23/05/2026
Do you ever find yourself playing it safe?
I shared a story at work about how, despite being the youngest of 7, I didn't learn conflict resolution skills, and it got me wondering how this may have affected my fear of being seen, being scared of getting something wrong and being called out for it.
I played it safe all my life not really realising why, I just knew I was scared to be me.
A few years ago I lost my job, I lost my relationship, and I lost my dad, and that really put things into perspective for me.
I knew I had to change how I saw myself once and for all.
It wasn't going to be easy and I felt petrified some days doing hard stuff, but eventually I learned that despite being so scared, it was more important for me to be true to myself in order to live boldly as me rather than to keep trying to earn approval from everyone else, knowing that their opinions had nothing to do with me.
People are gonna think and do what they wanna do whatever happens - I can't stop that.
But now I know that my worth isn't dependent on them.
I still feel scared sometimes to show up as authentic, that's just habit, but I find a way to do the thing anyway.
I'd love to know if you recognise yourself in any of this, and what you do to change your situation?
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