• Perfectionism, because we subconsciously believe if we are perfect, we can’t be rejected.

• Rejecting others first or cutting ties early to avoid being the one who gets hurt.

• Staying in unhealthy situations because the known discomfort feels safer than the potential rejection of leaving.

This fear of rejection is often significantly heightened for people within the LGBTQIA+ community, neurodivergent individuals, or anyone who has experienced systemic or relational rejection in childhood.

Healing starts with recognising that a fear of rejection isn’t irrational, it’s human. My gosh even I have to remind myself of this some days! Your brain is just trying to protect you from what it perceives as physical danger. Be gentle with it today.

Does knowing the science behind rejection change how you look at your own fears?

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Something that comes up a lot in my work with clients is the internal conflict between guilt and shame. For many, the li...
12/05/2026

Something that comes up a lot in my work with clients is the internal conflict between guilt and shame. For many, the lines between the two are blurred, and that confusion can lead to a really distorted sense of self.

The simplest way to look at it:
• Guilt: Feeling bad for what you have done.
• Shame: Feeling bad for who you are.

When we can’t identify which is which, we end up carrying the weight of our actions as if they are our identity. Brené Brown says that shame needs three things to grow: secrecy, silence, and judgment. The moment we speak it in a safe space, it begins to wither, which is where therapy can be helpful to heal it.

My goodness, there have been so many moments in my own therapy where I felt trapped by guilt and shame. Before therapy, many people can’t tell them apart. Therapy can help identify those moments and teach that, by sharing shame with others, it begins to lose its grip.

Which one have you been carrying lately?

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