Amy Lasen Counselling

Amy Lasen Counselling Person Centered Counsellor. Currently accepting new clients. Manchester, UK. LGBTQIA+ Ally 🏳️‍🌈

01/09/2026

If your ADHD feels like it falls off a cliff at certain points in your cycle - you are not imagining it, and you are not getting worse at coping.
Here's what's happening.

Estrogen supports dopamine production. Dopamine is the chemical the ADHD brain is already running low on. So when oestrogen drops - before your period, postnatally, in perimenopause - the dopamine gap widens. Focus disappears. Emotional regulation goes out the window. The things that were already harder become significantly harder.

Understanding this doesn't fix it. But it does mean you can stop blaming yourself for something that was never about effort.

💬 If this is something you're navigating, I'd love to help. Free consultation link in my bio.

The content in this post is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.


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I want to be honest with you about something because I think it matters more than a polished sales pitch.I'm not the rig...
29/08/2026

I want to be honest with you about something because I think it matters more than a polished sales pitch.

I'm not the right fit for everyone. And that's okay.

I'm probably not your counsellor if you want someone to fix your ADHD. I can't do that, and anyone who says they can is selling you something.

I'm probably not your counsellor if you want a clinical, structured, homework-heavy approach. That's a valid way to work - it's just not mine.

I'm probably not your counsellor if you want to be told what to do, given a five-step plan, or sent away with a worksheet that's supposed to sort everything out by Thursday.

But if you want someone who'll sit with you in the mess without trying to tidy it up too quickly - I might be exactly right.

If you want space to figure out who you actually are underneath the masking and the coping and the years of trying to be easier for everyone else to understand - that's where I work.

Not the counsellor for everyone. Hopefully the counsellor for you.

💬 Free consultations are available, link in my bio if you'd like to find out.

The content in this post is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.


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Anything.But I know that answer isn't always helpful when you're sitting there wondering whether your thing is enough, o...
26/08/2026

Anything.

But I know that answer isn't always helpful when you're sitting there wondering whether your thing is enough, or too much, or too boring, or too messy to bring to someone else.

So here's a more honest answer.

You can talk about the relationship that's been sitting in your chest for three years. The job you can't make yourself leave. The way your brain shuts down when you have to do admin. The grief you never really processed. The version of yourself you thought you'd be by now.

You can talk about the small stuff: the conversation that's been bothering you all week. Or the big stuff, the childhood you're still untangling. Or the stuff that doesn't have a name yet, and you're hoping talking about it will help you find one.
There's no minimum requirement to bring to counselling. No threshold you have to meet. No problem, that's too ordinary.

You just have to show up. That's the whole thing.

💬 If you're wondering whether counselling might help you, the free consultation is a good place to start. Link in bio.

The content in this post is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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23/08/2026

If your ADHD symptoms feel like they completely fall off a cliff at certain points in your cycle you're not imagining it.

Here's the short version: oestrogen supports dopamine production. Dopamine is what the ADHD brain is already short on. So when oestrogen drops in the days before your period, in perimenopause, postnatally the dopamine drop hits harder. Focus goes. Emotional regulation goes. Everything that was already harder gets significantly harder.

You haven't suddenly got worse at coping. Your hormones changed the playing field.
Understanding this doesn't fix it. But it does mean you can stop blaming yourself for something that was never about effort.

💬 If this is something you're navigating, I'd love to help. Link in bio for a free consultation.
The content in this post is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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The planner. The reminders. The colour coded calendar. The second colour coded calendar because the first one wasn't wor...
20/08/2026

The planner. The reminders. The colour coded calendar. The second colour coded calendar because the first one wasn't working. The sticky notes. The app. The app you downloaded to replace the app you forgot to use.

And you still forgot the thing.

Here's what I want you to hear: that's not the systems failing. That's not you failing. That's being human with a brain that has to work harder than most to keep track of a world that produces an endless amount of things to keep track of.

ADHD doesn't mean you need a better system. It means you need to stop treating yourself like a machine that should be running without errors. Errors are part of the deal. For everyone. But especially for brains like yours.

The goal isn't a perfect system. It's a life with enough breathing room that forgetting one thing doesn't derail your whole sense of self.
That's something counselling can actually help with.

💬 Link in my bio if you'd like to find out more.
The content in this post is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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17/08/2026

I want to say this as clearly as I can. Forgetting things is not laziness. Starting something and not finishing it is not a character flaw. Being late, being loud, being too much or not enough, none of that is a reflection of your worth as a person.

ADHD is a neurological difference. It affects executive function, emotional regulation, memory, and motivation. It is not evidence that you're bad, broken, or not trying hard enough.

Most people with ADHD have been trying harder than anyone around them for their entire lives. The exhaustion you're carrying isn't from failing. It's from years of masking a neurotype that nobody bothered to explain to you.

You are not your worst days. You are not your unfinished to-do lists. You are not the things you forgot.

💬 If you need support from someone who genuinely gets this, the link to book a free consultation is in my bio.

The content in this post is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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14/08/2026

This carousel shows a very similar chat to one me and a friend have had before whilst I was training to be a counsellor. What happens in your brain when I ask you to thin about a beach?

"Wait. You actually see it? Like a real image?"

That's the moment a lot of people discover aphantasia. Not in a clinic. Not through a diagnosis. In a chat with a friend who happens to describe something differently.
You weren't doing anything wrong. Your brain just works without the screen.

💬 If you've just had your own "wait, what?" moment I'd love to hear about it in the comments. And if you want to talk to someone who actually understands this, the link's in my bio.

The content in this post is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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11/08/2026

The mistake itself is rarely the problem. It's what happens in the thirty seconds afterwards. The internal commentary that starts up. The spiral. The "I always do this." The "what is wrong with me."

For people with ADHD and AuDHD, that voice is often relentless. Because you've been told that your mistakes are more than just mistakes. That they're evidence of something. They're not.

Making mistakes is not a character flaw. It's not proof you're failing. It's just part of being a person with a brain that works differently in a world that wasn't built for it.
You're allowed to get things wrong. You're allowed to learn slowly. You're allowed to mess up the same thing twice.
Permission granted. 💛

💬 If you're carrying a lot of that weight, counselling might help you put some of it down. Link in my bio for a free consultation.

The content in this post is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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Your counsellor slides a feelings wheel across the screen and you think really? A colour coded circle is going to help m...
08/08/2026

Your counsellor slides a feelings wheel across the screen and you think really? A colour coded circle is going to help me?
Hear me out. 🙂

A lot of people especially those with ADHD, AuDHD, or a lifetime of masking and have spent so long monitoring how they appear to others that they've lost touch with how they actually feel. Not sad or happy. The real stuff underneath. The specific stuff.

Frustrated is different from humiliated. Anxious is different from overwhelmed. And when you can name the exact thing, you can actually start to work with it.
The feelings wheel isn't a gimmick. It's a way back to yourself when the words have gone quiet.

💬 If you're curious about what counselling actually looks like in practice, the link to book a free consultation is in my bio.

The content in this post is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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05/08/2026

ADHD in women often doesn't look like ADHD. And that's exactly the problem. 👀
The diagnostic criteria were built around how ADHD presents in young boys, hyperactive, disruptive, hard to miss. Women and girls are frequently none of those things.

We daydream instead of disrupting. We internalise instead of acting out. We develop coping strategies so effective that we look completely fine from the outside while running on empty on the inside.

We get told we're anxious. Sensitive. Scattered. We're handed a depression diagnosis, referred for CBT that doesn't quite work, and sent on our way.

You don't need a formal diagnosis to start making sense of how your brain works. And you don't need to have it all figured out before you ask for support.

💬 DM me or find the link in my bio. Free consultations available.

The content in this post is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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